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and yet so often i read in a profile, "friends first." What does this have to do with the thread? He mighta been responding to what I said. I was saying its one thing for a friend to drop by, but a potential romantic interest, not so much. Oh, ok. I wouldn't mind someone I'm dating to just drop by. Chances are, we're spending a lot of time together anyway, so seeing my place when it isn't perfect isn't going to be a big deal. |
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Droppin by without any notice is not cool for me. For one, its really an invasion of privacy, and nothin to do with a mess. I may well have things I have to do and now I have company in the way? Its one thing for a friend to drop by but another thing for a potential date/romantic interest to impose that way. Yes, that is what I am talking about. A man who is wanting a relationship/date or to hang out. I usually have a pretty full day and things to do. Dropping in sort of changes my schedule and in order to not be rude I have to rearrange it. Its not that I would not want to spend the time with someone, I just like to have time to rearrange my activities, not to mention make myself more presentable. Women, unlike men, like to primp, bathe, and look nice for a date. We don't just crawl out of bed in the morning ready for a date. Men don't understand that. |
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If I'm home, I'm in my pajamas. So, call first!
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Now, if you already have an intimate and monogamous relationship going on, and you have agreed that it is okay for each of you to just drop by anytime, I don't see that as a problem.
I am talking about a man who is "courting" you for the possibility of a relationship. |
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If I'm home, I'm in my pajamas. So, call first! Knock.....Knock........ruth Its me boonedog.....ya home.......Hello... hey ya there!!!!!!!!!!!! 
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People are all different. Respect starts at consideration.
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i can't imagine being anything but pleased if a freind just dropped in; male of female. i'm just not understanding this discussion at all. and why all the worry over a clean house? if it's normally clean anyway then great, you can show off all your hard work and if it's normally lived in messy like mine and most people's then that friend will know you for who you are. or do you want that call beforehand so you can have time to be something that you really ain't? I Want the call so I can have the opportunity to decline the visit if I have something else I was planning or am in the middle of, or if I just dont happen to be in the right mood for it,,,, |
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Edited by
Bushidobillyclub
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Fri 12/02/11 10:19 AM
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i can't imagine being anything but pleased if a freind just dropped in; male of female. i'm just not understanding this discussion at all. and why all the worry over a clean house? if it's normally clean anyway then great, you can show off all your hard work and if it's normally lived in messy like mine and most people's then that friend will know you for who you are. or do you want that call beforehand so you can have time to be something that you really ain't? I Want the call so I can have the opportunity to decline the visit if I have something else I was planning or am in the middle of, or if I just dont happen to be in the right mood for it,,,, Oh wait you brought a jug of saki, WELL COME ON IN! |
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i can't imagine being anything but pleased if a freind just dropped in; male of female. i'm just not understanding this discussion at all. and why all the worry over a clean house? if it's normally clean anyway then great, you can show off all your hard work and if it's normally lived in messy like mine and most people's then that friend will know you for who you are. or do you want that call beforehand so you can have time to be something that you really ain't? I Want the call so I can have the opportunity to decline the visit if I have something else I was planning or am in the middle of, or if I just dont happen to be in the right mood for it,,,, That's basically the way I feel about it. I think it's more of a respect thing for me. My house is clean so I don't have to worry about that...but sometimes I'm hanging out in my scrubs and watching the shows I have dvr'd and just plain want some 'me' time. I wouldnt be rude if someone showed up, and I would obviously let them in..but part of me would be kind of resentful that I was interrupted. Or if my kids are being particularly lovely and I'm on my last thread of sanity..a knock on the door might just set me over the edge. HAHAHA I will say that if it was one of my very very best friends or a guy I was in a committed relationship with, I wouldn't care really. |
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Ladies, please, if you are single, there is no reason for your place to be a mess. I find it to be a very unattractive quality. I am a divorced father and my day can be full at times and the most of a mess I will have is a few things in the sink and yesterday's socks and underwear on the bedroom floor. Real quick fix if company pops in unexpectedly. So when I stop by and see a mess like a tornado went by and can only assume that 1)you are lazy, 2)you are still immature 3)you don't have your **** together or 4)you were brought up in a barn(your mother told you that you weren't, but you have to prove her wrong.) So now when I come by to say hello and you push the clothes on the bed aside so we can copulate, it shouldn't be a surprise if I move on eventually. Just pointing out a major faux pas that women commit. If you have kids, stay strong, I am with you, I feel the pain. I see. Well, in that case, I hope you wouldn't be offended if I didn't bother to push the clothes that I was getting ready to put away to "copulate" with you, or for that matter, bother to open the door when you knocked. My house is very clean..but if I was dating a guy with that kind of attitude, he would never get the chance to even see it. |
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My ex used to ALWAYS drop by without calling
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i can't imagine being anything but pleased if a freind just dropped in; male of female. i'm just not understanding this discussion at all. and why all the worry over a clean house? if it's normally clean anyway then great, you can show off all your hard work and if it's normally lived in messy like mine and most people's then that friend will know you for who you are. or do you want that call beforehand so you can have time to be something that you really ain't? This is pretty much how I feel. I'd be happy if someone wanted to stop by and see me. If it happened to be a time that I was in the middle of something, I'd just politely let them know. If they're dropping by unannounced, I'm sure they'd understand. |
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Ladies, please, if you are single, there is no reason for your place to be a mess. I find it to be a very unattractive quality. I am a divorced father and my day can be full at times and the most of a mess I will have is a few things in the sink and yesterday's socks and underwear on the bedroom floor. Real quick fix if company pops in unexpectedly. So when I stop by and see a mess like a tornado went by and can only assume that 1)you are lazy, 2)you are still immature 3)you don't have your **** together or 4)you were brought up in a barn(your mother told you that you weren't, but you have to prove her wrong.) So now when I come by to say hello and you push the clothes on the bed aside so we can copulate, it shouldn't be a surprise if I move on eventually. Just pointing out a major faux pas that women commit. If you have kids, stay strong, I am with you, I feel the pain. I see. Well, in that case, I hope you wouldn't be offended if I didn't bother to push the clothes that I was getting ready to put away to "copulate" with you, or for that matter, bother to open the door when you knocked. My house is very clean..but if I was dating a guy with that kind of attitude, he would never get the chance to even see it.  |
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If it happened to be a time that I was in the middle of something, I'd just politely let them know. If they're dropping by unannounced, I'm sure they'd understand. WWOOOOOAAAAH Way to much sense made here. |
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I Want the call so I can have the opportunity to decline the visit if I have something else I was planning or am in the middle of, or if I just dont happen to be in the right mood for it,,,, This. My house is clean enough. That's not my problem. But my friends know to call first, and the guy better learn quick. Of course, I never have anyone just "drop by" when I need help. Conveniently, THAT never happens. And they're sure quick to skedaddle when I ask for help. |
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I always appreciate a heads up if they are coming by, however, if they do happen to drop by unannounced, I have nothing to hide. If they don't like it... there's a door. I will encourage them to use it. I will not do parlor tricks for anyone or change my life to accommodate theirs. ... Just who I am.
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now that was good. loved it
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and yet so often i read in a profile, "friends first." What does this have to do with the thread? He mighta been responding to what I said. I was saying its one thing for a friend to drop by, but a potential romantic interest, not so much. actually the point i was trying to make is that in this thread several posts have indicated that a friend dropping by is not a problem and "friends fist" appears in many profiles. so is someone who says that in their profile not at least a friend of someone they are interested in for romance? if not then what is it to be "friends first"??? |
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Ladies, please, if you are single, there is no reason for your place to be a mess. I find it to be a very unattractive quality. I am a divorced father and my day can be full at times and the most of a mess I will have is a few things in the sink and yesterday's socks and underwear on the bedroom floor. Real quick fix if company pops in unexpectedly. So when I stop by and see a mess like a tornado went by and can only assume that 1)you are lazy, 2) you are still immature 3)you don't have your **** together or 4)you were brought up in a barn(your mother told you that you weren't, but you have to prove her wrong.) So now when I come by to say hello and you push the clothes on the bed aside so we can copulate, it shouldn't be a surprise if I move on eventually. Just pointing out a major faux pas that women commit. If you have kids, stay strong, I am with you, I feel the pain. This just cracks me up. I don't know a single woman who would leave those on the floor :-) Also, just what does this 'hello' consist of? Apparently I know some really messy women, cause I've known a bunch of women who leave dirty laundry on the floor. They also happened to be really creative and hilarious people. |
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Even though I have a different position on romantic partners, I really like this thread. I really dislike it when people are not willing to respect basic requests for personal space or privacy.
I prefer most people to txt before dropping by. Romantic partners are usually welcome to drop by whenever. The only issue is if I'm dating more than one person, I tell them and expect them to be able to graciously accept that reality if they are showing up unannounced. |
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