K so I go into the world wide web and look for that special someone. I find that great guy we skype, we text, we share and are very open and honest with one another. We go on a date and have a great time. We go on date number two and we laugh like crazy enjoy eachother in all ways possible. Date number three we have a romantic diner and a few drinks go back to his house. Yes we both consented as adults and gave into eachother. It was fantastic. I learn through our dates that he is seperated from his wife a year and just moved from her basement two weeks before that. I all of a sudden get the call, "I can't see you anymore there is someone else." Another call telling me he can't perform with her like he did with me and what should he do. I thought our time together was great but look back and regret that I was the first sex he had since her. So now I find myself still thinking about him and missing him. Do I tell him that? Do I wait and see if he comes back? Move on and think his lose not mine. I miss him like crazy I was starting to feel like we had something together. So hurt and lost here.....

sounds like he's playing a Lot of fields here...until ALL the others are out of the picture, I would steer Clear of that one!..IMO, Tara

To be honest, what you’re describe isn’t all that unusual – I’m sure others are bound to disagree but
IMO opinion, you’re options are t:

Stick with him... he’ll come back to you but he won’t stay and it’ll just mean more heartache for you.

Or

Cut him loose. He's not ready and won't be for a little while yet.

Good luck

I agree on all counts. Stay away from him if you possibly can, you're only likely to get hurt more. He is not at a place in his life where he can give you the quality relationship you deserve.

BBW is right, this happens a lot. I make it a point on early dates to ask the man specifically if he is married, divorced, or what, regardless of what he may have already told me. It's harder to lie directly to someone's face. Plus you can check their body language and tone of voice to see if they're really "over" their ex.

You are well on your way to becoming the, "other woman".

Dump him and cut your losses.

It never ceases to amaze me how people play with other's feelings. Drop the dirtbag and find someone worthy of you.

no and quit obeying the 3rd date rule it's stupid - dont date a guy till the ink is on the dotted line of the divorce papers

he cant see you? is he 13? of course he can see you - he is choosing not to

how he performs with "her" is not your problem cuz you are already onto the next one....that's how I would see it anyway

he is waaaay too newly divorced (not even yet , right?). now you've learned to stay away from those

you do what u think is best

If you tell him, then you will suffer for it. Just being honest.

Drop his azz. That good guy you once knew and fell for won't come back. They never do.

I would tell him not to lose my number, but to decide how he wants to progress with his life. If he decides he doesnt want to be with his wife, he needs to spend significant time BY HIMSELF before I would get involved with him

rebounding sucks,,,

Sorry you got played by this dirtbag but this is a classic case of why you have to keep your big girl panties up and ask AND verify the basic facts about a guy before you drop your knickers and live to regret it.

Word to the wise you are not missing this guy ONLY the version you have in your head. A decent guy would not

Two weeks out of the house and he is hustleing liqoured up dates back to the crib on the third date? My bet is the guy was useing someone elses house and he is still married.

NO matter what you tell him he has already taken you off the list so why humiliate your self more.

Or he is single and figures you are that easy to get in the sack, mutually consenting or not, he is not going to chance another encounter.

I agree with this 100%

I wager he never had any intention of ever doing anything with you other than conning you into the sack

I agree with this 100%

I wager he never had any intention of ever doing anything with you other than conning you into the sack



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What she said

Yes... they never do

I agree with this 100%

I wager he never had any intention of ever doing anything with you other than conning you into the sack



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What she said


the BEAST

No question about what to do...no contact with him, period!....The question is how to handle the hurt, how to stop wanting him....Don't give into it, don't take calls and allow him to discuss the sexual "problems" he is having with the woman he left you for, the woman he went back to ....Don't be available for him....AND DON'T tell him to call when he is ready...This type is never ready....If you knew he was recently separated from his wife shortly after you began dating him, you knew he was high risk.... Best of luck, it's time to take care of YOU!!