There is obviously no easy way to approach this because of the many different opinions that may follow; but, I am 18 years old and my boyfriend is 22. we have considered the possibility of getting married when I turn 20. What are some pros and cons about getting married in your early 20's? I will however add that before we decided this he can support me financially, and have money in reserve to buy a house. I am in college to earn my doctorate. Is there any advice that anybody can give me? or stories that anybody would like to share?

College and marriage are both institutions. It is easy to get institutionalized. You are going for marriage an a doctorate. Wow. You are brave.

Hiya Dabrandy,

I remember an ex asking if he could move in with me. I agreed because we were in love and it seemed like the right thing to do...I remember feeling apprehensive right up until the day he was due to move in, then, at the last moment, I told him I'd changed my mind.

Luckily, he understood and we were able to work things out and he did eventually move in but not until years later..

I think the pros and cons would be the same regardless of your age...the fact that you're seeking advice would tend to suggest that you're not 100% certain that you want to get married - I would see how you felt at 20.

I'm not suggesting that you are not committed to this relationship but I lot can happen in two years.

Recent studies show that marriage is the number one cause of divorce......

I was married at 19, we where both kids and immature it didnt work out.

I was married again at 23 and was still immature and it didnt work out.

I remarried him at35 it still didnt work out..

My brother married his wife at 18 and they are in their 40's and still together..


The only advice I can give is to make sure you are both 100% sure that you are ready for it, marraige is hard work,


There really are no guarentees with marraige as it depends on two people commiting themselve completely to the relationship.

So I guess it's just how do you feel, do you have any doubts,

There just might be a lot of truth in that statement..

Get married!

follow your

and good luck

don't depend on him to support u and u will be fine otherwise

I'm so jaded I probably ought not say anything...but here goes.
Lots of good food for thought here...the mom in me wants to say don't you even think about marriage or babies until you are at least 25...You've got so much life ahead of you, you seem to have a lot going for you...marriage may limit your opportunities to grow and learn as an individual.
No matter how together you are...you both have alot of growing to do...you WILL grow apart...it will take a lot of work to bring it back to a new center....most couples fail at that....
but if I can pretend to be that girl again and remember being young and in love...I say go for it...but have no doubts...it ain't going to be easy.

and whatever you do...do not marry out of fear of losing him!!

I editing to fix a couple words then added more...I am going to stop now.. lol

Marriage is a lot of work. Divorced is a lot of work. Getting remarried to the same person is a lot of work. Getting divorced to the one you remarried is a lot of work. Don't forget to take some time off once in a while if it isn't only to stop and smell the roses. Then examine them. Don't just look at them. Yeah. Get down on your knees and really look at them. Then without taking them out of the ground hold the whole rose. You feel that sharp pain. That is a thorn. Hurts, huh? Real roses have thorns. They are still pretty though.

All I can say with everything I believe in.... there is no advice like the advice of your loving parents. If you happen to not have them around for that.. you need to look within YOUR heart and find the answer. Everyone here will have a different opinion and base a lot on what their own experiences were....however, that does not mean your life will result the same. I wish you the best and I understand you are faced with a tough decision. Love still goes on with or without that piece of paper.

I am ready to commit again....I don't like lonely.....

aww You're not lonely... I care!

Thanks Pyxxxie