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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? It is definitely not for everyone. In fact I don't think it's for most people!  Work-wide, and historically, there are many different ways to structure family and love relationships. Marriage between two people is just one of the possibilities. |
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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? It is definitely not for everyone. In fact I don't think it's for most people! Work-wide, and historically, there are many different ways to structure family and love relationships. Marriage between two people is just one of the possibilities. What are the real benefits in being married? So far, I don't see any...maybe I'm a little jaded on the subject being cheated on, hard to be convinced people value it anymore. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Mon 02/20/12 09:13 PM
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well I think everyone should get married,at least once, gay or straight, if it last then that means it was meant to be if not then it wasnt. but dont hate other women/men bcause ur marriage to the wrong person didnt work. What would be the point of everyone getting married at least once? What would that prove? I have never been married myself and don't see the need of it. I don't hate men; just don't care to be in a relationship or marriage. |
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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? It is definitely not for everyone. In fact I don't think it's for most people! Work-wide, and historically, there are many different ways to structure family and love relationships. Marriage between two people is just one of the possibilities. What are the real benefits in being married? So far, I don't see any...maybe I'm a little jaded on the subject being cheated on, hard to be convinced people value it anymore. I never even been married but I agree with what you say. |
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I'm not getting married for a long time. Not until I am good and ready. Not sure why everbody wants to rush into it.
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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? I think marriage is no more for everyone than college is or sex is we decide whats a priority to us and what we wish to become ,, we also decide what to put into those goals marriage is a lifetime commitment to a person, their ups and downs, and most people cant even commit to their plans for the next month,,,lol so, no,, marriage is not for everyone |
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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? I think marriage is no more for everyone than college is or sex is we decide whats a priority to us and what we wish to become ,, we also decide what to put into those goals marriage is a lifetime commitment to a person, their ups and downs, and most people cant even commit to their plans for the next month,,,lol so, no,, marriage is not for everyone |
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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? I think marriage is no more for everyone than college is or sex is we decide whats a priority to us and what we wish to become ,, we also decide what to put into those goals marriage is a lifetime commitment to a person, their ups and downs, and most people cant even commit to their plans for the next month,,,lol so, no,, marriage is not for everyone For me, a marriage is a long haul decision. Don't ever go into it lightly. Most people who are married nowadays know next to nothing about the other and then when they have kids, the fun really starts. I don't understand people falling to the pressures of being married. |
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If this is based on cheating so what you think if still they have children what they should do??
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Edited by
msharmony
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Sun 08/03/14 01:38 PM
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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? deep question revealing that I am a christian, I feel it is not for everyone in the sense that not everyone is willing to be monogamous and I dont like to see divorce or infidelity. However, in this age where abstinence seems like a dirty word and is taught to be an impossible expectation, I think it is better for people to try to commit to one person than accept a life time of jumping from bed to bed. from someone who has been married, honestly, the only difference between formal wedding and personal commitment is the involvement of others and the uniting of two families and God as well as a validation from government and the public |
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Marriage, is as much a state of mind, as it is a written contract/license
issued by the state. Some people excel, and some shouldn't even be allowed. |
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Im staying dedicated to who im with
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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? Marriage should be thought thoroughly, otherwise it'll end up quick and badly.. I really want to say that but really, i never know, my parents were married for 18 years and i thought they're getting stronger.. but after that they're now separated and have a partner of their own.. My grandparents were married for 50 years and they loved each other so much until my grandfather died recently, So i think if you really feel that the person you're in loved with will love you for the rest of her life, then why not give marriage a try, |
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I found it suffocating and stifling, extremely uncomfortable and unnecessary. I wouldn't do it again.... Is it any different from being in a long-term relationship? Well, yeah, it's messier and a lot harder to get out of.... Why was it so suffocating, stifling and uncomfortable? Why more so than a long term relationship? Just because it was harder to get out of? I'm guessing cause of the legality part of it. Its never a pretty picture when you get divorced. I was thrust in the middle of parents divorce, ever since then I despised courts and lawyers. It destroyed my mom in the process. |
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So sad what courts and lawyers can put a person through. Family Law in Canada only puts more strain on an already broken relationship. Bitterness, unfirgiveness- they kill you and those close to you. Divorce is so evil. Mediation might be a tad less resentment building?
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Edited by
auburngirl
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Sun 08/03/14 08:14 PM
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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? I admire that you know that marriage is not for you right now. Some think there is a time table on those kinds of things. You are wise. I got married when I was 23 to a man I went to high school with. We were married 12 years. What is it really like? IF you are with the right one for you, it is wonderful. We had so much fun and so much love. It is different from just a LTR in that he was legally required to be there! 
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Do you honestly think its for everyone? Couldn't people just be together for as long as they want? I see friends on facebook and just people I knew in high school, already married for quite a while. I'm 27!! I would be afraid of that stuff right now. For the people who were married, what's it really like? Is it really any different from just being in a long term relationship? I admire that you know that marriage is not for you right now. Some think there is a time table on those kinds of things. You are wise. I got married when I was 23 to a man I went to high school with. We were married 12 years. What is it really like? IF you are with the right one for you, it is wonderful. We had so much fun and so much love. It is different from just a LTR in that he was legally required to be there! Thanks for saying that. I view marriage from a wide distance these days. Folks are in such a hurry and I'll never quite understand why being married means everything to them. To be honest, I don't view it in a positive light. I don't believe in it all. I am perfectly ok with not making this decision on a whim. It's a hefty decision binding forever. That's a huge weight for a man to take, even as a woman I feel the notion almost like a burden. I don't believe it will happen for me and I don't need it to. I believe you when you say that. I also think being with someone is more rewarding than anything. Marriages and LTR are lacking loyalty and it sucks to high hell. |
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I understand what you are saying. I knew fairly quickly that he was the one for me. My parents thought we were seeing too much of each other....so I moved out. ha. I just could not be without that man. 2 yrs later we got married (after finishing school) and were married 12 yrs. I would not trade it for anything, even considering I lost him to cancer at the age of 37. I have been widowed 15 yrs now. So far as the weight thing you mentioned goes.....that's on both people. You've likely heard a relationship is "give and take". We never bought into that. He said, if both were giving 100%, nobody needed to TAKE anything. And the returns on that investment just keep coming back around to you both..
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Marriage is not end of your life. One should think before getting in if he/she can take that load of responsibility and tolerance.
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I understand what you are saying. I knew fairly quickly that he was the one for me. My parents thought we were seeing too much of each other....so I moved out. ha. I just could not be without that man. 2 yrs later we got married (after finishing school) and were married 12 yrs. I would not trade it for anything, even considering I lost him to cancer at the age of 37. I have been widowed 15 yrs now. So far as the weight thing you mentioned goes.....that's on both people. You've likely heard a relationship is "give and take". We never bought into that. He said, if both were giving 100%, nobody needed to TAKE anything. And the returns on that investment just keep coming back around to you both.. People don't realize that being in a relationship is %100 selfless. I guess if you are a nurturing person you understand this. Many don't and that's the sad part. I'm sorry for your loss, I believe you loved him very much. |
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