Hi all, i'm joining the military and I was just wondering all the ladies views on having a partner in the military ie; would you be able to live with it and accept it etc. All my previous ex's refused to wait for me which is why I put it off for so long but now I'm free I can finally follow my dream!

First of all, I agree with you that you should be able to do what you want.

To answer your question, I personally don't find a man attractive (on all levels) who believes in joining the military for personal, political, and humanitarian reasons. I'm simply not attracted to someone who is training for war, killing people and getting brain washed. I'm all for social justice but not patriotic. It's just not for me. But someone else will love you for it and be willing to wait for you.

Are you signing up cause you think it will get you chicks or because you want to be a soldier?

personally, been there done that and would never do it again

its too taxing and there isnt enough real opportunity to grow 'together' with such long periods apart,,,,

not to mention the stress of never knowing if an actual war will break out or a president will order my husband to potentially die or live in a death surrounded hell,,,,


but, in youth, I think people are much more idealistic and hopeful and invincible, and if its in their heart to go for it,, they should

God bless you. if it wasn't for people like you we would all be speaking german or some other foreign language right now.

If I wanted to just get the interest of ladies I'd just go night clubbing with a few bad chat up lines or something lol. I'm joining the military because I want to be a Royal Marine Commando, I want the challenge, I find normal civilian life boring and fulfilling and I want to be part of the nations incredible history.

And thank you every one for your honest posts, well I guess it depends on the connection I may develop with a potential partner, perhaps they'll feel its worth it to wait for me.

Thank you, I agree if our military failed to stand up to the Nazi regime all those years ago we'd be screwed, and who would want the modern day terrorists to receive such a chance to get powerful enough to take over our countries. I'd rather cut my arm off frankly :)

Today's world of wars is pretty confusing. There is so much question as to who we are fighting and why. I often wonder if the whole thing comes down to the male ego to be honest. Where does the thought of the destruction of others come into play? I hope that you always are able to keep a clear head through what you are about to do and to return to your home with that head. In talking to a few of my friends kids after returning I have seen their minds altered to the point of no return to normality. No return to having peaceful thoughts. I can get my mind around protecting others and have done a part in this myself, but I am fearful when it comes to who creates these offenses and why. I can only pray that what you are about to do is beneficial to the end of what you are about to do.

Will we ever reach peace? The older I get the more I wonder if peace can ever be reached through the means of violence. Seems like to extremes in direct conflict with each other.

Regardless, thank you for being willing to protect my freedom to have these thoughts without being ruled by the mindless evils that wish to take away that very freedom.

My heart goes out and breaks for all the mothers who have had to try to find the answers to why their children must be sacrificed.

Very moving and very true, the reasoning behind wars can some times be blurred I agree, but I also believe everybody takes what they can from the situations and enter into the wars with their own reasoning; mine will be to simply keep these terrorists/ extremists and drug traffickers at bay, like pruning a bush so all the thorns do not become a significant danger anymore. Also what is additionally inviting to me is the challenge of training and earning the green beret.

It is people like us that gives you your freedom to believe as you do. We do it for love of country and the desire to keep our way of life. Unfortunately, that means killing opposing forces if necessary.

Thank you and stay safe my friend.

To that I can only say that my freedom can not be measured with patriotism but I respect your understanding. I would rather die than kill someone. A hero is not someone who kills in order to protect the ones of their own nationality. A hero is someone who protects humans regardless of their nationality without killing.

A dead person is somebodies child, father, brother, friend... out there somewhere. How free can we be knowing that? It is the humanitarians who are the true heroes.

I'm very impressed by your view and have been thinking about this for quite a while. The question in my mind concerning this is how do we stop a Hitler? Some of these people if we took a total passive approach would have conquered our very existence by now. Is there another way?

Hitler would have been nobody if people didn’t follow his footsteps. Patriotism did not help in this instance and with a few exceptions it was a certain passivity of the Germans that contributed to this horrible brutality. I see the same phenomena at smaller scales on a daily basis in religion, gangs, white supremacists, and prejudice in general.

I don’t have the answers for all the injustice and cruelty that’s part of our life but I do know that fighting violence with violence is not the answer.

If we could learn from past mistakes (and this true for all races since Hitler and Germans are not the only ones who committed genocide) I would begin with prevention tactics and then focus on rehabilitation. After all, hate, torture, and sick behavior at this rate often starts with greed, fear, religion, and patriotism of some sort at some level, but the people committing the acts are often victims themselves who are the product of "a" society. I don’t believe people are born evil, misguided, insecure, or lacking alternatives. If they were we would have scientific proof of that by now, which we don’t.

This of course doesn’t mean we shouldn’t protect or defend ourselves. If the armed forces approached training with this view and better yet worked closely with humanitarian organizations I would be more likely to embrace it.