Maybe your right oldsage, maybe my question can never be answered here.

Not unless other women here on the net would be nice enough which I doubt to answer why women do that type of thing etc.

All I can say why men do that stuff is well I can only speak for my self, they either don't like you and don't know how to be honest enough or there just trying to protect you from being hurt etc.

Don't know.

Same thing applies to women. She didn't want to be mean, etc.

sometimes, she may be afraid too and unsure of her motives, so she pulls back. My question is ----why do guys who are overweight so shallow that they always are looking for thin, sexy girls, what about us cuddly, slightly overweight women who would love to curl up with a teddy bear.Why are we always excluded from every match??

TOO TRUE!!!

John, you got part of it right & applied it right.
Now take the next step; ONLY she can answer your question, why/what did her actions mean. She is not talking. Your wasting your PRECIOUS time & spirit with something that you can never solve.

If she did answer, would it be the truth,same delima all over.

I learnedas long as no one is physically hurt or dies from something; it is SMALL STUFF.

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff.

Go do something that makes you smile & forget it.

snookums3 good question, maybe that isn't some men cup of tea so to speak, I'm not saying that isn't mine, just saying maybe that is there's, don't know.


LOL yeah I totally get what your saying oldsage.

But sometimes people need to sweat it to get over it first.

Like some times people need to know the answers before then can get over something.

Kinda like this one girl that was or is one of my sister's friend who went out with me and we or I rather broke it off for a good reason, some how she got my screen name and AIM me asking if I had feelings for her still, made me wonder why but then I knew all she wanted to know is if I did or didn't etc. But I wasn't happy about it but oh well. I guess that's life and every body has to move on.

I meant before they can get over it.

John, when things don't work the way I want them to, I ask myself, what was my part in the situation, was I having expectations for what I wanted without considering what the other wants..........or .......was I just not listening to what wasn't said,but was inferred

John, YOU choose how to handle everything in your life.
YOU choose to hang on to something that is a stinking piece of crap & smell the stink.
Or throw it away & enjoy the sweet smells of life.

INTENTION = RESULTS

what results do you want?

You know men & women came from the same mold, so we do partially think the same, just handle things differently. I was going with the same guy for 2 years because I didn't want to hurt his feelings, so instead, I was upset, angry inside and depressed. Once I let him go last june, It was all in my head, we had never lived together, but within 2 months after I said all done, he is moved in with a girl & her son??? so I guess its all about letting go, we all heal in our own time

Right on old sage.... HMMMM CHOICES

oldsage, yet again I understand what your saying but your thinking I choose to hang on to some type of something and can't let it go when I have but just was wondering.

It's okay to wonder, I don't let stuiped things like that controle or ruin my life, I move on and go about to new and whatever things that come about etc.

I think for m, I like my space, but don't want to be alone, so I have that ---i want but don't get too close, or i will push you away & run

John, I am not picking on you, just offering you how it looks from my box.

You used to work with her, to me implies she has been out of your life for a while.

You have these questions your still trying to figure out, BUT your not hanging on to anything?

See how it looks from my box?

Snookums, Good question; wonder where your answer will take you.

Yes I see oldsage how things look from your side and point of view etc.

But if you ever run into an old love etc and you got the same respond as I had happen and wouldn't you ever wonder, like keep in in the back of your mind but at the same time have let it go as well.

I have let it go, but just many things makes me wonder, I guess I'm that type of person that likes to be well informered and have as much infor about what is happening then left emtpy or with out a reason behinde it etc.

But I get what your saying.

And on a side note yes I do know some things are better left with out knowing or a reason for that matter.

Thanks for everybody advice here.

Have a great night everyone Must go to bed, the boys will be up early

Maybe there is no answer.

Good luck

why do women do what exactly?

you said you'd hoped for more than a friendship with this woman, maybe she caught on to that, maybe she coulda been your friend, but saw that you wanted more, and she didn't...

even tho you asked about gettin together with other co-workers, maybe she thought you were 'grasping at straws' to get her to go along...

my personal experience with this, is that i've done the same kinda thing...

i knew the guy wanted more, i wasn't gonna give him more than a friendship, and after he said "a bunch of us are goin out, wanna go with?" i knew then that he was only tryin to get me to go out with him, to spend time with him, i knew he'd view it as a 'date' and i wasn't gonna give him hope for something i knew wouldn't happen..so i said no

just my personal outlook on this...im sorry if it's offensive to anyone