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Topic: How come?
Dodo_David's photo
Thu 05/03/12 10:38 AM

Women (or men if you are a woman) that you would like to take out always live so far away? Ah, the wonders of the internet!

Surely we don't pick those out because they are a safe distance from us? Your thoughts?

Nah. It's just that the ones near us don't advertise themselves. Thus, we don't know that they exist.

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Thu 05/03/12 10:56 AM
Edited by WholesomeWoman on Thu 05/03/12 10:59 AM

Women (or men if you are a woman) that you would like to take out always live so far away? Ah, the wonders of the internet!

Surely we don't pick those out because they are a safe distance from us? Your thoughts?


Old Hippie I agree and share your sentiments however, in regards to safe distances I see it in an opposite light of your jest. I would not pick out those at a safe distance rather, I have declined men who email wanting to correspond to build a relationship that are at a distance.

The reason I decline men who live a distance is for my safety, looking out for myself firstly. I want to see the man upfront, to date him for, a lot of information is given by body language. In what I mean is it is another element in knowing if right for each other. Body language presents what is in the person's eyes when they speak with you and I am not talking about intimacy but general talk, by the way they would treat me as a person in their mannerisms ... etc. Body language is a form of communication too.

My thoughts include as well in regards to long distance relationships, how am I to know who is truly on the other side of the internet, writing or calling to talk. For, there are a lot of scammers of all sorts the public is aware off.

At my age, this is how I see things Old Hippie and could well be if I was in my twenties or thirties or even forties I may think differently for I know in my younger days I took more risks.

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Thu 05/03/12 03:44 PM


I think sometimes we do pick them because there is a kinda initial safeness that you can get from meeting someone that lives far away.

I think that for some, it’s easier because you can maintain a geographical distance as well as an emotional one as well.



I guess I just don't see the point in doing that for the purpose of maintaining distance.

There really are no people close to me, so anyone I'd get along with and want to meet will be farther away. However, I make it a point to see people I really hit it off well with, whether we're friends or more.



Neither do I but if you think about those that use the internet dating for re-invention purposes, distance can help maintain the illusion of being something that they're not.

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Thu 05/03/12 06:17 PM



I think sometimes we do pick them because there is a kinda initial safeness that you can get from meeting someone that lives far away.

I think that for some, it’s easier because you can maintain a geographical distance as well as an emotional one as well.



I guess I just don't see the point in doing that for the purpose of maintaining distance.

There really are no people close to me, so anyone I'd get along with and want to meet will be farther away. However, I make it a point to see people I really hit it off well with, whether we're friends or more.



Neither do I but if you think about those that use the internet dating for re-invention purposes, distance can help maintain the illusion of being something that they're not.



Yeah, I guess so. Though, that's not dating. That's just pretending you're someone else online.

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Thu 05/03/12 06:20 PM




I think sometimes we do pick them because there is a kinda initial safeness that you can get from meeting someone that lives far away.

I think that for some, it’s easier because you can maintain a geographical distance as well as an emotional one as well.



I guess I just don't see the point in doing that for the purpose of maintaining distance.

There really are no people close to me, so anyone I'd get along with and want to meet will be farther away. However, I make it a point to see people I really hit it off well with, whether we're friends or more.



Neither do I but if you think about those that use the internet dating for re-invention purposes, distance can help maintain the illusion of being something that they're not.



Yeah, I guess so. Though, that's not dating. That's just pretending you're someone else online.


So maybe ya'll are hitting the nail on the head.

You can keep pretending to be who you want if they are a long distance away and not have to live up to expectations.

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Thu 05/03/12 06:25 PM


So maybe ya'll are hitting the nail on the head.

You can keep pretending to be who you want if they are a long distance away and not have to live up to expectations.


Someone who is doing that just wants to live in a fantasy world, rather than real life.

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Thu 05/03/12 06:26 PM



So maybe ya'll are hitting the nail on the head.

You can keep pretending to be who you want if they are a long distance away and not have to live up to expectations.


Someone who is doing that just wants to live in a fantasy world, rather than real life.


That's why in my profile I specified Dallas-Ft Worth (I would consider a 4 hour drive too) area, I want to actually meet them.

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Thu 05/03/12 06:41 PM




So maybe ya'll are hitting the nail on the head.

You can keep pretending to be who you want if they are a long distance away and not have to live up to expectations.


Someone who is doing that just wants to live in a fantasy world, rather than real life.


That's why in my profile I specified Dallas-Ft Worth (I would consider a 4 hour drive too) area, I want to actually meet them.


Good!

I've also put in my profile that I am not interested in anything long distance.

krupa's photo
Thu 05/03/12 06:48 PM
What is a "safe distance?


.and I don't bother with others expectations....

Closer could be nice but, I would rather love my woman for everything that we have from half the country away, than spend another night in a bed of somone who dosn't love me.

Real love don't care about distace.

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Thu 05/03/12 06:53 PM
Friendships are wonderful. I would like to say that there is safety in numbers but then there was that number I tried long ago that was laced with angel dust. Didn't really noticed anything at first. I thought it was just some bad shake. Then it was like the top of my head was on fire. The next thing I remembered was I asking who was driving this truck and I was the only one in the truck. I can remember thinking I was Pac Man going down the center of the highway and the little white lines were power pellets. I was glad I had enough sense to pull the truck over till my head cleared. I think that if my friend was a real friend that he could have at least warned me what was in that joint. Probably wouldn't have helped though since it was the first and only time I can remember doing angel dust. My friendships are different today. I am getting more selective.

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Thu 05/03/12 06:57 PM

Friendships are wonderful. I would like to say that there is safety in numbers but then there was that number I tried long ago that was laced with angel dust. Didn't really noticed anything at first. I thought it was just some bad shake. Then it was like the top of my head was on fire. The next thing I remembered was I asking who was driving this truck and I was the only one in the truck. I can remember thinking I was Pac Man going down the center of the highway and the little white lines were power pellets. I was glad I had enough sense to pull the truck over till my head cleared. I think that if my friend was a real friend that he could have at least warned me what was in that joint. Probably wouldn't have helped though since it was the first and only time I can remember doing angel dust. My friendships are different today. I am getting more selective.


Your buddies woulda handed you off to me talk you down.....Not, even kidding. I have scraped so many people off the ceiling that it ain't even funny.

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Thu 05/03/12 07:10 PM
Edited by WholesomeWoman on Thu 05/03/12 07:16 PM




So maybe ya'll are hitting the nail on the head.

You can keep pretending to be who you want if they are a long distance away and not have to live up to expectations.


Someone who is doing that just wants to live in a fantasy world, rather than real life.


That's why in my profile I specified Dallas-Ft Worth (I would consider a 4 hour drive too) area, I want to actually meet them.


I just changed my profile Old Hippie for I feel the same way as you in wanting to meet the person. flowerforyou Thanks, good thread.

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Thu 05/03/12 07:19 PM

Women (or men if you are a woman) that you would like to take out always live so far away? Ah, the wonders of the internet!

Surely we don't pick those out because they are a safe distance from us? Your thoughts?


Sometimes it interesting to have a second conscience with someone going through the same thing even though they live 4000 miles away as you say at a safe distance. It is like, hmm, I am not the only one who feels this way. Of course, one can guilt trip themselves into thinking that one is just using this other person but then one finds that the significant other is getting something out of the conversation as well. Yeah. I will just get into my jet as soon as I have a jet with jet fuel and fly to meet you.laugh

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Fri 05/04/12 08:13 AM
Edited by navygirl on Fri 05/04/12 08:13 AM

Women (or men if you are a woman) that you would like to take out always live so far away? Ah, the wonders of the internet!

Surely we don't pick those out because they are a safe distance from us? Your thoughts?


I don't think its because of the safe distance; its simply that some people from a distance just seem to click for whatever reason. Its just how life goes sometimes.

Phuque2's photo
Fri 05/04/12 08:30 AM

What is a "safe distance?


.and I don't bother with others expectations....

Closer could be nice but, I would rather love my woman for everything that we have from half the country away, than spend another night in a bed of somone who dosn't love me.

Real love don't care about distace.


Quoted for truth...

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Fri 05/04/12 08:49 AM
friendship can bridge any distance...depends if dat friendship gets to become something else dan its great to be near....but hey!!! thanks to technology and internet we can always get online....and there!!! soo many frens!!! a little of sharing and communication sure goes a long way... :)

pyxxie13's photo
Sat 05/05/12 09:37 PM


Maybe the distance makes it more appealing? laugh

does it make it more apealing to you?

Nope ..don't care.

josie68's photo
Sat 05/05/12 09:42 PM

What is a "safe distance?


.and I don't bother with others expectations....

Closer could be nice but, I would rather love my woman for everything that we have from half the country away, than spend another night in a bed of somone who dosn't love me.

Real love don't care about distace.


:thumbsup:

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Sun 05/06/12 06:24 AM
Distance dosent matter if honest intention is their. But all I ever vet is mail from Nigeria Lol

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