Greetings out there, and this is pointed more towards the ladies prowling the forums out there. I'm not exactly the most socially affluent man, mainly since I just don't go out of my way to talk to people. Not in the way that I specifically avoid interaction, but I'll just say hello, how are you, listen to what someone has to say, and if they don't carry the conversation further, I leave it at that. But when it comes to women, especially ones that I am fond of, I have an exceptionally hard time expressing myself, usually ending up with me being silent and frustrated for the majority of the time I'm around them. I'm unsure if this stems from my lack of self-esteem or my disdain for rejection. What would you personally like to hear from someone who was enamored by you?

Do you really talk like this?? you sound like you swallowed a dictionary, thesaurus and the entire encyclopedia britannica!!

Relax! even socially inept people have friends- If you are interested in a girl just talk to her like she is your friend find out about her- ask about her day. what brings her joy- talk about what interests you what interests her- conversation is give and take- be funny, try to be charming without sounding pretentious. But quite honestly- you are making this way too difficult!

relax, take your time and have fun!! build a friendship and see what happens- dont try so hard and dont worry about anyone being enamored of anyone.

Good luck to you

Definately!!...taking this into hypothetical context of course, because i was mother to a 3yr old before you were born.

Basically i think we are scared of fooking up with the person who has us acting like fumbling fool, so one tends to clam up in case said object of enamourment believes it to be so. That is one way of looking at it anyhoo...i'm sure there will be plenty of others along momentarily to add more to that

you reap what you sew. if you visualize yourself socially inept, it will be so. don't set it all up so much, relax, don't have an expectation going in, just enjoy yourself so you can be...enjoyed. good luck!

I certainly hope he does talk like that @ L&G....too many young ones do not, and indeed, are developing their own oo-va-goo lingo, which detracts from the underlying intelligence that may be lurking there.

I have two. Shut the hell up and ride me like a Harley or Can I make you a sandwich and bring you another beer........

oo-va-goo.... ah ha!! i knew it had a name and that is so true kahurangi. is that chocolate covered kiwi in your pic?? :)

Indeed it is Bastet...very observant of you :)

I'm considering compiling an oo-va-goo translation booklet for the parents/adult guide to understanding the youth of today

I like the big words also. Well, the one messenger who had me at the first sentence said 'you look amazing.' It was blunt and I liked the honesty of it. 'Like attracts like', just be yourself and the right one for you will be attracted to you. Good luck.

From someone who is ept, I am unsure
ineptness is possible on here, if you
can type and you have thoughts.

I would say you are already
ahead of the game.

Looks like your getting flamed :( well people maybe he is realy realy wanting help so he makes a thread with the best possible grammar he can come up with.

Anyway i feel ya bro, at least your not me, i am stuck in an ity bity city by the river with absolutly NOTHING to do, i havent even had a conversation with a girl in like a few years due to me leaving the whole drug scene and being stuck working at a job full of men!

But its whatever, make a post on craigslist for some help with girls, sexually or just conversation, and DONT be shallow, its ok to set a few standerds but give it a shot. I was looking at some local listings and i could have jumped on good looking girl that just wanted me to come over and screw her, but i decided maybe i will wait a bit before i start doing that lol.

Or you can contact women here!

GOOD LUCK!

sweety do you really think women have an easy time talking to men ecxpecially when there attracted to them well some maybe that think there gods gift but trust me under all that makeup there scared as hell to talk to a man now see when a women is atracted to a mana they have no idea how to approch them and they end up sending a friend now that friend usually gets the guy man trust me just be yourself and have some topics in your head to talk about maybe that will help alot a women deffenantly wants to feel beautiful compliment her jeweelery that will get her talking ask where she got it then skip to would you like to have a drink or maybe we can have lunchh dont go straight for dinner its harder to get out of a woman doesnt need a new friend unless she is in a relationship she wants to feel appreciated but also you have to leave here lingering for the next time she sees you conversation about you and her in your noramal lives where you both grew up but dont give her the up and down look then she will think that you only want one think keep eye contact and keep some tissues in your pocket if you get nervous a sweatty hand always a turn off a kiss on the hand for the lady always a very romantic thing and she will oggle u when you walk away

An explanation always goes a long way with me so as long as I'm aware, I can accept and adapt.

It's the not knowing the reasons behind a particular type of behaviour and/or actions that woud make me less understanding.

@laughsandgiggles I do indeed talk like this. I prefer to speak in a manner which is understood rather than listened to. When I was young, I taught myself to read (age 3) and then I couldn't stop. I was particularly enraptured by works in obscure dialects, or at least those beyond the societal norm. Thus, I have adopted a manner of speaking elegantly rather than speaking in barbaric, short mutations of what used to be a respectable language. And, I do believe if I could relax, I would not have such a conundrum when around women. However, I find that most women that I do talk to find myself to be attractive and charming, but I am generally just the good friend or older brother figure. My only difficulty is that I am a perfectionist when it comes to the approach, and I generally spend more time thinking rather than acting, because I'd rather not appear to be a fool in front of a woman whom I am interested in courting.

@Kahurangi I thank you for your appreciation of my dialect. It is the result of years of reading and writing.

@newarkjw I got a small chuckle out of that one, thank you.

@ladywind7 I find that not many women my age appreciate spoken prose as much as I would like.

@soufiehere I thank you for the words of praise.

@DiggityDave Yeah, beyond work, I don't have much of a social life as it is, save for what interaction I get from social media sites.

@nichole33 I appreciate the endeavor of attempting to help me, but the lack of punctuation just made my head hurt (I read in my head according to the writing style, and no punctuation just leads to a massive, swift sentence which is ghastly.)

@42BlackBBW I find that many women appreciate a forward approach, but I favor shy girls who would likely shut down in the face of such boldness.

On a site like this? Read profiles. When you find women you're interested in, let them know what caught your interest. Start a conversation based on something in their profile. Give them something to respond to, rather than just saying hi.

Thank you, I may very likely begin using this approach soon.

Just my take on it.....

Sounds like you ain't comfortable...and being relaxed and comfortable in your own skin is THE key.

When it comes to women that you feel for and admire and desire....step back mentally and just know....you are gonna meet alot of fine women.....not all of them will be your lover....so, ya might as well make some good lookin friends.

Just aim for friends....friends, you can make. Love is out of our hands....it just happens.

The more effort you put into it...the luckier you get.

Hm...This may be the best piece of advice I've heard yet. And I concur, love is something that is not for us to decide.

Dude...love catches ya from the blind side and jacks you upside the head like a sledge hammer. Ain't a damned thing you can do about it.

For me....I make nice....quite a bit. I am only a dousche when it is the right thng to do. The more I make nice....the more cool people I find who smile when they see me. It only helps boost the odds.

:)

I am fairly pleasant unless one deserves an unpleasant attitude. I'm sure something will turn up eventually, and when I least expect it to.