I hate it when a guy just drops by without calling first. There was one guy that did this to me all the time. Of course he lived out of town (a hic) and he had no cell phone, so I did that that into consideration.

But I hated it. I was NEVER prepared for a guest.

Another pet peeve are men who are impatient or men who ask you out and expect you to be ready in five minutes.

Hate that.

I am a very flexible and spontaneous person but a man that does that constantly drives me nuts.

Why do that do that?

I hate it when a girl just drops by without calling first. There was one girl that did this to me all the time. Of course she lived out of town (a chic) and she had no cell phone, so I did take that into consideration.(and she always made sure to "forget" an earring or panties)

But I hated it. I was NEVER prepared for a guest.

Another pet peeve are women who are impatient or women who you ask out and are never ready in five minutes.

Hate that.

I am a very flexible and spontaneous person but a woman that does that constantly drives me nuts.

Why do they do that?

I don't like ANYONE to drop by without calling first. I have.....things....I need to put away.

I have an open door policy

Dirty dishes prove I feed my family, full trash can means I clean up after the messes, messy floors mean I let my family have fun, pile of unfolded laundry means I keep my family in clean clothes, wet bathroom means I bathe my kids! So the next time you walk into my house and see a "mess" think twice before you judge. If you come over to see us, come on in...if your coming over to see my house,please make an appointment.

ya it's not a big one on my list either - doesn't really bother me. The men who know me well enough to drop by without calling (or drop by at all for that matter) u can count on one hand - and if they know me at all they know me well enough to see my place messy

or we can sit on the stoop....if they expect me to be ready in 5 minutes...they can just ..... expect..........

if they are impatient they can choose to wait or go without me. Makes me no never mind either way,

but I ain't goin' any faster....

Ladies, please, if you are single, there is no reason for your place to be a mess. I find it to be a very unattractive quality. I am a divorced father and my day can be full at times and the most of a mess I will have is a few things in the sink and yesterday's socks and underwear on the bedroom floor. Real quick fix if company pops in unexpectedly. So when I stop by and see a mess like a tornado went by and can only assume that 1)you are lazy, 2)you are still immature 3)you don't have your **** together or 4)you were brought up in a barn(your mother told you that you weren't, but you have to prove her wrong.) So now when I come by to say hello and you push the clothes on the bed aside so we can copulate, it shouldn't be a surprise if I move on eventually. Just pointing out a major faux pas that women commit. If you have kids, stay strong, I am with you, I feel the pain.

I also was raised with old fashioned, and old school manners

saying yes mam and no mam, yes sir and no sir, making eye contact when speaking with someone or being spoken to, saying please and thank you, crossing my legs when I sit, keeping elbows off table when eating, not speakingg with my mouth full, and not INFRINGING on the time of others by assuming they are keeping their schedule open for my whims...


call first, they may have just had an argument with a family member, or not been feeling well, or gotten bad news, or just been feeling like having a lazy day


wait to be welcomed and dont just welcome yourself,,,,

,,its also my pet peeve:

people just 'stopping by' without warning or permission or request or whatever you want to call it

Wow. Just Wow.

<----UM....So, how long have you lived with a cow?

Wh
Wow, really? Don't think anyone said they had a dirty house. LOL

i can't imagine being anything but pleased if a freind just dropped in; male of female. i'm just not understanding this discussion at all. and why all the worry over a clean house? if it's normally clean anyway then great, you can show off all your hard work and if it's normally lived in messy like mine and most people's then that friend will know you for who you are. or do you want that call beforehand so you can have time to be something that you really ain't?

and yet so often i read in a profile, "friends first."

<----turning around and walking out of this thread before I lose it.

and 'they' wonder why so many of us turn lesbian

This just cracks me up.
I don't know a single woman who would leave
those on the floor :-)
Also, just what does this 'hello' consist of?

What a first post.

Perhaps when getting to know a woman, you need to first ask her if she keeps her house clean enough for you?

What does this have to do with the thread?

well you would not be welcome ay my house - which is usually pretty clean & neat just because of your attitude.

I do not "push clothes aside on the bed to copulate" what a charming illusion.

if a man is dropping by to say hello. hello is what he is getting - and maybe a cup of coffee or a beer.

and oh, thanks for the advanced warning to run.....fast....in the other direction.....should we ever meet


oh and one more thing - if I wanna be lazy in my free time that's what I will be - a man should not assume he can tell a woman what to do (men in my age range are particularly bad about that) - it is better to find someone u are already compatible with - something great we have learned from some of the younger generations! and, why I often date men somewhat younger - I'm looking for a lover & a freind in a relationship, not a boss 24/7