I noticed while uploading some RECENT,CLEAR pics that in picture guidelines it states that "you should be in all photos". I have not followed that completely as I have a cartoon and painting of myself and a pic of my dog. But, plenty of other clear pics. But, what are everyone's feelings on this? Don't come in and attack me. I am getting too old for that chit. I am asking your opinion.This is discussion ONLY!

I have heard arguments both ways,but I still tend to think if you are on a dating site, you should post a pic of yourself. I just realized recently that the guidelines also say so.

So, do you think these guidelines should be enforced?
Or, do you think they should be changed?

I might add,cos I can hear some of you thinking.. yes I am on a dating site and unavailable. I met my man here and lots of friends and see nothing at all wrong with me or my guy stopping in once in a while to chat. We have in our profiles that we are not here to date. But, we still have pics.

I think at least one picture should be of the person, holding up a sign that says "Mingle". Like my current picture.

I don't think this should be enforced, but people should be aware that they might be talking to a scammer if such a picture is not available.

lol ok. I might need to go take another pic

I'm not here to date anymore, so I could careless.

If I were dating, I wouldn't take anyone serious unless they had clear pics of themself. Also, they should have a complete profile, and no "No Answers".

This site is very generous with the number of pictures they allow for each profile...IMO, 18 is alot....I think a variety of pictures is fine and an excellent generic way for people to express their personality...Because the guidelines are just that, guidelines not rules, I don't see the need to change the wording...It would be nice if members were required to use only a picture of themselves as their main profile pic though....

That is a good point. Most of our protection should remain on our own shoulders and good old common sense. So, I am unsure about enforcement. Just curious why it is in the guidelines and not being enforced. Or are guidelines mearly suggestions?

Pretty much. But, it would be nice if they had some sort of an approval process, or verification. Maybe something like Spider suggested about holding a Mingle sign.

Yes, I just pointed that out that I am not sure what "guidelines" mean. Could be suggestion only. I love looking at people's pics, myself. And when I was on here dating I would not even consider someone who didn't have a pic posted. But, that is me. I think it helped keep me safe, though.

Should: Used to express probability or expectation.

Must: To be obliged or required by morality, law, or custom.

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Perhaps they should have it that the main photo should be of the user?

But, couldn't somone just photoshop in a MINGLE sign?

This reminds me of something funny. Kind of off topic, kinda on. But, when I was on here in dating mode, I kinda was crushing on Peccy. He appeared to be too dumb to notice. LOL Some guys are just clueless. Peccy was known for posting alot of questions on threads about everything under the sun. So, I grabbed some colorful markers and made me up a pretty little sign that read, "PECCY, Ask ME a question" and took a pic of me holding it, And he did...we been together about 4 yrs now

.....I love looking at profile pics too...And it's not so much that I avoid profiles with no pic, it's more that I find them way harder to get to know....I need to put a face with a person I am trying to have a social conversation with....

Not if they require that it be hand written. You can tell when it's photoshopped or not.

and...


guideline [ˈgaɪdˌlaɪn]
n
a principle put forward to set standards or determine a course of action

should/SHo͝od/
Verb:

Used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions: "he should have been careful".
Indicating a desirable or expected state: "by now students should be able to read".


so, I guess we can say it is HIGHLY suggested, but not mandatory as written.

If it's just a suggestion only, I don't understand why it would even be there. I think they just don't enforce this particular guideline for some reason.

Perhaps someone in admin, Or a mod who knows will pop in and tell us what it means.

Hopefully, because they do enforce certain guidelines. I would think they'd want to enforce all of them.

Post a 100 pics of yourself...
Still won't help me know who you are OR what you're up to on here. JMHO


I noticed your contribution to the site has skyrocketed VERY recently.
Don't know why but..... Awesome!

EXCELLENT point!

We do not heavily enforce this particular statement: "you should be in all photos"

Preferably, yes, you should be in all photos. The problem with that is, people like to express themselves. The main Photo, should be of you, as for the rest, be it a photo of your pets, car, home, etc. does let you say a little bit more about you, your lifestyle and interests.

Also, some people do not wish to make their photos public, for whatever reason, so we do have a private photo option, and the person may use an avatar as their main image.

The main concern for photos are as follows:

No nude/highly suggestive pics, or photos which only focus on one area of the body, as to display certain attributes. I will mention also, that headless/shirtless photos also fall into this category.

Photos which contain personal contact information, such as phone numbers or email addresses are not allowed, as well as personal identification. This is for the safety of our members.

bloody/gory images, intimidating photos, or otherwise disturbing images.

We realize you are all adults here, however, we do want to maintain a decent website.

As for forcing folks to have a photo, i do not think that will happen, no.