Isn't it funny how some of things you hold dearest to you are the very same things hat slow you down in life and keep you from furthering your success.
Isn't it also funny how people complain about their lives and how unhappy they are. Yet, they do nothing to change it. Really? Everyone is capible of making their lives better and that much more successful.
Those of us with good heads on our shoulders learn from our mistakes and then laugh about how others don't listen.

well I think that not everyone defines success in the same way.."slowing me down?"

what of I wanna go slow?

well going slow is good . Just as long as you are happy with your pace.

Well, I am certainly trying to change my life by getting a better job so I can be sucessful but at my age; no one wants to hire me. So if you have any ideas; please let me know.

I love my life, I have everything i need and my success is probably not what others would call successful but I love the simpleness of my life.

why do the things you hold dearest slow you down? The things I hold dearest enhance my life. I don;t understand

again it is such a negative perspective - how could something one holds dearest be a burden? I have been on another thread on here - started by a man who apparently has never been married - and it is so negative - what you can't do, shouldn't do, blah blah blah.....if things are burdens or sacrifices - why do them?

if the OP feels he's being held back and he is unhappy, I would say that he is confused about what it is that really is "dear" to him and his success is, in reality, the more dear

How Fast Are You Moving When You Are Sitting Still?

When, after a long day of running around, you finally find the time to relax in your favorite armchair, nothing seems easier than just sitting still. But have you ever considered how fast you are really moving when it seems you are not moving at all?

When we are on a smoothly riding train, we sometimes get the illusion that the train is standing still and the trees or buildings are moving backwards. In the same way, because we "ride" with the spinning Earth, it appears to us that the Sun and the stars are the ones doing the moving as day and night alternate. But actually, it is our planet that turns on its axis once a day -- and all of us who live on the Earth's surface are moving with it. How fast do we turn?

To make one complete rotation in 24 hours, a point near the equator of the Earth must move at close to 1000 miles per hour (1600 km/hr). The speed gets less as you move north, but it's still a good clip throughout the United States. Because gravity holds us tight to the surface of our planet, we move with the Earth and don't notice its rotation in everyday life.
http://www.astrosociety.org/education/publications/tnl/71/howfast.html

Well, what I was trying to say is some of the things we hold dearest hold us back from moving on to something more interesting or diffrent. The things we hold dearest to us are because we are comfortable with them and know they are safe. The things we hold dearest to us are even sometimes people who lead us into a false sense of closeness and love. When in reality you just waste time trying to make that person a priority... Rather then giving someone else a chance.
But, why would you? You want that friendship or relationship to come true. But, in reality you are fooled by them and it" slows you down in life" ... not just that situation but any ...Job..... Relationship... Where you live... who you hang out with.... I'm not saying we all have this problem either so please don't be so judgemental . We all don't have a perfect life, but we complain about things we can fix. Why ? Are we all Lazy? No, we put other people or situations before our needs and continue to be unhappy.

Good to know :) But.........? lol

:)

Don't give up with all that " no one will hire me" That is probably why you don't have a job. Be a little more positive on the situation. There are tons of ways to make $$. You your abitlity to create. Think, and use that brain of yours to create a idea . Then focus on it and don't give up till you have reached your goal or fall on your face. Then if you fall....? Just pick yourself up and keep trucking!!! GL on your job search :) I know it is hard with our economy but don't lose faith.

I don;t feel I am being judgemental in the way you mean, but I may not understand you completely either. I simply have an opinion that you perhaps do not like, and I think it is mostly semantics that is in the way here.

I still think it is the individual's error to claim that something that is TRULY dear to him is a burden or slowing his/her life progress. I feel that person has incorrectly defined their priorities and could perhaps benefit from rethinking what those things REALLY are that they hold dearest. I am not criticizng anyone or saying which priorities are right or wrong - I am suggesting however that some reassessment may be in order of what a person's real priorities are - and in a non judgemental way

for example - if a person says they're being held back from success because of family commitments - then that person must decide which is priority is most dear, and act accordingly - not by abandoning responsibility but by first assessing and then choosing actions that fit within their moral framework.

I think people reassess priorities all the time....at least thinking people do - and not everyone will agree with one's priorities....oh well

Judgemental? we are all judgemental. every moment of everyday

It's a comfort zone that most people don't want to give up too redily. They would rather stay where they are making less money either because they love what they do or they are intimadated or afraid to try something new. I have heard sooo many people tell me how much they 'hate' their job, to learn that they stay there because the job sucks but the pay is great. So there are two sides. I'm with you...I say, "if you are unhappy, make a change".

The same goes in a relationship. If you feel your significant other is holding you back from excelling, it's your call. You are in charge of your own destiny

I know exactly how you feel and have fallen into that situation more than once. I wish I had an answer, but I find myself in that familiar place again. Good luck!

I must be in the zone tonight. For some reason I am connecting with the reasoning behind the OPs of mingle.

nice posting

Oh, I do have a job but want a better paying job. I can be as positive as I want but I can't make myself younger. Most employers want someone in their 20s or 30s. How do I know this? Its because I have friends that work for example for 911, and for the city and their own bosses tell them this. They have a hugh hiring spree and the only people hired are in their 20s and 30s. Lets face it no one wants to hire someone in their 50s. I put hundreds of resumes; do phone calls, drop in on companies, etc. I look at my qualifications and know I am a good fit but they will hire a younger person. It is just a fact.

No one holds anyone back except the one that is doing the holding..... Just that many of us get in a comfort zone and is afraid of taking that first step going forward.

Those that do nothing but complain about life will never be happy for they will never be able to notice how good they have it in the first place.

Until one can learn to deal with life's issues and get past it they will never be happy...

We need to learn to deal with issues and not dwell on the things we can not change. Instead we need to learn to deal with the things we can change for the better and learn from our mistakes in order to move on..

I am responsible for my life, my situation, my happiness. Choices I have made have put me where I am at today. Yes their are things I cant change but I can choose to change the things I can or keep making the same choices and remain where I am. But even in the worst situations I CAN CHOOSE to be thankful for the blessings I do have.