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Topic: Why Do People Get Married More Than Once
lilott Joined Thu 10/12/06 Posts: 2295	Mon 02/27/12 01:57 PM
They say that the third times the charm but I'm not willing to take that chance.

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 02/27/12 02:04 PM
I suppose people will get married a second time because they think next time it will work. People do the same with relationships even when they have bad experiences. I won't have a relationship for the same reason you folks won't marry again. I don't want to go through another bad experience. I am ready Willing and Able to Commit to a full blown relationship but I will not get married.. Only difference is a piece of paper that will cost you money once its over. You can still get the life sucked out of you in a relationship. You lose all your freedom. I have lived a charmed life......my ex wife bought me the house I now live in...... I guess she still Loves me

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 02/27/12 02:08 PM
I suppose people will get married a second time because they think next time it will work. People do the same with relationships even when they have bad experiences. I won't have a relationship for the same reason you folks won't marry again. I don't want to go through another bad experience. I am ready Willing and Able to Commit to a full blown relationship but I will not get married.. Only difference is a piece of paper that will cost you money once its over. You can still get the life sucked out of you in a relationship. You lose all your freedom. I have lived a charmed life......my ex wife bought me the house I now live in...... I guess she still Loves me Lucky you; my ex-boyfriend almost made me lose my house.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 02/27/12 03:01 PM Edited by MariahsFantasy on Mon 02/27/12 03:54 PM
One thing I can only transpire is probably the unabashed addiction. Lots of people get attached to the institution that is the ball and chain many times over. IN my world its mainly for sycophants who settle, want to take "the next step" and shout it on rooftops STRAIGHT outta their egos.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 02/27/12 03:08 PM
I have done it and been heavily burned. But, if I do not offer ALL of me, then I offer nothing at all. I will not make someone pay for another's faults. Nor will I decide THEIR life by making broad statements about things that affect them. A free and open heart, is just that. This. You can't expect to get what you cannot yourself give.

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Mon 02/27/12 03:14 PM
They say that the third times the charm but I'm not willing to take that chance. I hear ya brother. I would shack up with some chick but there ain't no way I would try the 3rd time.....

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 02/27/12 04:25 PM
They say that the third times the charm but I'm not willing to take that chance. I hear ya brother. I would shack up with some chick but there ain't no way I would try the 3rd time..... Hate to break it to you but after living so many years common law; you will be treated like your married in the eyes of the court. Best to live in seperate homes.

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Mon 02/27/12 04:28 PM
I have done it and been heavily burned. But, if I do not offer ALL of me, then I offer nothing at all. I will not make someone pay for another's faults. Nor will I decide THEIR life by making broad statements about things that affect them. A free and open heart, is just that. This. You can't expect to get what you cannot yourself give. all of This. ((you two are the bestest!!))

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Mon 02/27/12 04:36 PM
I have done it and been heavily burned. But, if I do not offer ALL of me, then I offer nothing at all. I will not make someone pay for another's faults. Nor will I decide THEIR life by making broad statements about things that affect them. A free and open heart, is just that. This. You can't expect to get what you cannot yourself give. all of This. ((you two are the bestest!!)) I can almost see the rainbows and gummi bears......

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 02/27/12 04:38 PM
If you have a bad Experience why take the chance of repeating that same experience. I will Not get married again... Same here. It was the worst experience of my life.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Mon 02/27/12 04:44 PM
Haven't done it yet and I'm pretty certain that I won't ever do it but I do understand why some people choose to formalise their commitment to each other by undertaking the ceremony/vows etc, I just don't feel that it's necessary in my case.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48947	Mon 02/27/12 05:22 PM
Observations About Life #37: If you keep getting rotten fruit, then pick from another orchard. I have been married more than once. After being burned by a previous relationship, I decided to try dating a woman who was born and raised some place other than the USA. In short, I decided to pick from another orchard. My late wife was a Latina from South America. Because of her cultural background, she was a much better fit for me than any white woman born and raised in the USA.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Mon 02/27/12 05:42 PM
Ummmmmmmmmmmmm.............. I'm a glutton for.......... punishment!!!!!!!!!!

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48947	Mon 02/27/12 06:27 PM
Ummmmmmmmmmmmm.............. I'm a glutton for.......... punishment!!!!!!!!!! Surely, you're not serious.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 02/27/12 06:28 PM
If you have a bad Experience why take the chance of repeating that same experience. I will Not get married again... living without taking risk is just existing many things I havent gotten right the very first time, that I have tried again fear of failure doesnt have to stop us in our tracks,,,

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 02/27/12 06:33 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Mon 02/27/12 06:34 PM
the reason is because man #2 is not the first husband- the man who ruined your life and caused you a ton of grief a second marriage is not going to be the same as the first because it's not the same two people so the relationship dynamics will not be as they were in the first failed attempt plus a lot of us learned things in our first marriages that can help us to ultimately become better partners....call it a level of understanding... second chances can be blessed things nonetheless Ima stayin' away from the hitchin' post myself....at least for the time being

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 02/27/12 06:33 PM
If you have a bad Experience why take the chance of repeating that same experience. I will Not get married again... living without taking risk is just existing many things I havent gotten right the very first time, that I have tried again fear of failure doesnt have to stop us in our tracks,,,

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 02/27/12 06:49 PM
Ummmmmmmmmmmmm.............. I'm a glutton for.......... punishment!!!!!!!!!! ha ha. I don't even see the need of a relationship; never mind a marriage.

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Mon 02/27/12 08:30 PM
I don't particularly want to get married again, but I'd be open to it I guess. It would depend on the relationship. I'd be down for a Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn type relationship. They seem to make it work without marriage.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 02/27/12 08:49 PM
You think I am talking in Circles again singme I have been on two roundabouts with you not going for three in a row No, as you can see from my post, the same could be said about a lot of things. Are you just that way with marriage, or other things as well?