Do you think someone being disabled should matter in a relationship?

Humm it should not but........there are times it does all depends on what the disablitly is and if the other person can deal with it.....

So honestly yes it does at times...

I agree.

THANK YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY. i UNDERSTAND YOUR POINT.

Definitely it matters
but positively or negatively that depends on both of them & largely on the situation too.

For getting more specific views from people ,I think u shall elaborate more about the situation,I mean disability before relationship or after relationship,what kind of disability etc.

well I wonder what people feel in general. I have a slight case of cebefral palsey and have been told that men do not like to bother with a disabled women.

Guess it just depends on the circumstances, what kind of disability because it could be MENTAL or PHYSICAL ........... and the people involved......I know if I really LOVED someone & they became disabled well my feelings would not change for them! GOOD POST!

yes I understand, defently have be forcoming with everyone. I TRY TO DO SO. MY diaability is slight but psyical not mental. but it causes me stress to wonder what men will think

I agree here. There's a lot of circumstances involved.

After reading about women that marry death row inmates I have concluded there is someone out there for everyone regardless of the circumstances.

I have been told that

This stress is not needed at all in my opinion.

I consider u r still not in relation & are just looking for.

In my opinion you shall frankly tell about the problems u have to the interested person before marriage/relation even if he don't ask.That will surely give both u a happy married life without any stress.

All the best

Thank you I do tell and be as upfront as possiable, but it still seems to put lots of guys off. They either can not deal or think that because my legs are weak so is my mind. Also yes I am still looking.

It depends...
How sick, how much care is involved, etc.

I raised 3 sons alone and now that they are grown up, it's my time.
I've been a caretaker for 30 years.
Honestly, I just don't want to anymore.
Selfish? Maybe...I'm selfish enough to know what I can and can't do.

that is understable. What I do not understand is I can care for myself for the most part. I work hard to be able to not depend much at all on anybody. So why should some of the men I have dated or spoken with be so turned off by a bit of weakness in my legs. Why not see the real me.

I also agree with this. Although I guess it would (as others have stated) depend on the nature of the disability and how we met.

I believe that most people have disability of one sort or another only they are not always visible.

Humm even as harsh as it can be one can not expect someone that is very active in hiking, working out, ect to consider someone with a disability that may prevent them from doing the same. They most likely are looking for those that enjoy the same things they do.

Also at times when one has a disability the other person may shy off to them due to they don't fully understand what their limits are or not. Sometimes stupidity plays a big roll. And other times it is due to they don't want to deal with a disability that someone else has. Is that selfish? It could be to and extent....But at times it is best that way.

But........if one can not deal with a disability that another has it is best to know up front..I would never want to be with another if it was out of pity.

And honestly if it was a disability that meant I would have to take care of them even I would shy away.

But if it was something that happened after we were together that is a differnt story for me. I would give it my all regardless what it was.

If they shy away from the beginning then it is best they do for there is someone out there that will look at you and not even see your disability.

But your not the only one that gets passed by in the past I have been overlooked due to my size..As far as I'n concerned to be honest I would not want to be with someone if they did not take the time to see the person I'm within...

Inspirational people with amazing life achievements.....

Sudha Chandran...After losing her right leg, Sudha went on to become an acclaimed dancer who preforms world wide.

Marla Runyan, blind ...She is a 3 time National champion in the women's 5000 meter, 4 time Gold Medal winner in the Paralympics, and the first blind person to compete in the Olympics....

Vincent Van Gogh, mentally ill...Regarded as on of the greatest painters the world has ever seen...

Ludwig van Beethoven, DEAF!...One of the greatest composers in history...

Frida Kahlo, Polio...First Mexican artist whose work was purchased by an international museum...

Christy Brown, cerebral palsy...Famous author, painter, poet...He wrote the autobiography that became the Academy Award winning film "My Left Foot"....

John Nash, schizophrenia...Noble laureate American mathematician...Academy award winning film "A Beautiful Mind was loosely based on his biography...

Jean-Dominique Bauby, paralyzed from head to toe...French journalist and author, editor of ELLE magazine...

Stephen Hawkin, sclerosis...World renowned theoretical physicist....

Helen Keller, blind and deaf...American author, political activist, lecturer with a lifetime history of amazing achievements....

Ten hearts for ten incredibly gifted disabled men and women.....

Oh wow I only knew a few of those thank you so much