I stopped feeling sorry for myself and I realized, we're only doomed if we choose to be. People can't see what we don't show them.



i agree with you on that

Once you put the "no kids" thing out there, you might as well just pack it in....

Pretty Much!!!!

i'm not going to live forever so no.
my life is finite.

You create your own reality. You pretty much decide what you can and will abide and accept into your life. If your requirements are to narrow, so are your chances.

If you believe you can't, you won't.

If you INTEND to have someone... you will.

None of us are so unique and/or special that there is no one out there we cannot love or live with except by our own choice to live alone.

Creating our own reality is all we got.

Not everyone will see it is all I'm saying.

Get out of my head!!!! I even tried the stop searching thing, unfortunately the light at the end of the tunnel was the headlamp of an oncoming train.

I am fortunate to always have a wonderful friend to talk to and spend time with. It is so comforting to have an attractive woman to hang out with. It is such a boost to my morale just knowing that she cares and will always be there, as long as I never suggest the possibility of a physical relationship with her as that tends to make her nauseous.

Having a dear friend like that makes it so much easier to cope with being single. Whenever I start to think it would be nice to have that special someone in my life she will share an uplifting story, about how the gentleman that she is currently sleeping with is mistreating or cheating on her, and I realize how lucky I am to have avoided that whole relationship headache.

So cheer up, you are not alone. Take comfort in knowing that there are others out there that are destined to be alone forever. And remember to always look on the bright side, millions of stray animals are being taken care of, and an entire internet dating business is thriving thanks to us and others like us!

I had, but now I realize how short sighted that was.

Does the whole woe is me attitude actually work? What's the point? Is it supposed to get sympathy? Do you want people to feel sorry for you? Agree with you that it's time to give up?

I may or I may not

kind of like ending up in my dream job

there is no guarantee,, thats all Ive settled on,,,,

I have maybe 2 friends for one day of the week. If I'm lucky they bring their husbands and remind me what I'm missing. Good times. Friends can only do so much. Maybe the company I keep is very selective about being a real friend. I'm starting to think that. Hard to tell. But I don't think I'm lonely. There was a time I did, then I realized I fell asleep with the Lifetime channel blaring in the background. Eh...nobody's perfect.

LOL No, jeez, must you always jump to 10 negative steps down the line and generalize everything? I'm not getting defensive because you don't agree with me. Lordy

Yeah,depression is a b****
People can feel like not even getting up in the morning when they are in that state...
I've been there.But one day you'll realize,you're only hurting yourself.The sad truth(bottom line) is that most people only care about #1,and don't give a crap about how other people feel.
It usually takes something uber-dramatic for people to finally realize;Omg,maybe I should talk to this person,they look like they could use a friend...

But that's just how I see it.No one cares if you stay alone.
YOU have to care if YOU want to stay alone.
Don't count on people to make you happy,cause people will more often then not,let you down.

Maybe deep down its probably true but I know that's not what I'm doing to myself. I still have some iota of how things will turn out. I think its those rare moments where I feel like there seems to be a pattern going on. I'm glad you found it. A lot of us deserve some of that semblance.

OPINION

You need to learn to be happy with YOURSELF, FIRST.
You are alone, big deal, make the best of it.

Bet you don't have many friends, either.

HMMM, similar situation?

Learn to be FRIENDS...FIRST

MIGHT really help.

Happy with your self & have friends, BET you are NOT alone.

I refuse to give up hope that somewhere near me, there is a smart@zz woman who does not want children.
Therefore.........
I continue to.......

BELIEVE!!!!!!!

I am alone... I do not feel doomed at all.

So keeping the dream alive? This is the answer? I do that with my professional part and it seems to work out fine. I guess they're one in the same.

Everyone deals with loneliness in their own way and the coping mechanisms change as we get older. Audrey is a nice girl and I think many can commiserate with how she feels. Give her some time and she'll be cynical or hopeful just like everyone else here.