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Topic: Bringing Home The Bacon
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Wed 10/26/11 03:56 PM
Edited by 42BlackBBW on Wed 10/26/11 03:58 PM
As a 21st Century, single women, I generally do my own hunting and gathering – I don’t only bring home the bacon, I bring home the whole pig! laugh

I know from my own experience, that my version of 21st Century women has intimidated some men – not that it’s ever come up in conversation but it’s just something I’ve picked up on..

On my ‘woe is me’ days, I sometimes wish I was less 21st Century and more 19th Century. Thankfully, the feeling doesn’t last long but the thoughts are there.

Ladies...do you consider yourself as a 21st Century woman? How has this affected your dating experience(s)?

Guys..do you secretly wish for a less - how do I put this and still hold my head high laugh... a less evolved woman?

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Wed 10/26/11 03:59 PM
a lot of us do not have much choice in the matter

it is what it is

men are ambivalent in my opinion

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Wed 10/26/11 04:07 PM
Edited by 42BlackBBW on Wed 10/26/11 04:30 PM

a lot of us do not have much choice in the matter

it is what it is

men are ambivalent in my opinion


Granted, the majority of single women/moms, are the wage earners, the decision makers, the one that keeps themselves and their kids sane... As a result, it has in some cases, made men feel that they are redundant in all areas but one - if you know what I mean... has his had an effect on your dating experiences?

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Wed 10/26/11 05:14 PM


a lot of us do not have much choice in the matter

it is what it is

men are ambivalent in my opinion


Granted, the majority of single women/moms, are the wage earners, the decision makers, the one that keeps themselves and their kids sane... As a result, it has in some cases, made men feel that they are redundant in all areas but one - if you know what I mean... has his had an effect on your dating experiences?


I've never had an issue with a guy being intimidated because I work and support myself.

Most of the married ladies I know work as well and their husbands don't have a problem with it, either.

There are always complaints in the forums about gold diggers and ladies like that, so I would think that most men would be fine with us being able to support ourselves.

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Wed 10/26/11 05:16 PM

As a 21st Century, single women, I generally do my own hunting and gathering – I don’t only bring home the bacon, I bring home the whole pig! laugh

I know from my own experience, that my version of 21st Century women has intimidated some men – not that it’s ever come up in conversation but it’s just something I’ve picked up on..

On my ‘woe is me’ days, I sometimes wish I was less 21st Century and more 19th Century. Thankfully, the feeling doesn’t last long but the thoughts are there.

Ladies...do you consider yourself as a 21st Century woman? How has this affected your dating experience(s)?

Guys..do you secretly wish for a less - how do I put this and still hold my head high laugh... a less evolved woman?



I am proudly a 21st woman that brings home the bacon, that owns her own house; that also renovates the house, and has served in the military. I wouldn't change a thing and yes its affected my dating as the guys I met don't like an independent woman. At first it bothered me; but now I just don't care. I am just going to be who I am, enjoy life, and the hell with what men think. pitchfork

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Wed 10/26/11 05:23 PM


a lot of us do not have much choice in the matter

it is what it is

men are ambivalent in my opinion


Granted, the majority of single women/moms, are the wage earners, the decision makers, the one that keeps themselves and their kids sane... As a result, it has in some cases, made men feel that they are redundant in all areas but one - if you know what I mean... has his had an effect on your dating experiences?



IDK - it's a good question - I haven't thought about it. I don;t feel that men are redundant. really enjoy them

in what ways do u think it might affect dating?

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Wed 10/26/11 05:24 PM


As a 21st Century, single women, I generally do my own hunting and gathering – I don’t only bring home the bacon, I bring home the whole pig! laugh

I know from my own experience, that my version of 21st Century women has intimidated some men – not that it’s ever come up in conversation but it’s just something I’ve picked up on..

On my ‘woe is me’ days, I sometimes wish I was less 21st Century and more 19th Century. Thankfully, the feeling doesn’t last long but the thoughts are there.

Ladies...do you consider yourself as a 21st Century woman? How has this affected your dating experience(s)?

Guys..do you secretly wish for a less - how do I put this and still hold my head high laugh... a less evolved woman?



I am proudly a 21st woman that brings home the bacon, that owns her own house; that also renovates the house, and has served in the military. I wouldn't change a thing and yes its affected my dating as the guys I met don't like an independent woman. At first it bothered me; but now I just don't care. I am just going to be who I am, enjoy life, and the hell with what men think. pitchfork




You go girl!drinks :banana: flowers

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Wed 10/26/11 05:45 PM
what if i don't want bacon?

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Wed 10/26/11 06:52 PM
Edited by Jeanniebean on Wed 10/26/11 06:55 PM

As a 21st Century, single women, I generally do my own hunting and gathering – I don’t only bring home the bacon, I bring home the whole pig! laugh

I know from my own experience, that my version of 21st Century women has intimidated some men – not that it’s ever come up in conversation but it’s just something I’ve picked up on..

On my ‘woe is me’ days, I sometimes wish I was less 21st Century and more 19th Century. Thankfully, the feeling doesn’t last long but the thoughts are there.

Ladies...do you consider yourself as a 21st Century woman? How has this affected your dating experience(s)?

Guys..do you secretly wish for a less - how do I put this and still hold my head high laugh... a less evolved woman?




Because there are so many pampered men (pampered by their mothers) who don't learn to bring home the bacon, women of today have had to learn to do it themselves.

And women are usually saddled with the responsibility of raising the children when their men wander off forgetting where they have planted their seed.

Because of this, women have been forced to become independent, resourceful, and smarter than men.

This kind of woman, if she is not careful, will attract a man who will join her litter and suckle right along with all her kids.

They become just another burden and another mouth to feed.

That is why smart independent women are usually without a man in her house.




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Wed 10/26/11 06:55 PM

what if i don't want bacon?


it's required:tongue:

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Wed 10/26/11 07:03 PM



As a 21st Century, single women, I generally do my own hunting and gathering – I don’t only bring home the bacon, I bring home the whole pig! laugh

I know from my own experience, that my version of 21st Century women has intimidated some men – not that it’s ever come up in conversation but it’s just something I’ve picked up on..

On my ‘woe is me’ days, I sometimes wish I was less 21st Century and more 19th Century. Thankfully, the feeling doesn’t last long but the thoughts are there.

Ladies...do you consider yourself as a 21st Century woman? How has this affected your dating experience(s)?

Guys..do you secretly wish for a less - how do I put this and still hold my head high laugh... a less evolved woman?



I am proudly a 21st woman that brings home the bacon, that owns her own house; that also renovates the house, and has served in the military. I wouldn't change a thing and yes its affected my dating as the guys I met don't like an independent woman. At first it bothered me; but now I just don't care. I am just going to be who I am, enjoy life, and the hell with what men think. pitchfork



You go girl!drinks :banana: flowers


Awww; thanks for the kind words. flowerforyou

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Wed 10/26/11 07:05 PM
Edited by navygirl on Wed 10/26/11 07:14 PM


As a 21st Century, single women, I generally do my own hunting and gathering – I don’t only bring home the bacon, I bring home the whole pig! laugh

I know from my own experience, that my version of 21st Century women has intimidated some men – not that it’s ever come up in conversation but it’s just something I’ve picked up on..

On my ‘woe is me’ days, I sometimes wish I was less 21st Century and more 19th Century. Thankfully, the feeling doesn’t last long but the thoughts are there.

Ladies...do you consider yourself as a 21st Century woman? How has this affected your dating experience(s)?

Guys..do you secretly wish for a less - how do I put this and still hold my head high laugh... a less evolved woman?




Because there are so many pampered men (pampered by their mothers) who don't learn to bring home the bacon, women of today have had to learn to do it themselves.

And women are usually saddled with the responsibility of raising the children when their men wander off forgetting where they have planted their seed.

Because of this, women have been forced to become independent, resourceful, and smarter than men.

This kind of woman, if she is not careful, will attract a man who will join her litter and suckle right along with all her kids.

They become just another burden and another mouth to feed.

That is why smart independent women are usually without a man in her house.



Wow; Jeannie you nailed it as that has been my experience with men which is one of the reasons I am still single. :thumbsup:

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Wed 10/26/11 07:28 PM
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Wed 10/26/11 08:00 PM
In my personal experience ... Men that want a woman in the kitchen with an apron and go go boots...don't like her to be independent. I believe they feel threatened of losing control of her. explode

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Wed 10/26/11 08:04 PM

In my personal experience ... Men that want a woman in the kitchen with an apron and go go boots...don't like her to be independent. I believe they feel threatened of losing control of her. explode


I guess it depends on the kind of men you meet. I don't meet many like that at all.

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Thu 10/27/11 01:15 AM


As a 21st Century, single women, I generally do my own hunting and gathering – I don’t only bring home the bacon, I bring home the whole pig! laugh

I know from my own experience, that my version of 21st Century women has intimidated some men – not that it’s ever come up in conversation but it’s just something I’ve picked up on..

On my ‘woe is me’ days, I sometimes wish I was less 21st Century and more 19th Century. Thankfully, the feeling doesn’t last long but the thoughts are there.

Ladies...do you consider yourself as a 21st Century woman? How has this affected your dating experience(s)?

Guys..do you secretly wish for a less - how do I put this and still hold my head high laugh... a less evolved woman?



I am proudly a 21st woman that brings home the bacon, that owns her own house; that also renovates the house, and has served in the military. I wouldn't change a thing and yes its affected my dating as the guys I met don't like an independent woman. At first it bothered me; but now I just don't care. I am just going to be who I am, enjoy life, and the hell with what men think. pitchfork


Unfortunately, this has been my experience also.

Some men have shied away from me because I am an “independent” while some men, I’m sure saw a challenge to their manliness and became argumentative and defensive.

And I’ve lost count of the guys that have hung up on me because we’ve argued because I didn’t agree with their opinions..

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Thu 10/27/11 01:18 AM



a lot of us do not have much choice in the matter

it is what it is

men are ambivalent in my opinion


Granted, the majority of single women/moms, are the wage earners, the decision makers, the one that keeps themselves and their kids sane... As a result, it has in some cases, made men feel that they are redundant in all areas but one - if you know what I mean... has his had an effect on your dating experiences?


I've never had an issue with a guy being intimidated because I work and support myself.

Most of the married ladies I know work as well and their husbands don't have a problem with it, either.

There are always complaints in the forums about gold diggers and ladies like that, so I would think that most men would be fine with us being able to support ourselves.


Generally men are happy that women are self supportive and you've been fortunate that you haven't come across the ones that Navygirl, Jeanniebean and myself have come across.

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Thu 10/27/11 01:22 AM



a lot of us do not have much choice in the matter

it is what it is

men are ambivalent in my opinion


Granted, the majority of single women/moms, are the wage earners, the decision makers, the one that keeps themselves and their kids sane... As a result, it has in some cases, made men feel that they are redundant in all areas but one - if you know what I mean... has his had an effect on your dating experiences?



IDK - it's a good question - I haven't thought about it. I don;t feel that men are redundant. really enjoy them

in what ways do u think it might affect dating?


I really enjoy men as wellpitchfork :banana: :banana:

You are lucky that it hasn't affected your dating. Having thought about it a bit more, I think it's more about 'personality' types attracting a certain type of man.

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Thu 10/27/11 01:24 AM

what if i don't want bacon?


I don't think any of us set out to "want the bacon". It's just the situation we've found ourselves in...I don't even eat red meat!!!


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Thu 10/27/11 01:36 AM
Well kids, I am personally terrified to date. I was married almost 30 years before my wonderful man passed away and I have been without him since Jan 2, 2009. The think I really miss most of all is his gigantic hugs and scooping me up when I would come to bed as cold as an ice cube....sigh....so how do people do this? Get over being married over half your life and let someone else in?

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