Metaphorically speaking...when a relationship and/or friendship is done, I tend to delete all references to that person and I don’t keep telephone number(s), email addresses, cards, letters etc.

For me, this isn’t a ‘I hate you’ sort of thing, it’s just that I’m not overly sentimental and if I’m not going to keep in contact with that person, why would I hang onto their contact details?

Are you the same or am I overly harsh?

I am the same. When a relationship is done, it is done.

Don't call me. Don't write me. Go away.

Simple. Move on.

I tend not to delete/erase/get rid of everything from someone I cared about. If something ended really badly (a rarity with me) I may get rid of some things, but that doesn't usually happen.

On the other side of things, do you expect someone you're dating to get rid of things from previous relationships too?

I don't know. I think I have a "friend" who is done but it will take several more months to make sure. Then I would delete all things regarding them.

I don't..I have an out with the old, in with the new mentality..I delete/erase almost immediately. This does not mean that I'm not open to 'contact', it just means that I don't carry 'dead' weight!

I’ve had texts from people whose numbers I’ve deleted and had to admit to not knowing who they were. More than one has been offended that I’ve deleted their number...but why would I when its been established that the ‘relationship’ is over.

For me, regardless of how it ended friends, enemies, frenemies...I don't care... you're gone. I won't contact them and don't expect them to contact me.

This doesn't mean that I won't reply to them if they were contact me or re-store their contact etc ...I just expect that if it's an agreed discontinuation, then I don't expect to hear from them again.

I totally agree. This is very healthy attitude.

Life is too short for conflict, drama and b.s. Life is too short for sadness, regret and feeling sorry for yourself.

I thought I did when I said that "This doesn't mean that I won't reply to them if they were contact me or re-store their contact etc".

Ok..a more straight forward answer would be yes. I do expect them to delete/erase all reference to me. I'm constantly surprised when I get a text from someone months/years later. I just think..why? Are you that bored that you would text someone that you haven't heard from in years?

More recently, I got a xmas text from someone that I broke up with in March (2010) but for the life of me, I didn't know who it was from and I didn't recongise the number. I responded..but it was only after we'd exchanged a few texts that I realised who it was from..

Metaphorically speaking...when a relationship and/or friendship is done, I tend to delete all references to that person and I don’t keep telephone number(s), email addresses, cards, letters etc.

For me, this isn’t a ‘I hate you’ sort of thing, it’s just that I’m not overly sentimental and if I’m not going to keep in contact with that person, why would I hang onto their contact details?

Are you the same or am I overly harsh?

No, I was asking about someone you were dating, as in currently dating. If you were dating a guy and came across a picture he had of an ex, would it bother you that he never got rid of it?

I guess this is why I am too nice. I don't think there is a person in this world I would stop talking too. I am never angry over a breakup.

I guess it depend on how important he was to me. If he wasn’t, then it wouldn’t bother me..If he was...If I didn’t trust him, I wouldn’t/couldn’t be with him.

So a picture of an ex would possibly make you not trust him? Huh, interesting.

I still have pictures of people who used to be important to me. Friends who I am no longer in contact with, as well as some people I used to date. That doesn't mean someone shouldn't trust me, though. It also doesn't mean there's anything still going on there either.

You can't erase memories, but you can elimenate the temptation to contact that person in a weak moment by cleaning the closet.