Is it hard to date these people if they've had a long marriage and/or relationship? Do they ever move on? Do they just grow more picky after the breakup? What are your thoughts on knowing this about someone you're just starting to like?

I've been married and divorced twice so yeah I'm darn picky.

I don't think you can generalize about something like this. Some people, probably most, move on eventually. Others don't. It depends on the person, how long ago the other relationship ended, and lots of other things.

We ALL eventually have at least a few long term relationships. It depends on circumstances is all, if kids are involved, it can be more difficult, but ANYTHING can work if you truly want it to.

For some, divorce makes them very bitter. For others, they move on and enjoy life. I would guess the same would go for long term relationships ending as well.

yeah i do think they become more picky, and it really depends if they have moved on or not.

I was in a long relationship and im still not fully over it and it has almost been a year since we broke up.

And yes i am way more picky now, we know what we want after we have waded through all the ****. haha

I agree about the bitter. You go through something like this it does change you a bit. Start being a night person. Nothing wrong with that until you lose sleep because of the nightmares. Sometimes it shifts. Maybe you don't get outta bed some nights. The day seems too long. You start to see the world and people a whole lot differently. You get more introverted to daylight.

Do people really turn into vampires or is this just a myth?

Tt is the very first question I put out there.
'Is your heart free and clear?'
If mine is, his should be also.
If either is not, there is not a prayer.

The jaded, bitter path is popular.
It is the easiest way to go. Righteous, even.
Very natural. Lots of people just like you.
It can become a crusade.

I mean, you get wiser with your experiences.
They give you caution.
But, if I am not willing to offer up
my neck to the guillotine of love, then
I would deserve the lack of passion
in my life.

Have you read "The Stranger" by Albert Camus before? This is an example of somebody NO one should want to be around. Interesting what happens to him in the end too. You hit the nail on the head soufie

No, unfamiliar.

Soufie said it perfectly.

I would imagine that the longer the relationship, the longer the recovery time. But, some people check out of a relationship before its technically over. So their recovery may seem shorter.

The real question should be, why do jaded and emotionally unavailable people still hit on others? Why do they pursue relationships they know they do not want?

Mmm maybe they need to feel loved by someone,
long before they are ready to return love.

Using someone to feel better.

I've been married twice both for 12 years. Jaded and bitter? Hell yes I am and I don't make no bones about it. I believe it is a natural reaction to protect yourself. I won't ever get married again and I also will not put up with stupid bullchit. Judge as you wish......

i totally agre here but i been maried 3 times. one was a aknolment but it was still mariage. i do want a relationship tho just not a boss.

No judging you.

My issue is with both men and women who are not honest about their intentions.

You can be cautious without being very jaded or bitter. But, if that works for you and it makes you happy and enjoy life, that's all that matters.

I know darlin. I was just throwing my 2 cents in....

i need to retract my statement. i was maried 3 times and i have moved on but like everyone says im very cautious but hot really bitter just got crushed so very catious. i want a relationship but im 48 and will most likely never get maried again. i want to keep my idenity and have no boss.

Many people I've met, have been married 3-4 times in the U.S... and most lost half their chit each time... someone please explain. Although most were from Vegas still a unusual phenomenon in your country.No?