Long distance is not for me.

Yes they can work, but as was said several times in this thread, for many they just don't work.

They take a lot of patience and require a lot more understanding and trust in many cases. That being said, sometimes the right person for an individual, might live across the country, or even across the globe and finding that person, makes all the struggle more often than not worth it.

In the end it comes down to your own individual mindset on how you feel about location and moving, because at the end of it all someone has to move. For many, this is just not possible or that interesting of an idea.

Perfectly stated....

I forgot something.
I have 3 long distance relationships, with women, going on right now.
I guess, it all depends on what kind of relationships you're talking about?

PS
The women are not related to me.
Fer them pervs out there.

(((Rawrr)))...I didn't know if I could do long distance, just knew I wanted to meet him...Once that happened there didn't seem to be a choice...What you asked, "Why would someone want me when he can have anyone who lives near him?"...I asked Jerry that very question and this is how he answered, "I didn't want anyone until I met you."...So there you have it That's pretty sweet :) Congrats to you both. :flower: . I've just never been in a long distance one. It's just the physical part that would be more of an obstacle. If you get my meaning. I'd be worrying that a hug from them, couldn't arrive soon enough. I'm not the type to stay behind at home if my friends want to party. I like to join em. I guess I just seeing which way seemed more convenient. I always thought that if someone or something was nearer than other ones, then I may get there quicker. Basically just speaking of near measuring it by how far.

Just wanted to add that there are a lot of migration problems. I've heard of couples from different countries moving in together. I'm not sure how some couple's get there if airport security is way stricter in some countries, and not others. Also, there's passports, laws, etc to follow. This runs through my head from time to time. That would be why I would try my best to get it all checked and noted.

Believe me when I say I am not diminishing the obstacles and the hard work that comes with LDR, they're tough...I understand exactly what you are saying and where your are coming from because I was your age once and I remember...With Jerry and me, it's a little easier because we are both retired...We can visit more frequently with out dealing with time off from work, children, etc...I don't know if I could handle this if I was younger, my daughter was still at home, and I was still working...Totally respect your take on it Rawrr...

Believe me when I say I am not diminishing the obstacles and the hard work that comes with LDR, they're tough...I understand exactly what you are saying and where your are coming from because I was your age once and I remember...With Jerry and me, it's a little easier because we are both retired...We can visit more frequently with out dealing with time off from work, children, etc...I don't know if I could handle this if I was younger, my daughter was still at home, and I was still working...Totally respect your take on it Rawrr...
:). I think ANYTHING in life can be difficult. There are ways to sort things out. I just have to know what is what, before I do :)

:). I think ANYTHING in life can be difficult. There are ways to sort things out. I just have to know what is what, before I do :)


Absolutely!...And I was going to add that ...LDR are certainly nothing to enter into lightly...You must really understand what you are getting into and you must understand each other because the potential for heartbreak is much higher in these relationships....

I agree,you want them beside you,you want them to be with you,especially when you need them the most and even when you dont need them the most.Its nice and comforting just knowing their there

Long distance is ok if you meet on a site like this,as long as its not forever.If you really feel that strongly for someone and you yearn to be with them and to start a new life with them and youve given it to God and hes given you the affirmative then it WILL happen.HE will bring you together-trust and faith...its all you'll need

yep

the queen of LDR's

hi, just want to share my experience, as i'm living since 2 years in NL and my fam traveling back and forth, mosty not here.

i had a girfriend here for 1 year. yesterday she left me. my heart is broken.
i cheated for 1 year with my wife. what a bastard? yes and no.
it's my fault for sure, but this is her house and she decided not to come here.
do i love her?... i don't know anymore, but i don't have balls to leave her.
sorry for stepping in and introducing myself this way, not my style... but i'm just a man who is falling apart...
and you probably already have judged, without knowing me
best
ale

Depends on your trust level.Actually for any kind of relationship to work trust is a must.You should be able to believe that he/she isn't skunking around

you know, is possible and is not possible. Why is my answer so neutra? Because it depend on what individual can tolorate.

I totally agree. Even if you're not religious, faith can still get you far :) I've known prayer to work quite a few times when ill and such other stuff. You have to have the faith. It does definitely help to believe in something. If you have nothing to believe in, then sometimes things can fail pretty badly.

i've tried it, and while it provides an opportunity to really come
to know a person, it's nothing like actually meeting and being with
that person. so, as long as one is capable of eventually moving, it
really can be heartbreaking too. i've come to know that it is not
for me. but, it can work and be a wonderful thing for others.

If there is trust, and no parties are the jealous type, I believe it could work, perhaps even better than someone living next door to you. The anticipation of seeing each other, should help the relationship grow. It depends on the individuals and how mature the two are. Good luck to you!

This is just my take on it and this applies strictly to me....

I began talking to a really cool chick who kinda slowly made herself known into conversations on Mingle. The more I talked to her, the more we got along. Eventually, I grew to like her enough and felt a bond grow to the point, I got on a plane and flew out to see her. Then I flew across half the country to visit with her again. Each day speaking to her in the morning on the way to work...then again during my breaks and my lunch...again as I arived home to my dogs...then once again as I went to sleep....cause I needed her voice in my ear.

At the end of next month....I am moving to spend my days and nights with her. I put in my notice at work yesterday. I told my family, my friends and my coworkers that I have spent a long time developing a real relationship built on love, friendship, respect, understanding and patience...and that I am leaving. They are thrilled for me. Everyone is so supportive.

I am getting new teeth before I go...cause I want to smile so big for her when I get there...instead of hiding the part of me that I hate. (none of you have ever seen me smile)

I am giving everything that I ain't taking to the guys I work with. All my furniture, lamps, mirrors, most of my clothes, tools...all of it. I don't need it.

I ain't taking alot...cause she is all I need. (and the house is furnished)...I am taking my clothes, my dog, my car and a few personal items on a 2,130 mile trip next month to start a new life with a woman I have grown to love.

I am as nervous and excited as a person can be.

I got the guts to step up...flop my heart on the table....and take the chance that I am good enough to be loved.

No matter what, I can at least know that I gave everything I got for a shot at love.

I spent waaaaay toooo many years being safe.....

Now is the time I stand up to the plate and EARN my homerun.


So...yes, long distance relationships can work.