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Topic: The Age Gap
Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 10/18/12 07:53 AM
Ok. I laughed at the original post. Seriously....why worry about what age range is good for you? You like young, fit guys. That's your deal. Go with it. It baffels me why so many worry about who they should date. You gotta figure out what you want, who you like, and all that jazz. But in the end, you'll probably end up being with a guy who doesn't fit into the whole criteria you have laid down as a foundation for who you date. Dating ain't rocket science.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 10/18/12 08:43 AM
I know it's acceptable...I'm not asking that. I'm asking what age gap "works"...when women are dating younger guys. For me; I wouldn't go past the 10 year decade for dating younger or older. To many differences once you pass the decade thing.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4742	Thu 10/18/12 10:30 AM
I have always been with guys older than myself...however as I reach 40 I still find I'm attracted to young fit guys while guys my age or older seem, well old. Leaving adide "love can conquer all" what age gaps between couples do you think can work? I'm puzzling over whether to date guys 30 and younger. Providing when you date you are not thinking about the age difference between you then it doesn,t matter, if you are concerned about it, then may be you are dating someone outside your comfort zone. Age difference matters only when you think it does in my opinion, what works for one person does not work for someone else, whom we date is our own personal choice.

lionsbrew Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 14232	Thu 10/18/12 11:46 AM
Ive said it in a few other topics like this one. 4 years in either direction is my limit.jmo

Mikey117 Joined Mon 11/20/06 Posts: 23736	Thu 10/18/12 11:52 AM
Im seeing a lady 20 some years younger than me and the time we spend together is Awesume!!! But we both share the same illness and that brought us together but when we spent our first 10 days together we realized it was real and true!!

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 10/18/12 12:35 PM
I know it's acceptable...I'm not asking that. I'm asking what age gap "works"...when women are dating younger guys. For me; I wouldn't go past the 10 year decade for dating younger or older. To many differences once you pass the decade thing. I think you should change that number to plus or minus 13.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 10/18/12 12:50 PM
I know it's acceptable...I'm not asking that. I'm asking what age gap "works"...when women are dating younger guys. For me; I wouldn't go past the 10 year decade for dating younger or older. To many differences once you pass the decade thing. I think you should change that number to plus or minus 13. Very subtle hint there goofball.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 10/18/12 01:13 PM
I know it's acceptable...I'm not asking that. I'm asking what age gap "works"...when women are dating younger guys. For me; I wouldn't go past the 10 year decade for dating younger or older. To many differences once you pass the decade thing. I think you should change that number to plus or minus 13. Very subtle hint there goofball. I'm smooth like that!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 10/18/12 01:18 PM
I know it's acceptable...I'm not asking that. I'm asking what age gap "works"...when women are dating younger guys. For me; I wouldn't go past the 10 year decade for dating younger or older. To many differences once you pass the decade thing. I think you should change that number to plus or minus 13. Very subtle hint there goofball. I'm smooth like that! Of that I have no doubt. Lucky will be the gal that gets you.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 10/18/12 01:25 PM
I know it's acceptable...I'm not asking that. I'm asking what age gap "works"...when women are dating younger guys. For me; I wouldn't go past the 10 year decade for dating younger or older. To many differences once you pass the decade thing. I think you should change that number to plus or minus 13. Very subtle hint there goofball. I'm smooth like that! Of that I have no doubt. Lucky will be the gal that gets you. You are most kind my friend. But the girl that gets me will probably kill me after two months of having me.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 10/18/12 01:52 PM
I know it's acceptable...I'm not asking that. I'm asking what age gap "works"...when women are dating younger guys. For me; I wouldn't go past the 10 year decade for dating younger or older. To many differences once you pass the decade thing. I think you should change that number to plus or minus 13. Very subtle hint there goofball. I'm smooth like that! Of that I have no doubt. Lucky will be the gal that gets you. You are most kind my friend. But the girl that gets me will probably kill me after two months of having me. Nah not you. You are wise beyond your years my friend. You should believe in yourself as I do.

Unknow Joined Thu 01/05/12 Posts: 241	Sat 10/20/12 10:42 AM
When a much older man dates a younger woman, nobody raises an eyebrow. But when a younger man starts dating an older woman, it becomes an issue. Relationships and dating should be based exclusively on the maturity and understanding of the partners and not the age between them. Its time we open our eyes to reality and stop judging.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 10/20/12 10:48 AM
When a much older man dates a younger woman, nobody raises an eyebrow. But when a younger man starts dating an older woman, it becomes an issue. Relationships and dating should be based exclusively on the maturity and understanding of the partners and not the age between them. Its time we open our eyes to reality and stop judging. I think there is a 'general' developmental difference in how women and men mature again, not an absolute but because we think of women as maturing faster, it seems easier to believe an old man may still only be at the level of a young woman in terms of maturity than it is to believe an old woman is at the maturity level of a young man

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Sat 10/20/12 11:53 AM
It depends on your mindset. Your preferences. This is why dating sites have age filters, so that you can choose which age you want to date. Nobody can decide it for you.

Unknow Joined Thu 01/05/12 Posts: 241	Sun 10/21/12 02:12 PM
When a much older man dates a younger woman, nobody raises an eyebrow. But when a younger man starts dating an older woman, it becomes an issue. Relationships and dating should be based exclusively on the maturity and understanding of the partners and not the age between them. Its time we open our eyes to reality and stop judging. I think there is a 'general' developmental difference in how women and men mature again, not an absolute but because we think of women as maturing faster, it seems easier to believe an old man may still only be at the level of a young woman in terms of maturity than it is to believe an old woman is at the maturity level of a young man I think its a myth believing women mature faster than men. Puberty maybe.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sun 10/21/12 03:03 PM Edited by msharmony on Sun 10/21/12 03:04 PM
When a much older man dates a younger woman, nobody raises an eyebrow. But when a younger man starts dating an older woman, it becomes an issue. Relationships and dating should be based exclusively on the maturity and understanding of the partners and not the age between them. Its time we open our eyes to reality and stop judging. I think there is a 'general' developmental difference in how women and men mature again, not an absolute but because we think of women as maturing faster, it seems easier to believe an old man may still only be at the level of a young woman in terms of maturity than it is to believe an old woman is at the maturity level of a young man I think its a myth believing women mature faster than men. Puberty maybe. it depends upon culture in western culture, men are only expected to have a job (with pay) in most instances and to OWN things,, (a car, a home, a wife),, and otherwise do what they want women, on the other hand, are expected to be family caretaker and housemaker (jobs without pay), bring in income, be attractive (own things to make them attractive, clothes, accessories, etc) and otherwise put what they want behind being there for family and home in western culture, men are not generally nurtured to be mature beyond valuing the ability to have an income women are generally nurtured to value themself more by how men view them and the ability to care for others besides themself,,,emotionally and physically(instead of just financially) we put alot more responsibility in general on women, alot sooner,, which is why they are generally more 'mature' IMHO

Unknow Joined Thu 01/05/12 Posts: 241	Sun 10/21/12 10:12 PM
When a much older man dates a younger woman, nobody raises an eyebrow. But when a younger man starts dating an older woman, it becomes an issue. Relationships and dating should be based exclusively on the maturity and understanding of the partners and not the age between them. Its time we open our eyes to reality and stop judging. I think there is a 'general' developmental difference in how women and men mature again, not an absolute but because we think of women as maturing faster, it seems easier to believe an old man may still only be at the level of a young woman in terms of maturity than it is to believe an old woman is at the maturity level of a young man I think its a myth believing women mature faster than men. Puberty maybe. it depends upon culture in western culture, men are only expected to have a job (with pay) in most instances and to OWN things,, (a car, a home, a wife),, and otherwise do what they want women, on the other hand, are expected to be family caretaker and housemaker (jobs without pay), bring in income, be attractive (own things to make them attractive, clothes, accessories, etc) and otherwise put what they want behind being there for family and home in western culture, men are not generally nurtured to be mature beyond valuing the ability to have an income women are generally nurtured to value themself more by how men view them and the ability to care for others besides themself,,,emotionally and physically(instead of just financially) we put alot more responsibility in general on women, alot sooner,, which is why they are generally more 'mature' IMHO I guess that point is valid when you view it through the perspective of the Western culture. I guess its a whole lot different when you look at it from the viewpoint of other cultures in Asia, Africa and the Middle East. Men are generally perceived to be more mature and women are seen to not know what they really want. However, i believe maturity differs from individual to individual and there's really no yardstick to categorize.

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Sun 10/21/12 11:00 PM
If you met someone that was fun, interesting, intelligent and attractive why would age even be a factor?

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Sun 10/21/12 11:44 PM
I don't think there is a set age limit? I think if you are comfortable then you should not worry about what other people think about it. Seriously, you are not going to be able to please everyone in your life..so worry about pleasing yourself. If you are comfortable dating someone that is 10-15 years younger..go for it. If you only can go 5 years younger and feel good about it, then do that. You should not have to answer to anyone...you pay your bills so do your own thing!!! I know I see people my age and they look so old to me, so I do date younger. I have dated older one time...I prefer dating younger and it works out good for me! I do what I want and I don't worry about what anyone thinks or says. I pay my bills..they don't!! GOOD LUCK

Wwroger Joined Sun 07/22/12 Posts: 4	Mon 10/22/12 08:59 PM
What a dumb question - a numerical value makes it right or not right? Within limits, it really has to be based upon fertility, needyness, inadequacy, codependance, immaturity, the need to breed, or what happens to be convenient.