I can tell you how my late wife and I got together.

Marrying me was the penance that her confessor assigned to her.

I think not repeating mistakes is wise. But I wonder in matters of the heart if reason and planning should only be used spareingly. I think it is alright to let your heart feel that little zing and flirt with it a little no matter how terrible you may have flubbed it in the past. It is a natural instinct to be drawn to what will ultimately make us happy.

As far a spicking someone our family or friends say is best for us I have to consider the source. Have they consistently suggested what turned out to be in my best interest or did they pick the last disater? Do they make me happy or are they constantly busting my chops and forceing me in a box that makes me miserable? For the insufferable ninnies that ask why I am still single I have no reservation in telling them "I have not found anyone I want to make as miserable as their partner"and give them a little wink like I am kidding and let them stew in their own doubts.

My sense of humor is a lil.....off the hook..

I once made the mistake of telling a friend and his wife....who were busy minding my business.....

That I didnt want to have a completely messed up relationship such as they had..........with ANYONE!!!!!

I havn't seen them in......years!!!

I agree with the learning to be happy with yourself first. I don't think people necessarily have to be friends first, but it's always good to actually get out and meet new people as friends. When you're enjoying life and spending time with friends, you'll be much happier and things may change for the better.

This is just my opinion. I am well aware that people will disagree. Maybe I should start adding this at the end of my posts.

Where was the humor in that?

Some people can't handle hearing the truth about themselves.

being single is not a 'doomed' state at all,, all the fewer opportunity to be disappointed or stressed by someone elses issues,,,

It was funny at the time........but it was also true!!!
been there done that....dont need that again!!!

I have reached that point already that I will be single forever but I don't look at is being doomed or cursed. There is so much more to life than being coupled up.

I don't know about you but it's feels kinda freeing huh

I've been happily single for 3 yrs

I never feel "cursed." I feel blessed. Blessed to be single, healthy and still interested in living.

I suppose there's a reason for everything.

Its just important to know the truth, see it for what it is and keep moving on the hamster wheel.

I love it. I don't have to be accountable to anyone, pick up after someone, have an arguement/debate about taking out the garbage or when the home reno will be done, can have a good night's sleep, the tv stations aren't being changed every few minutes, and I don't need to rearrange my schedule for anyone. I come home to peace and tranquility as I don't need nor want to talk to anyone. Life is good and I am free.

The truth about what? Why people are alone? I'm not sure most people want to hear the truth, unless it's something they'll agree with.

Could be. But I'm not most people. I'd rather hear the truth because it always comes out later on. I think that's a cynical way of thinking. Sure we don't want to get hurt. Not everyone's truth is the same here. I personally don't believe in callousness. And that is attached to fallacy. Lying to me, is downright the cruelest thing anyone can do. If they cared they wouldn't feel the need to.

The humor is really that it sometimes takes serving people back the same poison they have been serving you and the freedom not to have to swallow their "crap" anymore.

Just been my "result" that downloading the toxic people in my life has not lead to loneliness but actually peace and better relationships. Nobody is comfortable watching a person get verbally kicked in the shins but usually they just distance thenselves and say nothing so all you have left are the pains in the arses you tolerate until you can't stand it anymore. So many people say well I got divorced and lost all my friends and I think well they probably were not much of a friend in the first place.

I'm all for being honest. I was just curious as to what was funny about what he was talking about. I guess there was something funny about it, since you saw it. I don't see it, though. But I do see honesty in it.

two universally controversial truths about human individuals


1. They can have a healthy happy life without an intimate partner.
2. They can have a healthy, happy life without sex,,,,


BUT They have to love themself enough to manage either one,,,,and be able to cherish more than one type of relationship or one type of 'intimacy' or love


,,there, thats better,,,lol

OK, self-love. Whitney Houston (RIP) taught me that. It really is the greatest love of all.

Truth is....
If we aint happy with ourselves.......
we don't have anything to offer anyone else.
Soooo many people don't realize this and rush into the next relationship, without first finding peace and happiness with themselves.