john, hate to put it this bluntly, but you know she has moved on so why don't you do the same, or are you just too stupid to know when it is over??? well we have all heard the fat lady sing it is about time for you listen also.

snookums, a lady can be over weight and be the nicest person around, too bad most people are unable to see that. since losing the wife 9 years ago two of my best friends have been ladies a bit on the robust side. the fact is most barbie type are so self centered no man will ever want one.

widower, be nice.

Tell 'em, Steve-Dave!

ellgee1976, well wow.. no I simply asked her out and said if not anything then just friends noting more and that's how I would have treated it. But you probably know more and been there to know better etc.

All I'm saying is well maybe your right but I know I personaly would have just kept it as every body hanging out and having a good time or fun, no big deal though.

Widowerskeeking, I'm not too stuiped. I've known it's over and have moved on.

Why do people as such questions when one person is wondering a simple but yet unanswered question that remines unanswered etc.

Bottom line I've moved on and all and heard no fat lady sing because I've moved on etc.

ellgee1976, also I doubt she over heard me talking to other people when it was said out side and she wasn't there at that point in time etc, plus I saw noting wrong with it but I guess you would know better then me about these things.

Just keep swimming, just keep swimming...like Dory sings in Finding Nemo.

I went on dates when my boy was away on vacation with his dad. Some have called, some have not. To those who have not, their loss. Just as it is her loss. You will find the right one! Don't you worry.

I agree with Michele, don't sweat the small stuff (and believe me, it's all small stuff, well, all except for my extra large swonnicles)...

John...

Be glad it didn't work...

As I have said in other forums...

NEVER DIP YOUR PEN IN THE COMPANY INK!!!!!

If you're this torn up over it now, imagine if you two had went out a few times, and she broke it off. Be patient, someone else will come along soon.

Just make damn sure it's not another co-worker!!!!!

i've received numbers before and for what ever reason it just simply didn't work or they changed their mind. there is a possibility that she was not playing games with you at all. people change their minds all the time.

John, It was probably a lot of things rolled into one, no simple answer. She handled it badly, maybe she was young and inexperienced! Really, I think we can all look back on our pasts when we gained the attention of someone that we didn't want attention from and didn't know how to handle it. All I can say, is go get some books on how to know if someone is truely interested in you..There are signs...if they avoid looking into your eyes when you talk to them...walk away they are not interested...if they look at you the whole time...you got some interest. It's tough out there John, I know I've been there, when you like someone and they are not reciprocating, and sometimes it's the other way around...don't let it turn you off women, just educate yourself like I said, and try again.

John first of all, yeah this is reality. People do things that we don't understand what there motives are or for what reason. But if we all look back in the past I'm sure at one time or other we all did something that was totaly off the wall for us to do. And might not have even thought about what we did till later. We have that choice to either figure out what we can do and why those things happen and then move one. Or we can realize we might not ever know why those things happen and bury it then and move on. For you have said that was a couple of years ago. One until you can learn to let go and move on you will always wonder why she did what she did. No one here can answer that for you except her. We can give reasons of what it might have been. But we can not give you the real reason. I say it is time to bury it and get on with your life.

To be honest half the time most of us don't even know why we do some of the things we do. We are creatures of habit and at times will be un-predicable. Its gonna happen no matter what we set out to do in life we have our flaws and must live with them. And learn not to dwell upon the other. There is many times in my life I have wondered why someone did what they did but ya know what even if it happen 10 years ago I'm no closer knowing now then I did then. And truth is willl never. Sometimes we will say one thing and then change our minds and actually feel as if we are backed up in a corner and what do we do but to get out of it the only way we can see at the time.

Yeah it is not right the way she did it and life would be so much easier if we all were honest and did things by the book. But............ it's not gonna happen. Humm so have I confused you more now then you were lol