I have been married for. 3years, ups and downs. We always made, found a
way to make it work. But about 6 months ago. We hit a hard bump in the
road. He didn't stick around. Like he said he would.I have tried dating
agian. But it's not the same at all. I wonder if I'm looking for someone
like my Husband? Can you ever find love agian? After you gave you heart
to the Only man you trusted? Please i don't know what to do...

To tell the truth angeleyes I know exactly where you are coming from and
I feel the same dam way. I've never been married...but I know what you
are going threw.

you find somebody you wish to spend the rest of your life with (that
special person nobody ever made you feel like in the whole world) then
one day everything changes...and he/she doesn't stick around and then
your left heartbroken and hurt & it's never the same again when you try
to go out and find somebody that would make you feel the same way again.
but you can't get over the one that mattered most...

it's true...."loves a bitch" and she's mean as fuck like a swift kick to
my balls...but after awhile...my balls don't ache anymore and I feel
much much better after awhile. but you can just NEVER forget...

*sobs*

Well, truth be told- you're just not ready to date.

You haven't got over him, and chances are that you probably think about
him when you're with someone else (and that'll wreck a good date).

And yknow, it wouldn't be fair to the next guy that comes along, if
you're still hanging on to the memory of the last man you loved.

You'll have to heal first. Learn to get through a day without thinking
about him so much. You cant have a good time with anyone else until
he's history. The sucky part? Only time can heal ya.

Hang in there.

Angeleyes85,

Sure we can love again, we will just do it with more caution the next
time because of this painful hurt this time. Sometimes we have to go
through certain pains to help us grow believe it or not. Don't let this
stop you from living. Focus on you and healing. Do somthings that make
you smile, keep yourself busy. When you find yourself thinking about
how he did you replace those thoughts with other mor pleasant thoughts.
It's his loss and you can make him understand the loss by moving on with
your life and doing the best that you can

To some people the grass looks greener on the other side, however when
you reach the other side you sometimes find out it was just a
hallucination!

LOL!!!

Give it time. I think you need to work on finding yourself before you
start trying to find love. It sounds like you pretty much went from
being a daughter to being a wife. Take some time to just be you. Don't
look at dating as a search for your next mate. Just enjoy it without the
pressures of "is he the one?" I think way too many people try to force
relationships where they shouldn't and they end up with disappointment
after disappointment.
I have been married twice for 19 years and 7 years. Trust me, you will
find someone again. But first... find YOU.

I was married twice but the funny thing about this is that I married
the same woman twice!! How stupid is that? I was still in love with her
and didn't want to give up on us!! Eventually it died out completely and
I felt very depressed and alone whitch I was. I went and dated one woman
in particular and it was for 2 years. We never had sex,I wanted to but
she wasn't ready!! She sent me a letter,a dear john letter and it hurt a
lot!!! Just keep your head up and love will find you in due time!!

ive had my heart broken so many times i font know

There was another topic like this.

Sure you can learn to love again. just let go and let you know who. LOL

You have to see yourself in a state you want to be in. See yourself
already there.

Too often people see them selves in doom and gloom. Try to revers that.

See your self in a state of bliss.

WE CAN ALL LEARN TO LOVE AGAIN IT DEPENDS ON HOW LONG YOU ALLOW THAT
PAST EXPERIENCE TO BEAT UP ON YOU I HAD TO FIND A WAY TO PUT IT ASIDE
AND BELIEVE ME ITS NEVER EASY BUT ITS THE KEY TO COMPLETLY MOVING ON
WITH YOUR LIFENOW IM MORE CAREFUL WITH WHO I TRUST BUT IVE ALSO LEARNED
THAT I NEED TO TRUST SOMEONE SOMETIME LEARN FROM YOUR PAST EXPERIENCE
JUST DONT LET IT HOLD YOU DOWN TOO LONG

I'm sorry to hear you were left high and dry. Yes it hurt alot, but you
are better off without him. 6 months is not very long out of a
relationship. give yourself some time things will start looking up. i
was married for 14 year.......left him, my choice but it still was very
hard to get over it. Then I was in a relationship with a wonderful man
for 12 1/2 years (now I'm not saying he was perfect......we all have our
fault). The plan was that we would get married after our children were
out of school. Our last 3 graduated in May 1999, the only problem is
that I buried him in January 1999. It has taken me until now to start
thinking about dating again. And yes things have really changed, having
some trouble with the new "rules"? I would sugest that you take some
time and really decide what you want in a mate. I wish you luck in your
jouney.

Angeleyes85,
I was married 17 years and been divorced 2 years and haven't even been
on a date since. You definately have to let him go first. As far as love
goes, it is something that will happen when you least expect it. Love is
great and can put you down also. Lift your head up and go forward! It
took me 10 years after my first marrage before I found the one I thought
I would die with. Needless to say, you can only control your own
actions!
Nerves

Well I never been married myself and I agree you have to truly let him
go in your heart before you can give someone else your heart. Due to him
running out on you is just wrong and franky not sure why you want to
compare other with him for he broke your heart:( I now it's not easy
said then done but you need to get over him and live your life for has
made his break and got over you:(

starting new after a bad relationship is hard!!

yes it is..and the key is not to rush it..even though you want to
because your flesh is hungry and your heart is needy and your body wants
comfort..but the thing is..your on a dark journey of the soul now and to
let it deepen you..let it form another layer of wisdom on you.

What do you do when you fall off a bicycle? Do you park it in the
garage, afraid to ever ride it again? No! I say, get out there NOW and
date! Don't sit around pining after him, trying to "get over" him; IMO,
that just makes it worse.

By the same token, don't look for someone to "replace" him, either. If
you are looking for a "replacement," then you're looking for the same
kind of guy -- and do you want that? I mean, really?

Go out, meet new guys, have fun, and just let what's going to happen
happen. Don't try to "get over" him; the pain will go away with time.
Keep your fond memories of him, but don't forget the bad ones, either,
that led to the breakup. In other words, keep things in perspective.

You are so very young. You will love again and, no doubt, you will lose
again. Such is life. Just watch out for the red flags and don't ignore
them. Just have fun dating for a while and don't worry about finding
"Mr. Right" right away.

theers no perfect person..
but your perfect for eachother..

nice saying krow

Love Hurts,,, Yes it does,,,

I believe in order to Love again, you must learn to forgive the one who
has hurt you and then mend your Soul, Learn to Love yourself again, and
realize that you do deserve to be loved,
Give it time,,, mend your heart soul and mind,,, when your ready you
will know...

I don't know why but I keep thinking about chuckee lately!!!

yeah love hurts but time is the only healer go do something good for
you're self like new wardrobe new hair style all you need to worry about
is YOU for now. and dont look for love. love will find you