Kind of debating this at the moment. I met her on New Years so about 3 weeks ago.

The night we met we hit it off and ended making out and stuff.

The next few days she would text me all the time and met up for coffee at school a short time later. That went well and she made it clear she wanted to go on a "first date"

Anyways I had her over the following week to make pizza and watch a movie. It seemed to go ok and we said we do something later on but we didnt really set anything in stone.

Well the following week. Last week I didnt really hear from her. She generally had initiated all the texting but this week I barely heard from her. I talked to her a bit on the monday and friday but not really anything.

And so now it's been over 2 weeks since our last "date". To late to ask her out again? Im kind of intereste in her again but Im not sure. I really was busy last week and really ust getting more settled now.

If I explain to her do you think she might buy it?

This early in the relationship, tell her the truth and see what happens. If she wants to go out again, great. If she questions your reasons why it took so long to call her then you'll know that there is probably some insecurity issues there that will only get worse over time and you can spare yourself a lot of grief down the road.

Good Luck.

Maybe you learned something...then again, maybe you didn't.

Explaining to her, is one sure way to find out if
you are dealing with a rational human being.
I say, go for it.

Well when I didn't hear from her at first pretty much all last week I sort of concluded she had lost interest ( lol having add I rush to judgement quickly) so I figure I would just move on.


But now Im not so sure she wasn't still interested...figure it's worth a shot and if she says yes great and if not that's ok.

That's true. Thanks for the advice. I'll give it a shot and see what she says. Alot of my friends have told me too that she hasn't had alot of dating experience so you have to initiate everything with her.

So I figure she might have cut contact a little cause she was waiting for me to ask her out again?


Anyways just speculating at this point. Won't know unless I ask

If it is the truth there is nothing to buy.

Either she accepts it or not. Just be honest. You know darn well you were having second thoughts because she did not text you like mad after your pizza night. You were unsure of her reguards towards you.

If you want to see her again nut up and call her.

Perhaps she was a little confused because she was always the one initiating the texts.

She was probably waiting to see if YOU would text her, and when you didn't...she thought you weren't interested any longer.

So I think it would be best for you to text her! Explain and hope she is still interested.

Oh for sure no your right of course I was having 2nd thoughts when I didn't really hear from her again.

What happened exactly was she came over on a Thrusday night. After she left I just messaged her saying thanks for coming and that I had a great time and we would have to go out again soon.

She said she was looking forward to it..

And then she went on a 3 day trip and when she came back I asked her about it and we talked a bit. But then I never heard from the whole week till friday when I talked to her again.

So yea I was little unsure of what was going on. Though to be fair I didnt ask her out either.

Yea I thought maybe she was wanting me to show a little more interest? And maybe she had been initiating so much before our date to keep me interested in her?

Not really sure. But I won't know unless I ask.

If you're interested in her, ask her out. You're over thinking it too much.

haha ok ok. Ill ask her. Thanks guys

Explain what?
Either let her know what you feel or don't.
And if you don't know what you feel... don't make chit up... just go out to hang out, see?
My bet is that she's totally human... like you... no real definitions on peeps she met on New Year's Eve.
But...