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hello there new to the site how are you  Who the heck are you talking to?  You Hot Stuff, You look like Hilary Duff!   Was thinking the same thing. 
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I've noticed that the great majority of women I date seem to think that if there are no sparks right off the bat,Well, No use for a second date. Most I've dated seem to be opposite of what this article says we should be. http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=11356&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1370696 If there's absolutely no attraction - mentally or physically, it's tough to go on a second or third date. Sooner or later a guys gonna want (at least) a kiss and if that's not happening, it's unfair to lead him on. JMO. |
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Sometimes I feel fustrated because the guys I think are extremely good looking and don't want to go out with me at all but the guys that I don't want to come looking for me are the ones who want me the most....No offence or anything, it's just why can't the guy I think is hot contact me? lol Found a guy I instantly got attracted to but he said he's not ready for a relationship yet even though he's 35...Does anyone know what I should do? If you're not catching the right fish, change your bait or change your fishing hole. Be proactive! |
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I actually thought men react to what they see and women react to what they hear probably much more common for a man to drool over a ditzy bombshell than for a woman to drool over a ditzy hunk women probably are given less crap by men for being ,, less than intelligent then men are given when women think they are without substance For me its that gut instinct, or women's intuition. I get vibes when I meet people right off the bat and I don't have to get to know them to know I don't like them. Its sort of like a spidy sense and mine is very strong. Kind of freaks me out but I have learned to trust that sense. Now if only I could get a sense of the winning lottery numbers. If this works for you, All well and good. But it would never work for me. I don't mean this to be a slap in the face to women. It's just what I have seen over the years. I've met some very slimy women in my time. I have met many that can lie so easy and make it look like the truth. I'm sure their are men out there that are the same way. But, I can only speak of the women I have encountered over the years. I dated one not to long ago, She made herself "look" like the kind of woman I would like. She knew right off that I wasn't much of a drinker and don't like drunks or being around them. She was a drunk. She hid it very well. She knew I am not into partying. She made herself look like the type that didn't party. She tried to hide it. Without going into a whole big spill,I gave it time. Time to a lot of people is like a rope. You give them enough rope and they hang themselves. The truth comes out. If I had done like most do now, I would have been all attracted to her,Slept with her and maybe even moved in with her by the end of the month. Before I found out she was a drunk,lier and a fake. I wish more men were like me. Use their big head more than their little one. (:o) I have no doubt there are slimy people in both sexes but it has nothing to do with how I sense people. I just know if a person is worth my time or not just by meeting them once. I may not know why I don't like them but something inside of me screams stay away from them. I have been 100% on those gut feelings. Maybe I am just sensitive to bad people. I tried to ignore those feelings and give the guy a chance but turned out in each case they were abusive or had an addiction. I quite like having these feelings now as it saves me a whole lot of time and a whole lot of pain; and I do mean physical pain as well as mental pain. |
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hello there new to the site how are you Who the heck are you talking to? You Hot Stuff, You look like Hilary Duff! You are too funny. 
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From reading this thread and personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that most men will give a woman more chance than the woman will the man. Women seem to have this "magical" sense I guess you can call it that men don't seem to have.
Women can tell within the first few min of the first date whether they will go out with this guy again. Most men I know don't have that "magical sense". Most I know usually go out with a woman a few times before they write her off. Difference between men and women I guess? |
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From reading this thread and personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that most men will give a woman more chance than the woman will the man. Women seem to have this "magical" sense I guess you can call it that men don't seem to have. Women can tell within the first few min of the first date whether they will go out with this guy again. Most men I know don't have that "magical sense". Most I know usually go out with a woman a few times before they write her off. Difference between men and women I guess? We do, sometimes we like to think of it as being forthcoming with our feelings. The magical feeling is accountability. Men are just really bad at saying how they feel without sounding gay. Or rather what they hear from other penises smaller than theirs. This lie has been told by a guy's (retarded) friends, fathers and grandfathers alike. Take it from a Scorpio, having feelings, even bad ones is a turn on. |
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From reading this thread and personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that most men will give a woman more chance than the woman will the man. Women seem to have this "magical" sense I guess you can call it that men don't seem to have. Women can tell within the first few min of the first date whether they will go out with this guy again. Most men I know don't have that "magical sense". Most I know usually go out with a woman a few times before they write her off. Difference between men and women I guess? I think you generalize too much. It's going to be different for everyone. Some men will give women a chance, even if there's no spark at first, just as some women will do the same. Some won't. You can't generalize about all men or all women in this case. |
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I actually thought men react to what they see and women react to what they hear probably much more common for a man to drool over a ditzy bombshell than for a woman to drool over a ditzy hunk women probably are given less crap by men for being ,, less than intelligent then men are given when women think they are without substance For me its that gut instinct, or women's intuition. I get vibes when I meet people right off the bat and I don't have to get to know them to know I don't like them. Its sort of like a spidy sense and mine is very strong. Kind of freaks me out but I have learned to trust that sense. Now if only I could get a sense of the winning lottery numbers. If this works for you, All well and good. But it would never work for me. I don't mean this to be a slap in the face to women. It's just what I have seen over the years. I've met some very slimy women in my time. I have met many that can lie so easy and make it look like the truth. I'm sure their are men out there that are the same way. But, I can only speak of the women I have encountered over the years. I dated one not to long ago, She made herself "look" like the kind of woman I would like. She knew right off that I wasn't much of a drinker and don't like drunks or being around them. She was a drunk. She hid it very well. She knew I am not into partying. She made herself look like the type that didn't party. She tried to hide it. Without going into a whole big spill,I gave it time. Time to a lot of people is like a rope. You give them enough rope and they hang themselves. The truth comes out. If I had done like most do now, I would have been all attracted to her,Slept with her and maybe even moved in with her by the end of the month. Before I found out she was a drunk,lier and a fake. I wish more men were like me. Use their big head more than their little one. (:o) What's a drunk to you? How little does she have to drink for you not to consider her a drunk, since you're not a drinker? A guy contacted me recently who did not like bars or drinking. That meant he expected any women who went out with him to never go to bars and to never drink. He considered anyone who drank as being a drunk. |
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From reading this thread and personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that most men will give a woman more chance than the woman will the man. Women seem to have this "magical" sense I guess you can call it that men don't seem to have. Women can tell within the first few min of the first date whether they will go out with this guy again. Most men I know don't have that "magical sense". Most I know usually go out with a woman a few times before they write her off. Difference between men and women I guess? Well; I can tell you I don't do it to be nasty but my gut feelings are always right. I know within 5 minutes of meeting someone that they aren't right for me. What is the point of giving a guy a second chance when I know deep down there is nothing between us. |
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http://youtu.be/vEjUQ15lyzk
What in the world you thinking of? Laughin in the face of love? What in earth you tryin to do? It's up to you! Yeah you! 
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I actually thought men react to what they see and women react to what they hear probably much more common for a man to drool over a ditzy bombshell than for a woman to drool over a ditzy hunk women probably are given less crap by men for being ,, less than intelligent then men are given when women think they are without substance For me its that gut instinct, or women's intuition. I get vibes when I meet people right off the bat and I don't have to get to know them to know I don't like them. Its sort of like a spidy sense and mine is very strong. Kind of freaks me out but I have learned to trust that sense. Now if only I could get a sense of the winning lottery numbers. If this works for you, All well and good. But it would never work for me. I don't mean this to be a slap in the face to women. It's just what I have seen over the years. I've met some very slimy women in my time. I have met many that can lie so easy and make it look like the truth. I'm sure their are men out there that are the same way. But, I can only speak of the women I have encountered over the years. I dated one not to long ago, She made herself "look" like the kind of woman I would like. She knew right off that I wasn't much of a drinker and don't like drunks or being around them. She was a drunk. She hid it very well. She knew I am not into partying. She made herself look like the type that didn't party. She tried to hide it. Without going into a whole big spill,I gave it time. Time to a lot of people is like a rope. You give them enough rope and they hang themselves. The truth comes out. If I had done like most do now, I would have been all attracted to her,Slept with her and maybe even moved in with her by the end of the month. Before I found out she was a drunk,lier and a fake. I wish more men were like me. Use their big head more than their little one. (:o) What's a drunk to you? How little does she have to drink for you not to consider her a drunk, since you're not a drinker? A guy contacted me recently who did not like bars or drinking. That meant he expected any women who went out with him to never go to bars and to never drink. He considered anyone who drank as being a drunk. Well, I'll explain it this way. I take a little wine ever once in a while. Maybe a beer. But, In my 50 yrs of being on this earth I've never been drunk. To me, Drunks are obnoxious. So, To be able to be around a drunk you just about have to be one to. Since I'm not a drunk, I don't hang around with drunks. Now, If you are the type that can rule the spirits and not let the spirits rule you, Then we might can get along. But, If you can't turn up one without wanting to turn up two, then two more. Then another one, and another until you have yourself so gassed that you don't even know which way is up, You wake up the next day feeling like your head is the size of a ripe water melon with a bell ringing in it.You feel like someone is trying to beat their way out with a hammer, You turn around later on and do it again with the same or worse outcome. You're a drunk. I don't want to be around that type of person. Neither do I want to hitch my wagon to someone like that. Some people instead of dealing with their addiction will try to hide it. Some refuse to do anything about it. The bottle means more than you do. That's pretty much the way the woman I was speaking of is. Or better yet, Was. She is dead now. The bottle got her. And while it was at it,It got someone who didn't deserve to die in such a bad way. So yes, I'll say it, I'm a little tight about this. If I date a woman and I see she drinks a little to much, I'm not going to be around very long. |
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From reading this thread and personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that most men will give a woman more chance than the woman will the man. Women seem to have this "magical" sense I guess you can call it that men don't seem to have. Women can tell within the first few min of the first date whether they will go out with this guy again. Most men I know don't have that "magical sense". Most I know usually go out with a woman a few times before they write her off. Difference between men and women I guess? I think you generalize too much. It's going to be different for everyone. Some men will give women a chance, even if there's no spark at first, just as some women will do the same. Some won't. You can't generalize about all men or all women in this case. I think you need to read a little closer. I didn't "generalize" about anything. I said, From reading this thread and personal experience That's not a generalization,It's the truth. |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Wed 10/31/12 01:59 PM
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I believe in "Sparks" right off the bat or probably not anything
serious going to develop with the man. I did not read the article. Usually, I go by how I feel when I meet the guy in person. Actually, I have to have a "Spark" online to even meet in person. Unlike many others on dating sites.lol |
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From reading this thread and personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that most men will give a woman more chance than the woman will the man. Women seem to have this "magical" sense I guess you can call it that men don't seem to have. Women can tell within the first few min of the first date whether they will go out with this guy again. Most men I know don't have that "magical sense". Most I know usually go out with a woman a few times before they write her off. Difference between men and women I guess? Please don't take this in the wrong way but do you think that these men give these girls a second chance even when there is no spark because its more out of desperation? Maybe they need a woman so badly that they will try anything to get her; or maybe they want sex that badly. Just throwing that out there for thought. |
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ok dump that link in the nearest receptacle.............
I know what im lookin for....for me it takes a little while...not to long...to know if your right for me...thats just me...every woman is different! 
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From reading this thread and personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that most men will give a woman more chance than the woman will the man. Women seem to have this "magical" sense I guess you can call it that men don't seem to have. Women can tell within the first few min of the first date whether they will go out with this guy again. Most men I know don't have that "magical sense". Most I know usually go out with a woman a few times before they write her off. Difference between men and women I guess? Please don't take this in the wrong way but do you think that these men give these girls a second chance even when there is no spark because its more out of desperation? Maybe they need a woman so badly that they will try anything to get her; or maybe they want sex that badly. Just throwing that out there for thought. Of course it's the sex. No question there. Men know this too. Only few will admit it though. |
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From reading this thread and personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that most men will give a woman more chance than the woman will the man. Women seem to have this "magical" sense I guess you can call it that men don't seem to have. Women can tell within the first few min of the first date whether they will go out with this guy again. Most men I know don't have that "magical sense". Most I know usually go out with a woman a few times before they write her off. Difference between men and women I guess? Please don't take this in the wrong way but do you think that these men give these girls a second chance even when there is no spark because its more out of desperation? Maybe they need a woman so badly that they will try anything to get her; or maybe they want sex that badly. Just throwing that out there for thought. Of course it's the sex. No question there. Men know this too. Only few will admit it though. I thought I would give the guys/the poster the benefit of the doubt. |
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http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=11356&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1370696 I misread , you are referring specifically to dates I personally believe, just like a great first impression can end up being JUST an impression and not at all what you end up with a bad first impression, or lack of sparks, may also be just a bad day which I dont begrudge anyone from having(depending upon how poorly they behave of course) I dont have to have 'sparks' on a first date, I just have to not be turned off or disgusted,,, 
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From reading this thread and personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that most men will give a woman more chance than the woman will the man. Women seem to have this "magical" sense I guess you can call it that men don't seem to have. Women can tell within the first few min of the first date whether they will go out with this guy again. Most men I know don't have that "magical sense". Most I know usually go out with a woman a few times before they write her off. Difference between men and women I guess? Please don't take this in the wrong way but do you think that these men give these girls a second chance even when there is no spark because its more out of desperation? Maybe they need a woman so badly that they will try anything to get her; or maybe they want sex that badly. Just throwing that out there for thought. I will not deny that their are a lot of men out there that are desperate and or think with their penis. Yes, To sex driven. But, On the other hand my experience has taught me that not everything happens at the blink of an eye. That includes attraction to someone. To this day I have never been full on attracted to any woman I have dated. That includes my X wife. I went out with my X wife close to a month before I finally found something about her that attracted me to her. Me personally, A woman's looks "MIGHT" get me to ask her out. It takes more than that or sex to keep me around. I've never met not one "real" man that looks or sex kept him around. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I've known a lot of men in my time. I've met all kinds. In my experience real men usually give a woman more chance than the opposite. The kind of men I know tend to look deeper and try harder in establishing relationships than their female counterparts. I know a lot of men are desperate or just looking for sex. But I also know that in a lot of cases,It's happened to me and other men I know. Within 5 min to maybe an hr or two she is writing him off. While he is just getting started. He hasn't even thought about writing her off yet. He may not be that attracted to her. But is willing to give her a chance. Right now one of my best friends is married to a woman that at one time hated his guts. She said he was one of the most unattractive men she ever met. She told me that at one time she thought he had the worst manners she had ever seen and was a all around jack a$$. She didn't even want to be in the same room with him. Much less look at him. She went out with one time for one hr and made that decision about him. Three months later she met him again. Remembered how she hated him. But that day he showed her a side of him she didn't know he had. When she saw that side of him she forgot about all that other stuff. The rest is history. Been in love with him for 16 yrs now. She wrote him off. But she got something that most of us never get. A second chance. Never write off anyone to quick. You never know. He/she may be the one for you. But writing them off to quick, You may never know. |
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