I was just curious to know; Do you guys have rules about dating or getting romantically involved with a friends Ex? Do you agree that it's a ''no go area''?

only if you wanna destroy a......Friendship!!!!!

I've never done it. However, I have a couple of friends that try to hook up with any woman they meet. When I start getting serious about someone I start introducing her to them. If she hooks up with one of them, I put the brakes on my emotions.

I didn't want to write a novel. But I should have explained the story a bit better. Here's the short version-

Basically the friend is no longer a friend of mine. And also she is the one who was cheating all the way through their relationship of 6 years. She left him and is now expecting some other guys baby. I have never acted on any feelings, but I'll be honest, I do think about it.

I would really appreciate any advice. This is a tough one

it depends upon how intimate the relationship was and the reasons for the break up


if the 'friend' was hurt at all by the ex,,,its a no
if the friend was in love with the ex,,,its a no


if the friend merely 'dated' and wasnt really into the guy,,,its a possibility

Depends on how long they've been ex's.

Also would depend on whether she was still a friend. You said not, so..probably.

The only off limits I have are marrieds co-habs and ex's of my sister's and close friends.

They have been finished for over a year.

We are not friends anymore. But still I wouldn't ignore her on the street or anything, id still be polite, but the friendship is well gone.

I don't do it, but it depends on the friendship and such.

It seems to me, if you are questioning it to begin with, you have already recieved your red flag warning. It is up to you to chose to ignore the feelings now and move on or ignore the red flag and have hurt down the road.

well.....with these new details.........

If she is no longer a friend, and the guy was not the problem....
and you have some feeling for him.......

I would say..........

Go for it!!!!!!!

EXCELLENT ANSWER

wish I had thought of it,,lol

yes, if something causes you to give pause or question a choice,, its probably not the right choice for you,,,,

Personally, I wouldn't do it. Why complicate things? Good friends are hard to come by and there are plenty of fish in the sea.

I have no hard and fast rules on it. If there is a connection there between us, I explore it. I don't go trying to waltz in right after they have broken up or the like, but if they are through and have no intention of being together, that has little to do with her and I as far as I am concerned. I have had a friend hook up with an ex before, and it did not bother me. If I was really concerned I would discuss it with them. To be fair though, I've never been in such a situation.

Well two trains of thought.

Why is she not your friend? Different values or do you just don't like her ditching someone you would like if you were sure she was out of play and not just done something you/he might forgive her for later?

Or in the back of your mind know she was looking for a way out of a bad relationship for reasons you just don't know yet? Maybe the red flag that is making you hold back.

It is real easy to say "yippee she looked for greener grass and I got the real treasure" but too often if a friend ditches a guy and is so desperate to get out of something she gets preggers there is a whole lot of stuff you don't know.

Don't get me wrong I think jumping from the skillet to the fire is poor personal management and I don't condone cheating but if your friend was living with a tyrant who broke her down maybe you are blameing a victim and just lining up to be next.

Only you know.

Keep in mind if it fails you are more than likely to get a bad reputation for being a man stealer and nore of your friends will drop you like a hot rock.

I've never been in this situation. I just don't know if I could. I'd feel I was kind of betraying my friend. Jmho

That's an area that should always be OFF LIMITS...no matter what the relationship was...good or bad!