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Topic: Question for the ladies.
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Sun 07/15/12 02:42 PM

Here to start an open discussion on WhatWomenWant? LOL

But seriously my question to you out there is, what does a women look in a man.

How important is looks? What are other things which facilitate the attraction? How important is money(not talking about him mooching off you), but do you look for financial status?

What makes you pick guy a over guy b, taking into consideration that they are both not too bad on the eyes.

Hope to get this ball rolling. :)

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Sun 07/15/12 02:55 PM
Well first off someone who is HONEST, but that seems impossible, then someone who is active & takes care of himself! Funny & kind also is important!

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Sun 07/15/12 03:01 PM
What do I look for in a man, honesty, compassion, intimacy, being able to show love, personality is a must got to have one that likes to talk and laugh.bigsmile

As far as looks they have to be appealing to me but what looks good to one does not to all. They must be pleasing to the eye...have a great sense of personality that when they smile it lights up their eyes... gets me every time....drool


As far as money goes I make my own living and I expect them to make theirs as well...I'm not going to support anyone and don't expect anyone to support me either....when they understand that all is good. I'm one that is not afraid to pick up the tab when we go out to eat..the ball rolls both ways...:thumbsup:

As far as picking one guy over the other humm don't know never had two at one time to pick from so can't honestly answer that one.noway

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Sun 07/15/12 03:06 PM
I mean i guess your right, it has to be a two way street. Not to be superficial but if there is not physical attraction then there is not starting point(unless if we are talking about kidnapping then that's a different story) LOL laugh

But sometimes you see a really hot girl with a average guy and then you start wonder what happened there? Is it because he drives a nice car or what.

I believe looks are important but should it hold an individual back?

Can personality over compensate the looks?

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Sun 07/15/12 03:38 PM
Edited by singmesweet on Sun 07/15/12 03:38 PM
Attraction is important, but subjective. We're all attracted to different things.

I don't have a type, so I don't look for one specific kind of guy.

Confidence and honest are incredibly important.

Money is not important. He should be able to take care of himself, though.

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Sun 07/15/12 03:38 PM
Sure a great personality can make one over look some things...

Looks are not as important to me as a good personality is...and the heart of the person.. but they have to be pleasing to the eyes that are looking at them....even love can over shadow looks..

Most the time when you see two that as you say the guy is average and the girl is a knock out I have seen the same with guys and wonder WTF they have someone and I can't even get a dateslaphead :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

Who know s I assume that is when two have that strong chemistry between them. It is not always looks that brings two together but the chemistry that thing when two people just click and it all falls together..

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Sun 07/15/12 03:39 PM
Edited by singmesweet on Sun 07/15/12 03:40 PM

I mean i guess your right, it has to be a two way street. Not to be superficial but if there is not physical attraction then there is not starting point(unless if we are talking about kidnapping then that's a different story) LOL laugh

But sometimes you see a really hot girl with a average guy and then you start wonder what happened there? Is it because he drives a nice car or what.

I believe looks are important but should it hold an individual back?

Can personality over compensate the looks?


Personality is a big one. Someone can be incredibly hot, but have a horrible personality and I wouldn't be attracted to them. Someone can have more average looks and incredible personality and I'd be much more attracted to him.

The type of car someone has does not make me decide whether or not to date him.

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Sun 07/15/12 03:48 PM


I mean i guess your right, it has to be a two way street. Not to be superficial but if there is not physical attraction then there is not starting point(unless if we are talking about kidnapping then that's a different story) LOL laugh

But sometimes you see a really hot girl with a average guy and then you start wonder what happened there? Is it because he drives a nice car or what.

I believe looks are important but should it hold an individual back?

Can personality over compensate the looks?


Personality is a big one. Someone can be incredibly hot, but have a horrible personality and I wouldn't be attracted to them. Someone can have more average looks and incredible personality and I'd be much more attracted to him.

The type of car someone has does not make me decide whether or not to date him.
So true hat a person has means NOTHING at all! It's what's inside that counts :thumbsup:

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Sun 07/15/12 05:44 PM

Attraction is important, but subjective. We're all attracted to different things.

I don't have a type, so I don't look for one specific kind of guy.

Confidence and honest are incredibly important.

Money is not important. He should be able to take care of himself, though.


Totally agree with this!!
Someone has specifically siad HONESTY and wrote that is seems almost impossible to find, I agree with that too!!

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Sun 07/15/12 08:43 PM
But lets be real. Honesty and trust come later but initially the spark has to be there, the physical attraction, the omg he's cute attraction needs to be there. Or else there will never be the moment to find out if he's a player or a keeper.

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Sun 07/15/12 09:17 PM
Attention to detail ranks up in the top for me.

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Sun 07/15/12 09:24 PM

But lets be real. Honesty and trust come later but initially the spark has to be there, the physical attraction, the omg he's cute attraction needs to be there. Or else there will never be the moment to find out if he's a player or a keeper.


Of course there needs to be attraction. Different women will be attracted to different looks/types, though. Attraction is subjective.

For me, if he's hot and stupid, it won't work. There has to be more there than just being attractive.


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Sun 07/15/12 10:08 PM
There have been men that aren't my "type" per se but when I got to know them they were really great and I became attracted to their intelligence and personality..

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Sun 07/15/12 11:41 PM

But lets be real. Honesty and trust come later but initially the spark has to be there, the physical attraction, the omg he's cute attraction needs to be there. Or else there will never be the moment to find out if he's a player or a keeper.


It's not always about physical attraction. The spark can be lit simply by meeting and conversation. So to get the best chance, you have to be approachable, which usually means doing the approaching. Women aren't just going to fall in your lap. (well, usually) You have to work for their attention.

Physical attraction and the "omg he's cute" is different for every woman. Just as it is for every man.


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Sun 07/15/12 11:43 PM

There have been men that aren't my "type" per se but when I got to know them they were really great and I became attracted to their intelligence and personality..


I think we limit ourselves too much with the whole "type" idea. I've seen this over and over again in my life. Especially with my friends who continue to chase after the same "type" of guy, and always end up disappointed or hurt.

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Mon 07/16/12 07:44 AM
Hmmm, i mean sorry to be pessimistic but in theory it sounds nice, but that's not the case in the "real world".

Well at-least i haven't seen it yet.

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Mon 07/16/12 07:50 AM

But lets be real. Honesty and trust come later but initially the spark has to be there, the physical attraction, the omg he's cute attraction needs to be there. Or else there will never be the moment to find out if he's a player or a keeper.


So you think looks are more important. Eh, there's some people who feel that way, but what about if you flip it, how many really hot guys do you see with average women, and what do you think then?

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Mon 07/16/12 08:24 AM
If you are with a great-looking person,
you can always tape their picture
to your pillow.
Because that may be all you get.

If the picture walks, and talks, and
communes with you, you may have something.
The value is always in the goods, not the
package they arrive in.

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Mon 07/16/12 08:30 AM

Hmmm, i mean sorry to be pessimistic but in theory it sounds nice, but that's not the case in the "real world".

Well at-least i haven't seen it yet.


The "real world" is different for everyone. Just because you haven't seen it, it doesn't mean it's not happening. We're all talking about our own experiences.

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Mon 07/16/12 12:05 PM


But lets be real. Honesty and trust come later but initially the spark has to be there, the physical attraction, the omg he's cute attraction needs to be there. Or else there will never be the moment to find out if he's a player or a keeper.


So you think looks are more important. Eh, there's some people who feel that way, but what about if you flip it, how many really hot guys do you see with average women, and what do you think then?


No im not saying looks are more important, but i think in the end of the day people say well i just want x y z and blah blah blah and it doesn't matter what they are from the outside.

And as far as really hot guys with average women. She better be loaded lol laugh

But in all honesty if your an average looking guy and if you want approach an above average looking girl then maybe your average looks might not be enough. Unless if you have a super personality and they somehow manage to talk to you and then get to know your personality then it might be a different story.

I think

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