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Okay, so this leads me to another question for the men. Guys, would you be offended if a woman took an evasive action around you? For example: it's after hours in a building so no one is really around. You are on the elevator and it stops at her floor. When the door opens she decides she will wait for the next elevator rather than ride down with just you. Are you offended or do you understand where she is coming from?  Thanks for answering the question. I figure most decent guys won't be offended as they can understand how scary it might be for a woman out alone. 
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Okay, so this leads me to another question for the men. Guys, would you be offended if a woman took an evasive action around you? For example: it's after hours in a building so no one is really around. You are on the elevator and it stops at her floor. When the door opens she decides she will wait for the next elevator rather than ride down with just you. Are you offended or do you understand where she is coming from? Thanks for answering the question. I figure most decent guys won't be offended as they can understand how scary it might be for a woman out alone. 
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Okay, so this leads me to another question for the men. Guys, would you be offended if a woman took an evasive action around you? For example: it's after hours in a building so no one is really around. You are on the elevator and it stops at her floor. When the door opens she decides she will wait for the next elevator rather than ride down with just you. Are you offended or do you understand where she is coming from? Thanks for answering the question. I figure most decent guys won't be offended as they can understand how scary it might be for a woman out alone. I'll protect you. 
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Okay, so this leads me to another question for the men. Guys, would you be offended if a woman took an evasive action around you? For example: it's after hours in a building so no one is really around. You are on the elevator and it stops at her floor. When the door opens she decides she will wait for the next elevator rather than ride down with just you. Are you offended or do you understand where she is coming from? Thanks for answering the question. I figure most decent guys won't be offended as they can understand how scary it might be for a woman out alone. I'd protect you too. 
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Okay, so this leads me to another question for the men. Guys, would you be offended if a woman took an evasive action around you? For example: it's after hours in a building so no one is really around. You are on the elevator and it stops at her floor. When the door opens she decides she will wait for the next elevator rather than ride down with just you. Are you offended or do you understand where she is coming from? I wouldn't be offended. I have never understood women anyways. |
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Okay, so this leads me to another question for the men. Guys, would you be offended if a woman took an evasive action around you? For example: it's after hours in a building so no one is really around. You are on the elevator and it stops at her floor. When the door opens she decides she will wait for the next elevator rather than ride down with just you. Are you offended or do you understand where she is coming from? Thanks for answering the question. I figure most decent guys won't be offended as they can understand how scary it might be for a woman out alone. I'll protect you. 
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Okay, so this leads me to another question for the men. Guys, would you be offended if a woman took an evasive action around you? For example: it's after hours in a building so no one is really around. You are on the elevator and it stops at her floor. When the door opens she decides she will wait for the next elevator rather than ride down with just you. Are you offended or do you understand where she is coming from? Thanks for answering the question. I figure most decent guys won't be offended as they can understand how scary it might be for a woman out alone. I'd protect you too.
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its hard to do, but sometimes it helps to realize that we cant know what someone else has gone through that causes their reaction
for a good year after I was attacked, I was very fearful of being approached, confronted, or otherwise engaged by males who resembled the one who attacked me,,,, it took unlearning, but it didnt happen overnight, and I hope my reaction to others during that time wasnt taken personally,, |
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Someone threatens you with a gun or a knife and tells you to get in the car. Do you fight knowing you may be stabbed or shot on the spot or do you get in and hope for the best? Is it a gun or a knife? There's no way I would simply just get in the car, immediately after being threatened. But if its a gun, and I believe there is a chance they would actually use it, then depending on how the conversation goes there is a chance they could convince me that getting in the car is in my best interest. If a fatal injury on the spot is very likely, I will be open to other options. But if its a knife, its less likely. How many are there? Are they cool, confident, focused? Or agitated, stressed? Did they pick me in particular? Can I cause them to doubt whether its worth their while? Sorry, time is up. They have forced you into the car. Oh please, three of those questions are answered the INSTANT you see them, and for the other two anyone with situational awareness starts to form an impression immediately. |
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its hard to do, but sometimes it helps to realize that we cant know what someone else has gone through that causes their reaction for a good year after I was attacked, I was very fearful of being approached, confronted, or otherwise engaged by males who resembled the one who attacked me,,,, it took unlearning, but it didnt happen overnight, and I hope my reaction to others during that time wasnt taken personally,, I can understand what you mean. My attacker wasn't a stranger but did catch me by surprise. I did fight him off as he would have killed me had I not. This is part of the reason I won't date anymore. I don't know that I will ever trust any man again or turn my back on him. |
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its hard to do, but sometimes it helps to realize that we cant know what someone else has gone through that causes their reaction for a good year after I was attacked, I was very fearful of being approached, confronted, or otherwise engaged by males who resembled the one who attacked me,,,, it took unlearning, but it didnt happen overnight, and I hope my reaction to others during that time wasnt taken personally,, I can understand what you mean. My attacker wasn't a stranger but did catch me by surprise. I did fight him off as he would have killed me had I not. This is part of the reason I won't date anymore. I don't know that I will ever trust any man again or turn my back on him. I hope you work through the distrust,,, 
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its hard to do, but sometimes it helps to realize that we cant know what someone else has gone through that causes their reaction for a good year after I was attacked, I was very fearful of being approached, confronted, or otherwise engaged by males who resembled the one who attacked me,,,, it took unlearning, but it didnt happen overnight, and I hope my reaction to others during that time wasnt taken personally,, I can understand what you mean. My attacker wasn't a stranger but did catch me by surprise. I did fight him off as he would have killed me had I not. This is part of the reason I won't date anymore. I don't know that I will ever trust any man again or turn my back on him. I hope you work through the distrust,,, Thanks. I do trust my male friends just won't trust one in a relationship. |
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Someone threatens you with a gun or a knife and tells you to get in the car. Do you fight knowing you may be stabbed or shot on the spot or do you get in and hope for the best? Okay, so this leads me to another question for the men. Guys, would you be offended if a woman took an evasive action around you? For example: it's after hours in a building so no one is really around. You are on the elevator and it stops at her floor. When the door opens she decides she will wait for the next elevator rather than ride down with just you. Are you offended or do you understand where she is coming from? first question: start asking a series of questions designed to confuse the culprit while secretly dialing 911 on my cellular telephone (but never get in the car) second question: step out of the elevator, and hold the door until she gets in. then make her ride down alone (as a bonus as the doors close i would point and laugh at her) |
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Our children are taught in schol that if someone grabs or threatens you that the first 15 seconds are the most important, they are told to fight like a mad dog, bite sctratch kick whatever, a little hurt in the begining is better than dead in the end..
So blow the knife or gun or whatever, i would fight, they can only kill me once 
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Okay, so this leads me to another question for the men. Guys, would you be offended if a woman took an evasive action around you? For example: it's after hours in a building so no one is really around. You are on the elevator and it stops at her floor. When the door opens she decides she will wait for the next elevator rather than ride down with just you. Are you offended or do you understand where she is coming from? Thanks for answering the question. I figure most decent guys won't be offended as they can understand how scary it might be for a woman out alone. I wouldnt care who was in the thing, i don't get in with strangers, not because I am scared just because I dont like strangers.. obviously there are not normally other people in our couple of lifts. 
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I once got held at Knifepoint, bear in mind though, the person doing it to me was brain damaged and autistic. He couldn't think or do anything for himself. Hell he couldn't even talk. I doubt he even knew it was harmful, god bless him. So i can forgive that situation, as he probably didn't realise what he was doing at all. I just stayed calm. I tried not shout, shock, or surprise him, as sometimes that triggers them into action even more. As it shocks them in turn. Luckily, he ended up not stabbing me. I was just slightly wary of him ever since that incident. I had to tell his mum, as he lived with her, just incase he suddenly did it to her, too. He did the same to a woman who was babysitting him. Saying that, autistic or not, he still could have killed me. But let's not start dwelling on that. You really don't have a clue how you'd react, unless it happens to you yourself.
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When i said this bit in my last post, "I just stayed calm", that's actually not true. As you can't possibly be calm in such a situation. What i ACTUALLY meant was, i had to shut my brain down, in order to not think about what was happening at that time. As i was in shock, so i didn't even want the time to think about what was going on. I just remember thinking "If you're gonna kill me, please just let it be over with quickly". I couldn't do much to calm down in that given moment. I just tried not to think about it. This was one of those moments in life, where i felt i needed to pray that i'd be okay. I'll admit it lead to me over-protecting myself to a certain extent. It never fully leaves my mind. These types of things teach you to never take life for granted. Especially when you have nothing to fight back with.
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If they have a knife they'll be eating it (good ol' service training). If they have a gun I'll be eating lead.
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I was taught in self defense and martial arts that they are going to kill you or worse anyway so you make them kill you there where someone might find your body. I know that sounds horrible.
I have been attacked numerous times both by strangers and known persons. Last time, I threw a boyfriend out. He had come after me several times but he beat the dog and then I lost it because I felt like someone who would hit an innocent dog would not stop anywhere. I did kick a nearly 300 pound man's behind on pure adrenaline and martial arts flashbacks. It is easier when you are defending someone else. As a women, the maternal lift a bus off your kid strength does kick in when it is a child or animal. A large portion of self defense is not getting yourself in foolish situations. |
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When i said this bit in my last post, "I just stayed calm", that's actually not true. As you can't possibly be calm in such a situation. What i ACTUALLY meant was, i had to shut my brain down, in order to not think about what was happening at that time. As i was in shock, so i didn't even want the time to think about what was going on. I just remember thinking "If you're gonna kill me, please just let it be over with quickly". I couldn't do much to calm down in that given moment. I just tried not to think about it. This was one of those moments in life, where i felt i needed to pray that i'd be okay. I'll admit it lead to me over-protecting myself to a certain extent. It never fully leaves my mind. These types of things teach you to never take life for granted. Especially when you have nothing to fight back with. And then your body has a whole other reaction.
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