Observations About Life #37: If you keep getting rotten fruit, then pick from another orchard.

I have been married more than once. After being burned by a previous relationship, I decided to try dating a woman who was born and raised some place other than the USA. In short, I decided to pick from another orchard.

My late wife was a Latina from South America. Because of her cultural background, she was a much better fit for me than any white woman born and raised in the USA.

The same could be said about a lot of things. Why date someone again if you've had a bad experience in the past? Why drive again if you've had a bad experience in the past? Why meet new people if you've had bad experiences in the past? Why walk across the road if you've had bad experiences in the past. I could go on..

No, as you can see from my post, the same could be said about a lot of things. Are you just that way with marriage, or other things as well?

living without taking risk is just existing

many things I havent gotten right the very first time, that I have tried again

fear of failure doesnt have to stop us in our tracks,,,

I suppose people will get married a second time because they think next time it will work. People do the same with relationships even when they have bad experiences. I won't have a relationship for the same reason you folks won't marry again. I don't want to go through another bad experience.

I see more and more men doing this nowadays. In California you don't have to go very far to find a Latina. The cultural background is very different even when they have been raised here.

So...you're just using me for entertainment value????

You are just figuring that out now?

*Sigh*

Okay; I will do that.







Just promise me you'll provide good references when you're done with me?

I don't have children nor do I ever plan on providing sperm to fertilize any eggs therefore see no need of ever getting married. I can't even stand myself so would never expect anyone else to!

If you have a bad Experience why take the chance of repeating that same experience.

I will Not get married again...

For men it's like car shopping, you trade the old car with a lot of miles on it in for the newer less driven model.

Surely, you're not serious.

You think I am talking in Circles again singme

I have been on two roundabouts with you not going for three in a row
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If you have a bad Experience why take the chance of repeating that same experience.

I will Not get married again...


I believe in love and I will definitely do it again. Just because it didnt work out the 1st time dont mean that it wont work ever again. I think its a shame when people close themselves off, theres someone out there, someone special and for all of u who say u wont marry again, I dont believe it, cause as soon as u meet someone and fall in love with them, u will want to marry them and make that person yours.

I think age is a factor too. If you are over 50 like I am, your perspective may be different than someone who is 20-40 and interested in building a life together and possibly having children. For me a major factor is assets. If I die, I want my sons to inherit what I have worked for and I would want the man I am with to leave his assets to his family. I also feel that it makes for less conflict with grown children who may think you are marrying for money. This is just the way I feel and I do make it clear to men I date from the beginning that I do not want to get married and the reason why. It is their choice if they want to see me.

If you have a bad Experience why take the chance of repeating that same experience.

I will Not get married again...