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Topic: The Kitchen, a ladies only kingdom?
msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 08/28/12 09:50 AM
I dont think 'dating' is really going to have the expectations of an actual relationship where people ahsre their home and their life. when two people are still individually responsible for providing their own wants and needs, its harder to sell that they should have any responsibility toward anyone elses I'm not talking about a first date. But yes, when people date, sometimes they go to each other's home. They share what's going on in their lives. So, it is reasonable to think someone may cook someone else dinner. absolutely at THEIR house, I would expect that THEY would be cooking if THEY invited someone to dinner but when people share a HOME and the responsibilities of that home, often they expect to split those responsibilities, and often the financial responsibilities are left to the male and the domestic to the female

JOHNN111 Joined Wed 05/13/09 Posts: 9273	Tue 08/28/12 09:54 AM
I can cook... It's in my genetics I'll clean up too! Just not crazy about supermarket shopping

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Tue 08/28/12 09:57 AM
other than the great pot of beans I make, you probably wouldn't want to eat my cooking

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 08/28/12 10:09 AM
I dont think 'dating' is really going to have the expectations of an actual relationship where people ahsre their home and their life. when two people are still individually responsible for providing their own wants and needs, its harder to sell that they should have any responsibility toward anyone elses I'm not talking about a first date. But yes, when people date, sometimes they go to each other's home. They share what's going on in their lives. So, it is reasonable to think someone may cook someone else dinner. absolutely at THEIR house, I would expect that THEY would be cooking if THEY invited someone to dinner but when people share a HOME and the responsibilities of that home, often they expect to split those responsibilities, and often the financial responsibilities are left to the male and the domestic to the female My whole point was I wouldn't think that the woman would be expected to be the sole person in the kitchen. That's all. Nothing more than that.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 08/28/12 10:16 AM
I dont think 'dating' is really going to have the expectations of an actual relationship where people ahsre their home and their life. when two people are still individually responsible for providing their own wants and needs, its harder to sell that they should have any responsibility toward anyone elses I'm not talking about a first date. But yes, when people date, sometimes they go to each other's home. They share what's going on in their lives. So, it is reasonable to think someone may cook someone else dinner. absolutely at THEIR house, I would expect that THEY would be cooking if THEY invited someone to dinner but when people share a HOME and the responsibilities of that home, often they expect to split those responsibilities, and often the financial responsibilities are left to the male and the domestic to the female My whole point was I wouldn't think that the woman would be expected to be the sole person in the kitchen. That's all. Nothing more than that. ok. I totally understand that. Im just sharing the 'other side' of what people sometimes expect when the man is the SOLE person out paying the bills, there is an extension of that partnership that leads to the woman being the SOLE person at home taking care of it,,,,

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 08/28/12 10:18 AM
ok. I totally understand that. Im just sharing the 'other side' of what people sometimes expect when the man is the SOLE person out paying the bills, there is an extension of that partnership that leads to the woman being the SOLE person at home taking care of it,,,, I wouldn't expect the man to be the only one paying the bills, either.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 08/28/12 10:22 AM
ok. I totally understand that. Im just sharing the 'other side' of what people sometimes expect when the man is the SOLE person out paying the bills, there is an extension of that partnership that leads to the woman being the SOLE person at home taking care of it,,,, I wouldn't expect the man to be the only one paying the bills, either. it would take an exceptional man for me to trust that much, but many are fortunate enough to have those men who want to and are good at financially providing so they can focus on keeping their home the way they want it I think its great when people find partnerships like that,,,

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 08/28/12 10:25 AM
ok. I totally understand that. Im just sharing the 'other side' of what people sometimes expect when the man is the SOLE person out paying the bills, there is an extension of that partnership that leads to the woman being the SOLE person at home taking care of it,,,, I wouldn't expect the man to be the only one paying the bills, either. it would take an exceptional man for me to trust that much, but many are fortunate enough to have those men who want to and are good at financially providing so they can focus on keeping their home the way they want it I think its great when people find partnerships like that,,, And that's good for those who want to live that kind of life. I could not stay home and just take care of the home, though. I'd prefer to be out working. So if I were sharing a house with someone, I'd expect us to share any chores as well.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Tue 08/28/12 10:33 AM
That reminds me... I am out of chili powder and marjoram.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45378	Tue 08/28/12 10:49 AM
The krupa has had 4 years of cooking school.. I guess I can share :-)

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Tue 08/28/12 11:06 AM
I've never been into roles. So I wouldn't do well with a man who wanted to live in a traditional household...My husband loved to cook and bake and he wouldn't have been happy if a woman tried to keep him out of the kitchen...We took turns keeping the house clean and washing clothes and mowing the lawn etc.

burgundybry Joined Mon 03/05/07 Posts: 8084	Tue 08/28/12 11:20 AM
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Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Tue 08/28/12 01:27 PM
'Director in charge of Food Affairs' I am going to get this printed out and hang it on my wall. Then I want a raise.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Tue 08/28/12 01:30 PM
Unless he's got Gordon effen Ramsey skills in the kitchen...he's not touching my cleaver.

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Tue 08/28/12 01:44 PM
I have 6 children, 4 boys, and since they have been old enough to see over the stove each has had to cook, they got to plan one meal each week and cook it, with a little help from me. The boys have never had a problem with it and can all cook their own food if they need to, even my 12 year old son can easily cook a meal and all of them enjoy cooking. So no I don;t like the idea of one person having to do it all, even though that is how my marraiges worked, or didnt work. I didnt want any of my boys leaving home and not being able to easlily cook themselves a good healthy meal. Or be able to cook one for their family. I do believe that if the women stays at home and looks after the children, then yep she would have the major role as cook, as she has the time to prepare and have everything ready, but if both are working them both need to get off their butts when they are home and run the kitchen

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Tue 08/28/12 02:52 PM
Men can be awesome cooks too.

ru469 Joined Mon 08/27/12 Posts: 4	Tue 08/28/12 03:25 PM
Hello,my name is Tom. I do most of the cooking in my household.My girlfriend says I should do it professionally but I just like to cook for us. When I was married,the ex did most of the cooking and I did the household chores.Build the house,do the lawn,take care of the cars and anything that needed to be fixed. When my kids first started coming over to my place on weekends,they were shocked that I could cook so well.I told them,"How do you think your mother learned how to cook"? This seems to be forgotten by most women because they take over certain roles in the household and we as men take the reat of them. I never forgot how to cook,I just didn't have the opportunity when I was married.I worked and she sat on her ***.The least she could do was make a meal.LOL Sincerely,Tom

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Tue 08/28/12 03:27 PM
The kitchen is not my domain. I do not like cooking anymore, after having done so forever. I seriously want a man who will do ALL the cooking.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Tue 08/28/12 06:07 PM
Actually..some of the best cooks i've come across are male. Sadly...they are taken or are gay.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Tue 08/28/12 06:31 PM
I got no problem allowing a woman to cook for me....it is nice. When I am doing the cooking....the words "get the hell out of my kitchen " WILL be said. I take pride in cooking a good meal. It makes me feel good.