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Topic: How cautious are you?
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 04/02/12 12:40 PM
How long does it take you to give out additional contact information to people you get to know on sites like this? Will you give your email address, or IM screen name to someone you chat with here? How long does it take you to give your phone number out? What about making plans to meet? This could be for someone you want to be friends with or want to date.

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Mon 04/02/12 12:43 PM
For me it just depends on how chatting with the person in particular makes me feel. I do not usually jump the gun on anything. I try to be careful as we never know who is on the other end of that keyboard.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Mon 04/02/12 12:47 PM Edited by 2KidsMom on Mon 04/02/12 12:51 PM
very long time.. ...and I will not even respond if I get the creepies I will if I get a good feeling about them..otherwise..no. Always go with my first thought...think long..think wrong If in Doubt...Dont..

bhernandez Joined Sun 03/21/10 Posts: 14901	Mon 04/02/12 12:52 PM
i never really understand the need for another email address, but i've given it out. i used to give out my number out just as easily as my name, but i no longer have a phone. slowly but surely i'm working my way to zero communication with humans.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 04/02/12 12:56 PM
i never really understand the need for another email address, but i've given it out. i used to give out my number out just as easily as my name, but i no longer have a phone. slowly but surely i'm working my way to zero communication with humans. For a while, I could not get mingle to work on my phone. So, for people I enjoyed keeping in touch with from here, another way to keep in touch like an email address was helpful as I wasn't always at the computer.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 04/02/12 12:58 PM
I'm usually pretty leery about the whole thing. Unless it's someone I've dealt with on line for awhile (decades) and I'm reasonably certain they're not up to something underhanded. There are a handful of people here who have my mailing address and/or phone number. Not many. And it's been good, because none of them have tried to trick me into anything. Yet.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Mon 04/02/12 01:00 PM
I'm usually pretty leery about the whole thing. Unless it's someone I've dealt with on line for awhile (decades) and I'm reasonably certain they're not up to something underhanded. There are a handful of people here who have my mailing address and/or phone number. Not many. And it's been good, because none of them have tried to trick me into anything. Yet. ((((SexyLexy)))) Dont mind me...Just dropped in for my daily Stalk.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 04/02/12 01:02 PM Edited by singmesweet on Mon 04/02/12 01:06 PM
If a person is local, I'll give out my phone number and plan to meet fairly quickly (within a week or two, if possible) as there's no need to waste time if we're not a match for friendship or more. If it's on here? I can usually tell fairly quickly if I get along well with someone. If that happens, I'll be happy to keep in touch with them off the site. Sometimes, it's just easier to chat via phone or email, rather than the site mail or forums. That being said, not many here actually have my number.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 04/02/12 01:20 PM
I'm usually pretty leery about the whole thing. Unless it's someone I've dealt with on line for awhile (decades) and I'm reasonably certain they're not up to something underhanded. There are a handful of people here who have my mailing address and/or phone number. Not many. And it's been good, because none of them have tried to trick me into anything. Yet. ((((SexyLexy)))) Dont mind me...Just dropped in for my daily Stalk. No complaints here -- without my stalkers, I'd be completely ignored!

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Mon 04/02/12 01:21 PM
I'm usually pretty leery about the whole thing. Unless it's someone I've dealt with on line for awhile (decades) and I'm reasonably certain they're not up to something underhanded. There are a handful of people here who have my mailing address and/or phone number. Not many. And it's been good, because none of them have tried to trick me into anything. Yet. ((((SexyLexy)))) Dont mind me...Just dropped in for my daily Stalk. No complaints here -- without my stalkers, I'd be completely ignored! I know that feeling...

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Mon 04/02/12 01:23 PM
How long does it take you to give out additional contact information to people you get to know on sites like this? Will you give your email address, or IM screen name to someone you chat with here? How long does it take you to give your phone number out? What about making plans to meet? This could be for someone you want to be friends with or want to date. I always waited until they initiated it, unless it was first contact or obviously a scam/spam.

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Mon 04/02/12 03:06 PM
The first few days on here , yep I gave it out easily, but learnt quickly that that is dumb, I changed my email. So now, there are a few people who I have, but not many. It's the same with facebook, people who I enjoy talking to on here, I like to add as I can see what they are up to and see their family, It's nice.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Mon 04/02/12 03:13 PM
I wait till we have gotten to know each other well and just kinda let things take course. If we have been chatting it up for a while....we will know when we feel comfortable to move to the phone. I do enjoy putting voices to faces..... but never in a hurry. Just gotta both build a comfort for it, then it happens!!! JMO

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Mon 04/02/12 03:24 PM
I depends. If I get along with you I'll swap IMs or e-mails to communicate off site. The rest just depends on the person and the conversations. There have been people I have given it to rather quickly, and there are those I have spoken too for long periods of time who still do not know more than an e-mail.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Mon 04/02/12 06:20 PM
I don't ask, I don't tell. This is the best way for a hermit and recluse like me.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Mon 04/02/12 06:25 PM
I cross the street without lookin..... I turn left on red........ I don't wear a helmet........ But........ I don't give out my #!!!!!!!

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Mon 04/02/12 07:04 PM
i bet you get tons of response if you put the dating questions in the right forums lollllllll Dating & Relationships but myself i really got to know someone well before i fling out information to much my friend

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 04/02/12 07:34 PM
I don't mind giving my email out immediately, or my IM chat, if I have a liking to the person.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76392	Mon 04/02/12 07:40 PM
Honestly I have gave out my number to several members after getting to know them... Most I would say I have talked to them for a least a month or so.. We have even had meets with others in the area. And fixing to have a Houston meet as well... Some of us have a 10 hour trip to make in order to meet. Myself it will be about 4 1/2 hours but well worth it... As far as my e-mail I never use it so better off e-mailing me here I check mine here off and on all day long.. And I don't like to do the IM even have mine shut off here.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/03/12 05:27 AM
I wait till we have gotten to know each other well and just kinda let things take course. If we have been chatting it up for a while....we will know when we feel comfortable to move to the phone. I do enjoy putting voices to faces..... but never in a hurry. Just gotta both build a comfort for it, then it happens!!! JMO How long does it take to get comfortable with each other? A few days? Weeks? Months?