You seem like a genuine and straight up person, I like this!!
I wish you the best of luck finding that one person. It WILL happen

i say ot i deal with multiple sclerosis and cancer every day , n given that even i have high energy n im quite a handfull or so ive been told n i dont use it for an excuse not to do anything im still active n pretty fit in spite of that n have no probs running circles around most people on any given day

Yes it matters to some extend,but when you look at it,it all depends on how you feel about each other.one thing i believe is,love is not how you see yourselves but how feel about each other.and is certainly not how you let go but how you hold on to someone who makes you happy and feel loved.

Thank you.

The other thing is that, a lot of people seem to think they can handle being with someone who has a physical disability. However, unless you've actually been around someone who has then you 're usually clueless to everything. That has been my experience. Again, I wish you all the luck in the world, in finding someone who will see you for you and not your disability.

So true. When my wife's condition got so bad I had to bathe her it didn't affect our love. For better or worse was the vows that we gave and we both meant it. She was there for me and I was there for her. She had the arthritis bad in her hands but she could make a creditor back off in a heart beat. She was small in stature but would go up against King Kong. I would always feel so sorry for any one who would give her a hard time. I know I sure never did. She only had a seventh grade education but made up for it in sheer backbone. She always said if she had to get up on a table to kick my butt she would do it. But she had a heart of gold and if you were her friend she would back you up. If you were opposed to then it was God help you if you riled her.

Very candid and spoken from the best source of info, experience....You are some kind of something sweet Becca..wonderful post!!

no/no im living proof baby

Thank you.

To some it will matter, to others it won't. Choose your lover wisely, really. Find someone who isn't judgemental, but who takes the time to understand your needs. Good luck, girl

OP, i actually have more friends with some kind of disability, than without. Most of them have some sort of mental illness. I remember seeing a full list of every single mental illness there is, and believe me, the list was that long. lol. One or two of my friends, have a physical disability. I was mentioning to someone how everyone in the world might aswell have a mental illness, as many of the symptoms of certain mental illness, sounded similar to most people's behaviour. lol.

You all know I have been diagnosed different ways. I am manic most of the time without medication. I also have what my programmer friend calls ADOS Attention Deficit OH SPARKLY or golden retriever syndrome or cat with a tin foil ball complex. I started having problems after my marriage. I literally told my ex husband to divorce me after I got my prognosis. He refused. He would still be my husband if I had not filed because when I am doing well, I am incredible but when I am bad, it's not so pretty.

I am always upfront about this. The "Terri Package" as I call it, a lot of men including my current man, Kevin, are willing to put up with the fact that I take medication to control to he mania. But that is because this 100% California Wild Child is a lot of fun and is also while I suck about cleaning, I treat my men very very well. I have been around guys so long that I put up with a great deal of dorkiness, I also acknowledge that they are men. Like I mail Kevin what I call "bimbo" cards for fun. Those birthday cards with the women in bikinis etc. and I just tell him to bring home any sexual frustration he has to be me. I also belly dance, strip tease, lap dance, can cook, like to go comic book shopping, with play board and video games, watch almost any movie. heck playboy offered me $12 subscription because I had ordered something from them once so I read he articles and cartoons and pass them on to guys I know. Plus I like to see who sells out and what they do for how much money celebrity wise. And s you know I am pretty fluent in guy language. So all this considered, a lot of men are willing to put up with the fact I take medication. It all depends if the person is worth something beyond the disability. As my step brother Alan Lee says, "We are all crazy. It's just a matter of finding someone a kind of crazy you can live with".

very true n you dont want someone who gonna bail out on you when the goin gets tough all too often that happens with me sort of made me hate bein with someone cuz of that reason

I think all of you for your wpoinops. I love hearing them. I have good days as well as bad, but I think we all do . I even find people seem to think that due to my legs not working well that my brain or my ears do not work. Even people I do not know at the gym. that is why I wanted to see what others think here . What do you think a person can do to make it easier to let someone talk about this?

i'm 26 been in a wheelchair my entire life. disease matters it's sad but it's the awful truth. just on mingle2 alone, i have one picture with me and my brother. most girls find my brother really attractive and so they send me a message, as soon as they find out i'm not my brother they say, "sorry I don't wanna talk to you I thought you were the other guy." bottom line is it's irrelevant if you're a girl or a guy if you have a disease, everyone looks at you differently. they always will because people are generally speaking cruel, just live your life to the fullest and to hell with everyone who can't see past it. that's what I have been doing and I couldn't be happier. in public the main thing is you have to COMMAND attention as in don't make yourself out to be a victim. FORCE (metaphorically of course) people to treat you the same as everyone else. be outgoing don't pay attention to anyone looking at you differently or anything like that, if you really wanna say something to someone just be like "i know i'm hot, so I hope you're enjoying the view of me." or something along those lines. that person will be embarrassed and everyone else will be like "wow, what a great attitude to have considering everything." all of this has worked for me plenty of times, i have a pretty severe disease and so if it works flawlessly for me it will for you guarantee it.

[quote/]be outgoing don't pay attention to anyone looking at you differently or anything like that, if you really wanna say something to someone just be like "i know i'm hot, so I hope you're enjoying the view of me." or something along those lines. that person will be embarrassed and everyone else will be like "wow, what a great attitude to have considering everything." all of this has worked for me plenty of times, i have a pretty severe disease and so if it works flawlessly for me it will for you guarantee it.



Yes you're so right. Just live your life. I did a similar thing, when i was bullied at school. I began to humor the bullies. I found this to be much more productive, rather than letting them think they'd upset me. I, too, used to pretend i loved myself, just so they'd leave me alone. Meanwhile, i was actually very shy. This made them give up on bullying me. If you show you can laugh about most things, and not react angrily, then you're much more likely to show the world you don't care if someone dislikes you.

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that you.I haould be used to dealing with people who do not consider others feeling but I still find it hard to do. I understand its hard to find someone who looks at the real you. I had a great friend who had a broken spine and was in a wheelchair and he really loved others and was not ashamed. I miss him he passed away and he told me to not let others define me. Still working on not letting them hurt me.

simply put the doctors told me I would be dead in 99, it's now 2012. the disease i have is suppose to kill you when you're 10-13. i defied the doctors and the odds, not only that but i've had 3 girlfriends. the bottom line is and this is what I was trying to tell you before, every single person in the entire world has, what I refer to as "baggage" lol i got this term from a tv show called how I met your mother. anyways back on point, even the hottest (at least according to mainstream society) girl/guy has issues. the thing is when you have something wrong physically it's more noticeable, when it's mental baggage, or if it's physically impossible to hide your baggage (like in my case), you have to do everything you can to establish an emotional connection, if you can do that the physical will become irrelevant. it's easier to hide scars, bruises and things like that. for example, if a girl or guy is genuinely in love with someone and he/she get into some type of accident and something becomes physically wrong with the accident victim, the girl/guy doesn't just outright leave, not a lot of the time any way. of course there are exceptions, but the point is that the physical/emotional connection is there so it doesn't matter what's wrong with him/her. obviously we don't have that luxury, so the best way of handling it is to make it seem like our physical limitations are nothing major. it's all about perception, if you feel sad, ugly, like a victim etc everyone will perceive you that way. if you live you don't live life not giving a you know what, and always just worry about what others are doing and looking at etc you're gonna be living a very depressed life. trust me it's much easier to say it than to do it. i have my days of "why me?" and being sad etc but I always snap myself out of it because there's no other choice, either you can live your life happily, or live it with the attitude of "woe is me." the choice is yours you have to find the change within yourself. if you think therapy might help it doesn't hurt to try, just try it, don't be ashamed to. you have to try to have a FTW! attitude to really live happily, i'm not saying be nasty to everyone, but you have to develop a carefree attitude in the sense which nobody will never ever again see you as a victim. those are my thoughts and suggestions, hopefully it wasn't TOO lengthy for everyone lol, not that I care =P lol i couldn't resist saying that.

<<< that there be folgers in my cup


also including my beloved cousin, who had polio and was in a

wheelchair for many years before he went home to be with the

Lord....he was one of the most successful men around... well

loved by everyone who met him...he never ceased to have a

kind word and a wonderful smile for everyone he met !!!!!!

oh....and he had met a BEAUTIFUL woman who loved and cherished

him... and they were happily married for many years also !!