Well said

I am not referring to you and I know that there are those that peruse these sites for companionship and don't have any intention of getting divorced. They are merely looking for an affair.

No & No! That simple!

If you are seperated for what ever reason, then legally you are still married. I truly believe that you should clean up your past relationship before you get into another one. Who wants drama in their life, I know I sure don't. I know in the states it only takes 90 days to get a divorce unless someone won't sign the papers and then IF you have a lawyer...they really don't have much of a choice. IF someone says it takes longer then 6 months, they are having second thoughts.
So my answer is NO I would never date someone who is seperated, they would have to be completely divorced for me to date them.

Kudos to you unsure and the previous post as well, Clean the slate!!

its a case by case basis

if there is still a relationship there, regardless of if there is paper or not,, they would be off limits

if there is no relationship, regardless of if there is paper or not, the exclusion wouldnt come so absolutely

many people move on without ever getting divorced, just like many people stay together without ever getting married

the actual DETAILS of the relationship is what would count most for me if I were still only into 'dating'

at this age though, where 'dating' is not as much an incentive and I would prefer to find a more serious minded , commitment minded, person,,,it would be important that they be divorced before risking investing time and emotions into them

Agree, Ms Harmony, you have a rough road ahead for your generation, I wish you well.

thanx, the key is that Im perfectly happy with the love I already have and always have had from my family

my goal in life is not romantic companionship at all(though I wont discard it if I cross its path)

Wow! Only 90 days in the states for a divorce. It's 4 years over here

I did it. I didn't KNOW it...they said they were divorced. Liar! This guy was a ton of fun, so oh, so too bad, but no...I can't go there (knowingly!)

I love how you don't shive a git.

Really? Wow.

Yep in the states we have a fast lane.

If I went out with a gal I would just want a piece of, I mean, just to go out on a date. No contracts.
Contracts feel so, so, so binding and formal.

Just teasing, of course.

I'd tell her I was a Mormon and it was ok to date.

in the states not sure if you know this
but you can do your own self divorce
all you have to do is go to your court house webpage and print out
the divorce papers and it doesnt cost that much at all
when i got my divorce 23yrs ago
i went through legal aid and it cost me $300 but i only paid $30
for i felt he should had paid the rest.

if i recall right, my divorce was final in 6months

Didn't think I said with others, but let me read it again. Nope, I didn't........with the same ones.

I agree.

That's only if it's uncontested.

Everyone is different in their views.

I was married to the same man for 15 years, he cheated and was abusive, after I left I didn't get a divorce for 5 years.

Not because I was still sticking to my vows or because I still loved him.

It was simply because i was bringing up my 6 children alone and did not have the time or money to put towards anthing but surviviing.

So on my profile it would have said seperated. So without someone had a religious problem with the fact that legally I was still married, then I don''t see a problem.

My husband now was still married when I met him, although he had been seperated for more than 2 years, it took almost 3 years to get through the courts to get his divorce finalised as his 3ex had took off and was hiding.

So who is to say what is right or wrong if you don;t know all the circumstances.

What do I think about married people dating?

That the guy should have signed a prenup! lol

Or if its the guy dating she should have signed one!

As for separated, that means squat I wouldn't date a women unless she was fully divorced. Separated means they are still together she can always go back its not dead its not over.

Plus when their separated is it only the girl dating? Or are they both dating? Because if he still loves her he's going to try and save the relationship and you are stealing his wife which is simply wrong. You have no business going out with a woman who is still married.

The only acception I see to this is if she was physically abused and then their should be a restraining order and police report to prove it.

Because if the guy she's married to isn't abusing her then the marriage is legit till the divorce is fully filed.

But then I'd still be skeptical to date a girl who was divorced without knowing why she divorced because if she said something like "I just didn't love him anymore" or "He didn't love me anymore" or anything short of infidelity or abuse.

If she left her husband why wouldn't she leave me?

I know my foster mom had seven husbands before finally settling down. Seven husbands not just boy friends I'm talking she got married seven times. Shed always fall out of love and find another guy file for divorce.

Sorry if your going to go through that many guys, then they aren't the problem you are and I am not going near you!

There is nothing wrong with it as long as they are married to each other.