I would lik to hear everybody's take on this. What are your thoughts on change in a relationship, what do you think is the norm and why? Should there be change as the relationship matures? Is it normal if affection changes? Should your partner have to to be assured everyday and waking minute that you love and care for them? Or is it somthing you just know in a secure relationship? My belief is, two people share different qualities. When u first meet, it is what is called a honey moon stage, this usually lasts2-3 months, then the comfortable stage, this is when you start feeling either true bonding and comparability or things start to go south. Then you make it to the partnership stage, this is when you both pretty much know what the other is thinking, and you know how the other person deals and feels just by looking at them. This is usually after the one year Mark. I believe that in a true bond between two people it is always good to show affection in the form of a kiss, a hug, a wink, an I love you. I don't believe these qualities need to be expressed every 15 minutes to show your love and affection for one another, and if it does and a person needs this this often, I believe it is a form of insecurity. Anyway please elaborate on my topic.

It is exhausting to have to define every single moment of a relationship. If you have to try so darn hard..why bother? It either is a healthy relationship or it isn't. I am sure that you will know if it is or isn't.
Relationships change yes, however, I feel a couple in love grow together and form together.

Relationships change,
For me I love to be told I am loved, but i don;t really care if it's once a day or a hundred times, regardless I know that I am loved.
It's not so much in what he says but in every thing he does. He shows me constantly that he loves me.

oh, is this a rated M thread?

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You mean PG

Exactly Josie, I couldn't have said it better myself.

Saying, or hearing the words 'I love you'
should never be an issue.
For whatever reason it is said.
It is the bottom line.
A good thing.
To be appreciated.

Good relationships evolve. Bad relationship de-evolve.

I don't think that anyone should say "I love you" in a relationship unless they mean it.

I also agree with Pyx, it's exhausting trying to define every single aspect of a relationship..just be in it until you no longer want to.

love does not change

but people mature and grow in their lives and couples have to make the daily effort to experience that growth together

so change is inevitable, and whatever we do to show how much we feel for a person when we court is what we should do to show how much we feel for them once they are a permanent part of our life

IMHO

if thats telling them daily that you love them (if thats what we did to initially assure them), than that expressoin shouldnt change,,,,