Please tell me, the first time u met a guy, how do you know when he wants to get serious with you n when he just wants sex?

I always assume they want both.

You don't...even if he says that he wants to be serious, he still could be just after sex.

Close your eyes and step off the cliff...unless he's not someone that you could be serious about or more importantly, not someone that you want to have sex with.

dont give up the later til you know for sure.

Just live in the moment and dont second guess your feelings and dont regret. Life is good.

when he calls you after the sex

I'd like to assume he wants both but if he goes for sex immediately that is most likely all that he is really interested in

but there are no hard & fast rules

I usually ask - no, not just to hear them lie...

^just wants sex

a "line" that tells u to NOT think is a dead giveaway

If he keeps hounding or hinting at you to have sex is a big clue.

Just go with what feels right. If you feel it is to soon, and he brings it up, tell him that and let the cards fall where they will.

If he wants to be serious, he will be more interested in YOU as a person, and not just what he can get.

You can't know the first time you meet. You will find out if he is serious if he doesn't just ask to have sex with you after the first few dates. If he want's to get serious, he will respect you enough to wait. If he is moving faster than you want and it takes more than a nudge from you to slow him down, or he gets upset that you are making him wait is he really the guy you want to be with? Just my two cents. But what do I know, I'm single.

Basically they just want sex. Young men don't go around planning to find a wife, get a job, and raise children.

Basically they just want sex.

Not saying that they are not 'serious" about that.

Okay, so "serious" is when they get possessive and want you all to themselves. So they start thinking marriage.

Its not because they want to buy a house, get a job and a mortgage and raise kids. It's because they want you to be their property.

I know this sounds simplistic and maybe even insulting to men. But I am talking about YOUNG MEN in general.

I do think it is hard for men to accept that women will continue to do as they pretty much please after marriage, but really I think younger men adjust to that more easily than men my age

not that it matters -I don;t prefer a certain age man because of this - it also has to do with how a man was socialized as well as possibly his age

in general men want sex - when they do fall in love they will want sex only with you. a lot of the other stuff they do is done to provide for children and keep their woman happy - men like a happy home too...some guys are ready for that sooner than others

often depending upon whether they have fallen in love

inform him that you're celibate and only have plans to engage in sexual debauchery with the person you marry

He never said not to think. He said don't second guess yourself. I agree with him.

I have used the celibate excuse on a night out to get rid of guys

Basically just make it clear that you don't sleep around and that you don't intend on sleeping with him straight away. You'll soon see how long he willing to hang around without getting any action.

well when a guy has his tongue rolled out it kinda gives it away what his intentions are atleast i work that way