God's time is the best.

i can list a 1000 reasons

Because I only had one ticket to heaven if the world ended, and I wasn't going to share hehehehe

I guess living in a very rural area of Oregon has created my life to have to wait until I sell my home and move somewhere I can start dating I guess???

Coz she went to Barbuda and didn't come back yet!!

Coz she went to Barbuda and didn't come back yet!!

I'm yet to see a fitting cap... What a big head I have.

Because I'm not every freaking woman's dream (rich, wealthy, hung, and stupid)!

again and again in the same situation

for so many years

tethered to a ringing telephone

and a room full of mirrors

a pretty girl in your bathroom, checking out her sex appeal...



I asked myself when you said you loved me

do you think this can be real?

(-joni mitchell)


Call me a doubter I guess is the answer

my bf left me for a big booty hoe :D

Working evenings and weekends seems to keep me away from 95% of the women I meet.Plus I am very content in being single, since it affords me plenty of time to read, write and travel without worry.

My soul mate currently lives in another dimension. We are sadly both single.

i am here

i am here baby :)

u will find ....look at me :)

I was thinking about this and the relationships I have had over the past 5 years since my divorce and I think I see a pattern. Maybe it's not all men, but the men I have dated have all wanted to move really fast into a relationship. And, I have gone against my gut feelings to slow down because I have always been afraid to say "no". So, I move things too quickly thinking this is what they want. But, it's impossible to really get to know someone so quickly and under such pressure.

Just a little Friday morning self reflection.

I have done some soul searching myself. I just don't see any advantage of being a couple or in a relationship. Except for sex; what can a man offer me?

I don't think it's so much about what either party can do for the other or has to offer the other. I think it's about a connection you feel with someone. An attraction that becomes stronger over time. You enjoy spending time together and you start wanting to make the other person happy. Their happiness becomes important to you. At some point you may feel you don't want to live without that person.

If none of that happens then you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person.

I know you've had some really bad experiences and it's possible you'll never want to be in a relationship again and that's ok.

Again; I see no advantage of being with a person constantly. I like my freedom of being able to come and go. I find men way to suffocating and all they want me to do is stay home with them to watch tv. I may as well put a bullet in my head than to live like that. I couldn't see myself feeling that I don't want to live without a person on a person. What happens when they die? Do I fall apart; feel incomplete without them? As for happiness; I get you want to make them happy but many times it is at a cost of making yourself unhappy. An example is a guy wanted me to cut back on my band gigs with the military which made him happy but made me resent him. I am just looking at this from a logical point and not an emotional point. Sorry; if I come across harsh but like one thread said; there is a point that one is practical about life. I am not trying to rain on your parade so please forgive the way I word things.

You are not raining on my parade. I understand where you are coming from.

I wouldn't stay in a relationship if that's how a relationship felt to me. You are right to be true to yourself and what is right for you.

Thanks for understanding Ruth.