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Some men are so hot, it's worth a few extra dates just make sure they don't have a personality, then I bail. Bt if they aren't that hot to begin with then no second date necessary
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Humans are very visual animals our eyesight is probably the most advanced of all our senses. There has to be attraction there if not your just hanging out with a friend.
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Sometimes I feel fustrated because the guys I think are extremely good looking and don't want to go out with me at all but the guys that I don't want to come looking for me are the ones who want me the most....No offence or anything, it's just why can't the guy I think is hot contact me? lol Found a guy I instantly got attracted to but he said he's not ready for a relationship yet even though he's 35...Does anyone know what I should do? Try the big three... make them "jealous" by telling them how attractive each guy is who walks by your table, or just give the walk-bies a long, hungry look as they walk by ...two, make them feel you are hot like gold, by telling them some celebrity names you've dated in the past, and pull out retouched photos of yourself with Blicknutz Zellweggler, Rudi Zollwaggler, and Arnold Einsteinzweiger. ... thee, the kino. I have no clue what that means. About time you did some of your own homework and researched what kino means, and report your findings back to the class. |
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Some men are so hot, it's worth a few extra dates just make sure they don't have a personality, then I bail. Bt if they aren't that hot to begin with then no second date necessary Or first date, fort hat matter. I think pictures are the bain of all ugly people everywhere. We can lie, but a picture can't. Since I learned this, I don't lie, either, and I stopped getting laid. You see, if you lie, you get to first date, and some women are so out of it, because they are high, or wholesomely depressed, or on medication, that they screw the ugly guy as if he were good looking. Maybe I should go back to lying, to get lied. Laid. Laid, not lied, I mean. |
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Humans are very visual animals our eyesight is probably the most advanced of all our senses. There has to be attraction there if not your just hanging out with a friend. Absolutely. Some of us humans have to wear dark shades to make everyone stop look so damm irresistible. Otherwise we would constantly just let it hang out. Consciously chosen, self-chosen and self-imposed self denial is a human trait, practiced only by one other species, dogs, and we learned them that trick too. |
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I don't see any reason for a second date if there aren't any sparks. This kind of thing cannot be forced. Try a diesel engine... no sparks, and better mileage. |
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Edited by
wux
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Thu 10/18/12 05:26 PM
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"A spark" was just a term invented by boys out there who wanna justify "being interested." Its really simple. You know who you are and what you want and it terrifies people to no end. To me, a spark is instantaneous lust, which the mind reforms into fantasies or incredible compatibility. The process is almost completely effortless. This is never in Human Nature PHI101 classes, but this should be the first on the curriculum of any psych or philosophy programme of study. |
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Edited by
wux
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Thu 10/18/12 05:31 PM
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Sometimes I feel fustrated because the guys I think are extremely good looking and don't want to go out with me at all but the guys that I don't want to come looking for me are the ones who want me the most....No offence or anything, it's just why can't the guy I think is hot contact me? lol Found a guy I instantly got attracted to but he said he's not ready for a relationship yet even though he's 35...Does anyone know what I should do? don't try to force a committed relationship. if you start a friends with benefits or even just a friends only kind of thing with him, your heart will be in deeper than your head can pull you out of keep looking  This is so true!! This is the truest similarity between love and a toilet bowl that you dropped your phone into, which you attempt to pick out, and you are myopic. |
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 agreed, the ones with the most sparks are bringing their best to the table upfront, from there it's all downhill.  Use the sparkies as personal ski lifts in Aspen. |
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I've noticed that the great majority of women I date seem to think that if there are no sparks right off the bat,Well, No use for a second date. Most I've dated seem to be opposite of what this article says we should be. http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=11356&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1370696 There is no definite on where the spark comes from but I fully believe it is chemical. We have things happening with our bodies that we are not aware of. Our sense of smell is going on. For me voice is a big trigger, a certain deepness to it seems to send me over the edge. I do know that this instant attraction is not love nor is it the indication that a relationship even needs to happen. But it appears to make sex awesome. 
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Sometimes I feel frustrated because the guys I think are extremely good looking and don't want to go out with me at all but the guys that I don't want to come looking for me are the ones who want me the most....No offense or anything, it's just why can't the guy I think is hot contact me? lol Found a guy I instantly got attracted to but he said he's not ready for a relationship yet even though he's 35...Does anyone know what I should do? No offense intended here. But sounds like another case of "I don't want what I can attract" syndrome. But then again, You're only 19. Most likely you have no idea what you really want. I don't know, I must be an odd ball. I've been dating since I was 16. Had my first sexual experience when I was 17 with a 38 yr old woman. I learned a lot from her that year. In all these yrs I have never been physically attracted to a woman right off the bat. The first date, I know whether I like her or not. But as far as attraction or sparks,NEVER on the first date. Maybe I'm missing something. I can't understand people being that way. I give myself time to try to get to know the person as well as I can first. I guess I'm careful with people. I don't "trust" really quick. It takes some time for me to trust someone. Some of it comes from life experiences. Some of it comes from working in security all these years. I've seen how people can hide who they really are. Also, With the way a lot of people now want to start being sexual no later than the 5th date,All the sick minded people running around out there sleeping with different people and giving them "bugs" that Comet will not wash off. (AIDS) It's just made it harder for me to allow myself to be "instant" anything with anybody. Much less attracted right off the bat. I want to date for a while. Give me time to see the person for who they really are before I allow myself to fall for them in any fashion. |
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Sometimes I feel frustrated because the guys I think are extremely good looking and don't want to go out with me at all but the guys that I don't want to come looking for me are the ones who want me the most....No offense or anything, it's just why can't the guy I think is hot contact me? lol Found a guy I instantly got attracted to but he said he's not ready for a relationship yet even though he's 35...Does anyone know what I should do? No offense intended here. But sounds like another case of "I don't want what I can attract" syndrome. But then again, You're only 19. Most likely you have no idea what you really want. I don't know, I must be an odd ball. I've been dating since I was 16. Had my first sexual experience when I was 17 with a 38 yr old woman. I learned a lot from her that year. In all these yrs I have never been physically attracted to a woman right off the bat. The first date, I know whether I like her or not. But as far as attraction or sparks,NEVER on the first date. Maybe I'm missing something. I can't understand people being that way. I give myself time to try to get to know the person as well as I can first. I guess I'm careful with people. I don't "trust" really quick. It takes some time for me to trust someone. Some of it comes from life experiences. Some of it comes from working in security all these years. I've seen how people can hide who they really are. Also, With the way a lot of people now want to start being sexual no later than the 5th date,All the sick minded people running around out there sleeping with different people and giving them "bugs" that Comet will not wash off. (AIDS) It's just made it harder for me to allow myself to be "instant" anything with anybody. Much less attracted right off the bat. I want to date for a while. Give me time to see the person for who they really are before I allow myself to fall for them in any fashion. Hmmm. I agree with you on this. I try to learn from my bad experiences and not jump into a relationship with someone just bc I'm attracted to him. Sparks are momentary. I personally, do not go by sparks as a way to justify dating a person. As a more cautious person these days, I will get to know the person first through friendship and make note of our communication style to see if we are compatible. Any fool can put on a show and make himself look good on a first date to reel in potential partners. Then again, everyone has his or her own preferences on how they choose their dates and eventual mates. I guess a young person can take what he/she can or wants from advices given to them by others. Or, he/she can make those relationship ‘mistakes’ and and perhaps grow from those experiences. |
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(Humans) Men folk are very visual animals our eyesight is probably the (most) more or less advanced of all our senses. There has to be attraction there if not your just hanging out with a friend. Here, fixed it for ya. Attraction is a different definition for all peeps, whatever that is, draws you into that person. Totally agree. |
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I actually thought men react to what they see and women react to what they hear
probably much more common for a man to drool over a ditzy bombshell than for a woman to drool over a ditzy hunk women probably are given less crap by men for being ,, less than intelligent then men are given when women think they are without substance |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Mon 10/22/12 04:00 PM
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I actually thought men react to what they see and women react to what they hear probably much more common for a man to drool over a ditzy bombshell than for a woman to drool over a ditzy hunk women probably are given less crap by men for being ,, less than intelligent then men are given when women think they are without substance For me its that gut instinct, or women's intuition. I get vibes when I meet people right off the bat and I don't have to get to know them to know I don't like them. Its sort of like a spidy sense and mine is very strong. Kind of freaks me out but I have learned to trust that sense. Now if only I could get a sense of the winning lottery numbers. 
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hello there new to the site how are you
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hi there not sure how this works or if your getting these
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hello there new to the site how are you Who the heck are you talking to? |
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I actually thought men react to what they see and women react to what they hear probably much more common for a man to drool over a ditzy bombshell than for a woman to drool over a ditzy hunk women probably are given less crap by men for being ,, less than intelligent then men are given when women think they are without substance For me its that gut instinct, or women's intuition. I get vibes when I meet people right off the bat and I don't have to get to know them to know I don't like them. Its sort of like a spidy sense and mine is very strong. Kind of freaks me out but I have learned to trust that sense. Now if only I could get a sense of the winning lottery numbers. If this works for you, All well and good. But it would never work for me. I don't mean this to be a slap in the face to women. It's just what I have seen over the years. I've met some very slimy women in my time. I have met many that can lie so easy and make it look like the truth. I'm sure their are men out there that are the same way. But, I can only speak of the women I have encountered over the years. I dated one not to long ago, She made herself "look" like the kind of woman I would like. She knew right off that I wasn't much of a drinker and don't like drunks or being around them. She was a drunk. She hid it very well. She knew I am not into partying. She made herself look like the type that didn't party. She tried to hide it. Without going into a whole big spill,I gave it time. Time to a lot of people is like a rope. You give them enough rope and they hang themselves. The truth comes out. If I had done like most do now, I would have been all attracted to her,Slept with her and maybe even moved in with her by the end of the month. Before I found out she was a drunk,lier and a fake. I wish more men were like me. Use their big head more than their little one. (:o) |
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hello there new to the site how are you Who the heck are you talking to? You Hot Stuff, You look like Hilary Duff! 
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