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It's all good brother Vinc.
Welcome to the forums my good man. Hang out and chat a bit here on the forums and meet the ladies. There are some prime women around here. Just use some Mojo...you will do fine. I snagged a great one! Welcome to the herd of Mingletards. |
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It's all good brother Vinc. Welcome to the forums my good man. Hang out and chat a bit here on the forums and meet the ladies. There are some prime women around here. Just use some Mojo...you will do fine. I snagged a great one! Welcome to the herd of Mingletards. Well thank you very much, good brother. I'm certain we shall converse more in the future. |
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@laughsandgiggles I do indeed talk like this. I prefer to speak in a manner which is understood rather than listened to. When I was young, I taught myself to read (age 3) and then I couldn't stop. I was particularly enraptured by works in obscure dialects, or at least those beyond the societal norm. Thus, I have adopted a manner of speaking elegantly rather than speaking in barbaric, short mutations of what used to be a respectable language. And, I do believe if I could relax, I would not have such a conundrum when around women. However, I find that most women that I do talk to find myself to be attractive and charming, but I am generally just the good friend or older brother figure. My only difficulty is that I am a perfectionist when it comes to the approach, and I generally spend more time thinking rather than acting, because I'd rather not appear to be a fool in front of a woman whom I am interested in courting. @42BlackBBW I find that many women appreciate a forward approach, but I favor shy girls who would likely shut down in the face of such boldness. If saying what you mean is "bold", I'll take that any day of the week. There is nothing worse in my mind than trying to decipher what someone else is thinking but (and sorry to use your age against ya), you're young enough not to (perhaps) appreciate the uniqueness not having to wonder about in the mire so to speak. |
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@42BlackBBW I do try not to think about what others think, but I'm empathic by nature so I frequently put myself in the shoes of others to try and understand them better. If that's a bad trait to have, then I'll take a bad trait.
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@42BlackBBW I do try not to think about what others think, but I'm empathic by nature so I frequently put myself in the shoes of others to try and understand them better. If that's a bad trait to have, then I'll take a bad trait. I am also empathic and think often about others and reflect a lot on my comments and whether what I have said has inadvertently offended someone but I also think about my needs and what I require from a significant other as well as all the other things that go towards maintaining a healthy, well balanced relationship. If that makes me a bad person, then it's something I can live with 
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Well...you got a bad trait.
I got a hard enough time living up to my own standards...I would be totally screwed if I tried to do my own thing AND stand in someone elses shoes. Everyone else is on thier own as far as being a good person. |
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@42BlackBBW I do try not to think about what others think, but I'm empathic by nature so I frequently put myself in the shoes of others to try and understand them better. If that's a bad trait to have, then I'll take a bad trait. Then put yourself into others' shoes and try to understand what they'd want to see in a first email. Maybe that would help you write better emails? |
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Greetings out there, and this is pointed more towards the ladies prowling the forums out there. I'm not exactly the most socially affluent man, mainly since I just don't go out of my way to talk to people. Not in the way that I specifically avoid interaction, but I'll just say hello, how are you, listen to what someone has to say, and if they don't carry the conversation further, I leave it at that. But when it comes to women, especially ones that I am fond of, I have an exceptionally hard time expressing myself, usually ending up with me being silent and frustrated for the majority of the time I'm around them. I'm unsure if this stems from my lack of self-esteem or my disdain for rejection. What would you personally like to hear from someone who was enamored by you? In trying to answer the question I would say about anything from them. Right now it is in the secretive stage this relationship that I am having that just came right out of no where. It is like SALT talks and some strategic arms negotiations.  She just kept dropping those subtle hints like crazy and then what she called the ice breaker. She just came up and kissed me. Then she did it, again. So, of course, I am thinking that this isn't just something that I conjured up inside my head but some significant historical event. Historical in the fact that this seems very similar in the way my ex came up to me. I guess, de ja vu might be a better term for it as the feeling seems similar. Since I am conversing with this other lady who is introverted like me I can tell the difference in conversing with this extrovert. With the extrovert she is ready for this relationship with me. But with the introvert she is still reeling from a bad relationship that she is just freshly divorced. Of course, this affects the relationship, too since with the introvert we have these long-winded diatribes with plenty of laughter that is all through the medium of the e printed word which I am thoroughly enjoying to no end. Of course, the whole inter-connectivity with both and one being one totally of friendship with the introvert and the one with the extrovert being almost unbelievably unreal except for the reality of it leaves with this feeling of just, "Wow!!".
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