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Topic: Recruitment and Selection Baggage
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Sun 03/04/12 02:09 PM
Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.............

I'm gonna need a bigger........

Truck!!!!!

laugh noway laugh

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Sun 03/04/12 02:48 PM
Edited by PacificStar48 on Sun 03/04/12 02:50 PM
I just wonder how long it takes to get past the agravation you feel when you find out one more time that you have made the effort to do the whole process and someone was just looking for a little temporary distraction or someone to listen to theri story but really didn't want to face anyone who knew it.

Confession might be good for the soul of the "speaker" but I am finding out it is just a huge red flag that Y have found another Dud.

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Sun 03/04/12 02:53 PM
Duds can be just as destructive as live bombs.

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Sun 03/04/12 02:58 PM

I just wonder how long it takes to get past the agravation you feel when you find out one more time that you have made the effort to do the whole process and someone was just looking for a little temporary distraction or someone to listen to theri story but really didn't want to face anyone who knew it.

Confession might be good for the soul of the "speaker" but I am finding out it is just a huge red flag that Y have found another Dud.


I honestly thought that I was one of the people that didn’t let the “aggravation” get to them until just recently.

Now I have to deal with the fact that I was/am extremely aggravated and find a way to not hang on to it.


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Sun 03/04/12 03:01 PM

Duds can be just as destructive as live bombs.


I'd rather not have to deal with either :smile:

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Sun 03/04/12 03:06 PM
I am guessin we have all suffered enough "Duds"......

Yet we keep holdin out hope fot that.....

Diamond in the Rough!!!!!

Giving up is not an option for me!!!

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Sun 03/04/12 03:14 PM
Sometimes you can think that you're self aware and evolved when in actual fact you've still got one foot in the cave.

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Sun 03/04/12 03:16 PM

It’s funny the strange things that run through your mind while cooking but with a ‘look-see’ drink rapidly approaching, I started thinking about my relationship baggage and it dawned on me that I’m not actually carrying any baggage from past relationships....the suitcases of baggage that I am carrying is from what I’m going to call the ‘recruitment and selection’ process of dating.

For those of you who may not automatically get what I’m talking about, this is you realising that you’ve started to treat all men/women like duds way before you have even met them.

This is way before the thought of meeting them in person has even crossed your mind. You may of only just exchanged a handful of emails but in your mind, you've already rejected them and you're thinking about how to get rid as painlessly as possible.

Is anyone else carrying any recruitment and selection baggage?

*remember, resistance is not futile and not commenting is always an option laugh

hmmm you always have something interesting to say i love it
...i can relate here i think we all canwinking i to used to think like that ..from about late teens to about 26 and 1/2 ...i had an experience that really shook me....but one day i guess you might say that i had alot of thoughts on my mind personal questions,what if's that i was holding onto,so i decided i was going to open myself up cause i got tired of wondering and i kept a mindset that,hell this is nothing compared to what i just went through,so what have i got to lose-nothing i thought to myself,...later on down the road i stopped being dishonest,i started accepting things that before this i never would have,and i guess took my anger and turned it into motivation and conviction and started looking into my life ...what i need to do to be successful....that one irritated me something fierce lol,but ill just say relying on others failed miserable for me at least so i later decided to self employ myself because that was what is was going to take for me ...it was that simple ...and along the way i learned more ...i started to gain back all the self esteem i don't know where i lost at lol ...that was good...it took a couple years to get what i do working at is highest potential-and i think that it is more realistic to do what your good at then to do what you love,and that you can love what your good at cause it's better to live your life and not someone else's ...some people are just lucky and they can do what they love because they are good at it,if you stay trying to do the aforementioned,i think you only set yourself up for failure..and there isn't nothing worse than hearing someone else doing what u wanted to do bragging about it all over hell but at the same time will give you **** every time you complain about your life ...thats someone else living YOUR life and doesn't give one rats *** about you because it's his or her *** ...and i guess here im now im just finding one more thing that i don't want to live without...my sexy one to be ...just hope i find her soonsmile2

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Sun 03/04/12 03:19 PM
Edited by RainbowTrout on Sun 03/04/12 03:20 PM
I really like Milk Duds. No offence to those that can't breast feed.

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Sun 03/04/12 03:31 PM
Edited by 42BlackBBW on Sun 03/04/12 03:32 PM


It’s funny the strange things that run through your mind while cooking but with a ‘look-see’ drink rapidly approaching, I started thinking about my relationship baggage and it dawned on me that I’m not actually carrying any baggage from past relationships....the suitcases of baggage that I am carrying is from what I’m going to call the ‘recruitment and selection’ process of dating.

For those of you who may not automatically get what I’m talking about, this is you realising that you’ve started to treat all men/women like duds way before you have even met them.

This is way before the thought of meeting them in person has even crossed your mind. You may of only just exchanged a handful of emails but in your mind, you've already rejected them and you're thinking about how to get rid as painlessly as possible.

Is anyone else carrying any recruitment and selection baggage?

*remember, resistance is not futile and not commenting is always an option laugh

hmmm you always have something interesting to say i love it
...i can relate here i think we all canwinking i to used to think like that ..from about late teens to about 26 and 1/2 ...i had an experience that really shook me....but one day i guess you might say that i had alot of thoughts on my mind personal questions,what if's that i was holding onto,so i decided i was going to open myself up cause i got tired of wondering and i kept a mindset that,hell this is nothing compared to what i just went through,so what have i got to lose-nothing i thought to myself,...later on down the road i stopped being dishonest,i started accepting things that before this i never would have,and i guess took my anger and turned it into motivation and conviction and started looking into my life ...what i need to do to be successful....that one irritated me something fierce lol,but ill just say relying on others failed miserable for me at least so i later decided to self employ myself because that was what is was going to take for me ...it was that simple ...and along the way i learned more ...i started to gain back all the self esteem i don't know where i lost at lol ...that was good...it took a couple years to get what i do working at is highest potential-and i think that it is more realistic to do what your good at then to do what you love,and that you can love what your good at cause it's better to live your life and not someone else's ...some people are just lucky and they can do what they love because they are good at it,if you stay trying to do the aforementioned,i think you only set yourself up for failure..and there isn't nothing worse than hearing someone else doing what u wanted to do bragging about it all over hell but at the same time will give you **** every time you complain about your life ...thats someone else living YOUR life and doesn't give one rats *** about you because it's his or her *** ...and i guess here im now im just finding one more thing that i don't want to live without...my sexy one to be ...just hope i find her soonsmile2


Actually it was your post that got me thinking..:smile:

Personally, I think it's a Scorpio thing laugh

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Sun 03/04/12 03:34 PM

I really like Milk Duds. No offence to those that can't breast feed.


I think they're the same as the milk bottles we have here. Can't stand them myself laugh

RainbowTrout's photo
Sun 03/04/12 03:42 PM


I really like Milk Duds. No offence to those that can't breast feed.


I think they're the same as the milk bottles we have here. Can't stand them myself laugh


I am sorry. I didn't realize you were lactose intolerant.laugh

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Sun 03/04/12 03:45 PM



It’s funny the strange things that run through your mind while cooking but with a ‘look-see’ drink rapidly approaching, I started thinking about my relationship baggage and it dawned on me that I’m not actually carrying any baggage from past relationships....the suitcases of baggage that I am carrying is from what I’m going to call the ‘recruitment and selection’ process of dating.

For those of you who may not automatically get what I’m talking about, this is you realising that you’ve started to treat all men/women like duds way before you have even met them.

This is way before the thought of meeting them in person has even crossed your mind. You may of only just exchanged a handful of emails but in your mind, you've already rejected them and you're thinking about how to get rid as painlessly as possible.

Is anyone else carrying any recruitment and selection baggage?

*remember, resistance is not futile and not commenting is always an option laugh



No. I do realize that not all men are like


I know this as well as well but this is about my recognising what I was doing on a subconscious level.




Well, I guess it's good you've realized you're doing this so you can stop.

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Sun 03/04/12 03:48 PM



I really like Milk Duds. No offence to those that can't breast feed.


I think they're the same as the milk bottles we have here. Can't stand them myself laugh


I am sorry. I didn't realize you were lactose intolerant.laugh


No reason why you should...I am lactose intolerant. Jokes on you Mr Trout laugh

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Sun 03/04/12 03:51 PM




I really like Milk Duds. No offence to those that can't breast feed.


I think they're the same as the milk bottles we have here. Can't stand them myself laugh


I am sorry. I didn't realize you were lactose intolerant.laugh


No reason why you should...I am lactose intolerant. Jokes on you Mr Trout laugh


Oh, my. Well, there are a lot of other oses. Frutose, Maltose, Dextrose, Glucose and the list goes on. No biggie.:smile:

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Sun 03/04/12 04:06 PM



It’s funny the strange things that run through your mind while cooking but with a ‘look-see’ drink rapidly approaching, I started thinking about my relationship baggage and it dawned on me that I’m not actually carrying any baggage from past relationships....the suitcases of baggage that I am carrying is from what I’m going to call the ‘recruitment and selection’ process of dating.

For those of you who may not automatically get what I’m talking about, this is you realising that you’ve started to treat all men/women like duds way before you have even met them.

This is way before the thought of meeting them in person has even crossed your mind. You may of only just exchanged a handful of emails but in your mind, you've already rejected them and you're thinking about how to get rid as painlessly as possible.

Is anyone else carrying any recruitment and selection baggage?

*remember, resistance is not futile and not commenting is always an option laugh

hmmm you always have something interesting to say i love it
...i can relate here i think we all canwinking i to used to think like that ..from about late teens to about 26 and 1/2 ...i had an experience that really shook me....but one day i guess you might say that i had alot of thoughts on my mind personal questions,what if's that i was holding onto,so i decided i was going to open myself up cause i got tired of wondering and i kept a mindset that,hell this is nothing compared to what i just went through,so what have i got to lose-nothing i thought to myself,...later on down the road i stopped being dishonest,i started accepting things that before this i never would have,and i guess took my anger and turned it into motivation and conviction and started looking into my life ...what i need to do to be successful....that one irritated me something fierce lol,but ill just say relying on others failed miserable for me at least so i later decided to self employ myself because that was what is was going to take for me ...it was that simple ...and along the way i learned more ...i started to gain back all the self esteem i don't know where i lost at lol ...that was good...it took a couple years to get what i do working at is highest potential-and i think that it is more realistic to do what your good at then to do what you love,and that you can love what your good at cause it's better to live your life and not someone else's ...some people are just lucky and they can do what they love because they are good at it,if you stay trying to do the aforementioned,i think you only set yourself up for failure..and there isn't nothing worse than hearing someone else doing what u wanted to do bragging about it all over hell but at the same time will give you **** every time you complain about your life ...thats someone else living YOUR life and doesn't give one rats *** about you because it's his or her *** ...and i guess here im now im just finding one more thing that i don't want to live without...my sexy one to be ...just hope i find her soonsmile2


Actually it was your post that got me thinking..:smile:

Personally, I think it's a Scorpio thing laugh
grrrrrrrrrrrrrr;):tongue: bigsmile pitchfork

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