Ya but you stepped up to the plate and raised those kids.......Seeeexxxaaaay.

the 'average' male sperm donor is more a paycheck than a father,,,rather inside the home or not,,,but especially outside the home

when they can be made to send financial support

I am not really sure why a person wouldn't want to stay with their child. There are many reasons, most of them are crappy reasons. One thing that i have learned is that if a child doesn't have a good positive male role model in their life, they are more likely to turn to someone else who is willing to give them that attention. That person tends to be the wrong person and the child is more likely to turn to criminal acts and other negative actions. Not all of them though thankfully. Then again i could be wrong about all this.
All I know for sure if that I have been raising my 3 daughters on my own for over 4 years now. I wish their mother was in their life more but I can't worry about that. I just concentrate on being the best father I can and be there for my girls when they need me and try to give the best chance in life that i can.

Nope you are right. Especially male children without a father figure are 2x more likely to go to jail and 3x more likely to do criminal acts.

You are in soooooo much trouble! I only had one daughter to raise with my son!

I never understood a woman who could walk away from a child. If I carried something around in my belly for 9 months, puking my guts up (as it is the family tradition) for a good three, and then passed something the size of a bowling ball out my vagina I would keep it forever even if it was a space alien and do my best to raise it.

They are called selfish, Terri Lynn. It baffles me too!

My favorite movie is Citizen Ruth. This huffer gets pregnant repeatedly and had a bunch of kids, etc. and her brother keeps raising them. Scary thing is people like that exist. I know someone who had FIVE abortions and then kept the 6th baby. I told her she was lucky after doing that the her uterus FIVE times she was lucky she was able to carry the 6th baby to term. She and I knew each other pretty well and at one point, she asked me if I want anti-abortion. I said "it's a personal decision but I am anti-dumb azz and after the first or second time, I would think you knew how women got pregnant!!"

There are could be a million reasons, but really you can't walk in someone else's shoes. It could be fear, insecurity, selfishness. Maybe just that they have grown up without a family and have no idea how to even cope.
Maybe they feel shut out.
Maybe they just don't care.
Maybe they have no idea at all and need to grow up.

I have been married twice, both men deserted our children.

I have brought up my 6 mucnhkins, they are from 12 to 22, so far, they have had no trouble with drugs alcohol, or any trouble with the law.. They are so far stable and family orientated, fingers crossed.

Family is all they have and they are very very loyal.

The older ones have jobs, the younger ones are all doing well in school, so, so far, so good.

I guess it doesn't really matter who brings a child up, as long as they know they are loved just because they are special. With no bitterness or blame.

My children where abused and although some of them canot stand their Dad and would like to hurt him, they are still gentle loving young men, just they won't let their Dad near them or me.

I cherish every moment I have with them and try not to think about why their mother left. All know to do is be there for them and cherish everything.

I dont think its selfish at all. I think its a head above destroying any potential it has by destroying it before it is born to allow it to live out its life in a potentially loving environment with people who want to love it.

you are so right,,, I think its awful how many adults have given up the notion of how SIGNIFICANT the parental roles are in a childs life,,,and how detrimental fatherless homes can be to a child

I would never CHOOSE this situation for my child ON PURPOSE<,,,


http://www.photius.com/feminocracy/facts_on_fatherless_kids.html

Children raised by a single parent aren't doomed. Some studies have shown that, given similar socio-economic conditions, there are actually statistical advantages to single parent households like increased extended family quality time and more personal interactions with the parent. Strong, positive male role models do not need to be the father, or even a "new"man in mom's life.

On the original question, I think that women are faced with more permanent decisions when pregnant if they feel they don't actually want to be a parent "right now" than men. It's pretty easy to just walk away as a man thinking you could come back if you wanted (the reality is that it often isn't). Also, if a woman realizes she doesn't want to be with the father anymore, the fetus comes with her.

I agree. These surveys they do are on a very small population and are quite inconsistent. There are lots of troubled kids that were raised with both parents so dad being there did not make much of a difference. There are so many circumstances as to why kids turn to crime and I think blaming the single parent is pure crap. Many kids were raised by their mom during WW1 and WW2 while dad was away at war and the majority of them turned out fine. Kids are just out of control. Personally; they should never have outlawed spanking. I recall hearing a 9 year old kid telling his mom to f-ck off and said if she tried to hit him; he would call the police. Kids know they can do what they want and that parents can't do much to punish them. However; I doubt that factor was in thes surveys.