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mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Tue 05/08/12 02:09 PM
I want to thank you guys for all the help. In fact I'm thinking of going out tonight and would like a little advice. Should I ask someone out before I go, or wait till I get there? Should I ask her if she is dutch, or just ask to see her birth certificate? Should I cut her off at a predetermined amount on the bill, or does it go to auto-dutch? Should I make plans to rent a car so we don't feel weird about who is driving who where and in what? Should I rent 2 cars? If she is dutch can I still speak English, or bring a translation book? If I spend exactly $100 on the date and or meeting should I expect to have sex with her, or is that an option? (sorry for that one, it's vegas) If I have sex with her should I limit it to an hour? (another vegas thing) If I spend less than $100 should I offer her a kiss or handshake? If our get together is considered a meeting can I bring my laptop and get some work done? Is there a separate dutch amount if we gamble afterward? (all these vegas things) If I bring her back to my place do I need to charge for any refreshments, or ask her to chip in? Is it impolite to have a money jar next to her side of the sofa? I'm not planning to have sex but if she insist is she than responsable for the condoms? Do I have to pay her for my share of the condom? If she happens to give me a flu during our outing should I split the doctor bill with her? If we're not going to engage in anything physical should I have palimony papers drawn up? Should I ask her if she is Calvinistic or reform theology? If she is supporting Mitt should I donate to the republican party? If she listens to country should I end the evening early? What do you think goes best, my brown or black shoes with these pants?

JOHNN111 Joined Wed 05/13/09 Posts: 9273	Tue 05/08/12 02:25 PM
I want to pay, EVERYTHING costs more for Women, shoes, clothes, hair... you name it. I wouldn't want her to cut back on things that make her feel good, sexy and comfortable to pay for my sorry arse. Even if she can afford it, It just makes me happy.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 05/08/12 02:31 PM
its not that complex, I think,, just replace the romantic element if you asked someone over for dinner, would you expect them to come expecting to have to cook? its the same , to me, as asking for a 'date', its safest to assume that if you ASKED for someones company, you are PAYING for that company if there is a payment required unless you specify to them that its dutch,,,,

machug Joined Sun 09/04/11 Posts: 6601	Tue 05/08/12 02:46 PM
If I ever have a date... I 'm still "vintage" I guess, I think that the person asking would pay. I'm not saying I wouldn't go dutch. Subsequent dates can be dutch or can switch off who pays. I also think there can be plenty of things to do and places to go that won't cost.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 05/08/12 03:19 PM
its not that complex, I think,, just replace the romantic element if you asked someone over for dinner, would you expect them to come expecting to have to cook? its the same , to me, as asking for a 'date', its safest to assume that if you ASKED for someones company, you are PAYING for that company if there is a payment required unless you specify to them that its dutch,,,, If someone invites me over for dinner, I'd walk in asking how I can help out. I wouldn't just sit down expecting to be waited on.

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Tue 05/08/12 03:21 PM
That only applied to me once... when the guy asked me out and then "lost" his ATM card when it came time to pay. I don't mind paying my half but I'm not down with THOSE kinds of shenanigans.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 05/08/12 03:44 PM
its not that complex, I think,, just replace the romantic element if you asked someone over for dinner, would you expect them to come expecting to have to cook? its the same , to me, as asking for a 'date', its safest to assume that if you ASKED for someones company, you are PAYING for that company if there is a payment required unless you specify to them that its dutch,,,, If someone invites me over for dinner, I'd walk in asking how I can help out. I wouldn't just sit down expecting to be waited on. Theres much to do to prepare and serve a dinner, much less to do to go and be served at a restaurant I would likewise 'help' at dinner, but I would be expecing the inviter to be PROVIDING The dinner,,,

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Tue 05/08/12 03:59 PM
It would make no difference to me whether he paid or not, if I had liked him, I would go out again, if he was not nice then I wouldn't.

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21830	Tue 05/08/12 04:06 PM
Since I usually take a first date to the park to feed the pigeons, I always spring for the stale bread crumbs.

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Tue 05/08/12 04:19 PM
90% of Women wouldn't go on a second date if the man didn't pick up the tab on the first date. Ladies does this apply to you? Fella's do you always pick up the tab on the first date? How do you feel about this? I think whoever invites should pay - unless they agree to meet and go dutch. I'd always be ready to go dutch on a first date - just in case.

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Tue 05/08/12 04:19 PM
Since I usually take a first date to the park to feed the pigeons, I always spring for the stale bread crumbs. Actually, that could be a GREAT date! Just sayin'!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 05/08/12 07:47 PM
its not that complex, I think,, just replace the romantic element if you asked someone over for dinner, would you expect them to come expecting to have to cook? its the same , to me, as asking for a 'date', its safest to assume that if you ASKED for someones company, you are PAYING for that company if there is a payment required unless you specify to them that its dutch,,,, If someone invites me over for dinner, I'd walk in asking how I can help out. I wouldn't just sit down expecting to be waited on. Theres much to do to prepare and serve a dinner, much less to do to go and be served at a restaurant I would likewise 'help' at dinner, but I would be expecing the inviter to be PROVIDING The dinner,,, I've invited someone over for dinner before where they offered to bring the food and we cooked together. So, it really depends on the situation.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 05/09/12 11:15 AM
90% of Women wouldn't go on a second date if the man didn't pick up the tab on the first date. Ladies does this apply to you? Fella's do you always pick up the tab on the first date? How do you feel about this? Census are full of crap. They don't cover all women; just a small population. Me, I always insist on going dutch for the first date.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Wed 05/09/12 11:18 AM
I want to pay, EVERYTHING costs more for Women, shoes, clothes, hair... you name it. I wouldn't want her to cut back on things that make her feel good, sexy and comfortable to pay for my sorry arse. Even if she can afford it, It just makes me happy. well said..and thoughtful ((((Johnn))))

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 05/09/12 11:32 AM
I want to pay, EVERYTHING costs more for Women, shoes, clothes, hair... you name it. I wouldn't want her to cut back on things that make her feel good, sexy and comfortable to pay for my sorry arse. Even if she can afford it, It just makes me happy. There are other ways you can make a woman feel sexy and good without having to buy or pay for things.

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Wed 05/09/12 05:28 PM
I'm getting hungry.

JOHNN111 Joined Wed 05/13/09 Posts: 9273	Thu 05/10/12 01:02 PM
I want to pay, EVERYTHING costs more for Women, shoes, clothes, hair... you name it. I wouldn't want her to cut back on things that make her feel good, sexy and comfortable to pay for my sorry arse. Even if she can afford it, It just makes me happy. There are other ways you can make a woman feel sexy and good without having to buy or pay for things. Ummm I didn't mean my picking up the tab would, in any way, make her feel sexy and good. Not at all! our conversation does that

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 05/10/12 01:08 PM
I want to pay, EVERYTHING costs more for Women, shoes, clothes, hair... you name it. I wouldn't want her to cut back on things that make her feel good, sexy and comfortable to pay for my sorry arse. Even if she can afford it, It just makes me happy. There are other ways you can make a woman feel sexy and good without having to buy or pay for things. Ummm I didn't mean my picking up the tab would, in any way, make her feel sexy and good. Not at all! our conversation does that Exactly. I would feel more sexy and good if a guy said the words. I don't need clothes or shoes to feel sexy but if I did I would pay my own way. Its just more rewarding that way than to have someone pick up the tab; however that is just how I feel.