What is your ideal first date?

Dinner and a movie

A bookstore, and a long conversation about sahelanthropus tchadensis.

Dinner and a movie? That is so cliche, ideal first date would be where-ever the car takes us

picking her up on the bike and hearing her say "baby i don't want you spending money on me. let's just take this beer i bought you and ride out to a quiet spot where i can suck your (radio edit)"

not much better. for a first date you need a plan.

while there is something to be said for spontaneity, a first date is not the place for it. too many things can go wrong. besides, if you hope to have a second date, you had better show this woman you have the ability to put some thought into how you plan on spending time with her.

Well, if it's an ideal date then it would have to include an intermediate-expert backgammon match. There is a distinct, sarcastic, teasing lingo that goes along with traditional way of playing backgammon. But I may be asking for too much.

ha ha real funny bozo. i'm sure you think you are hilarious, but you keep posting stuff like this and you are going to end up talking to yourself

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pizza, pool or canoeing and pizza


did I mention that I like pizza?

Long trip out to the mountains along the dirt road West of the highway, hard to catch the turn though...Especially hard when they wake up in the middle of the drive.

Dinner downtown T.O and outdoor skating at Nathan Phillips Square.

Anything that gives me the chance to talk to them and get to know them better. No movies! Movies are not good for first dates, as you can't sit and talk.

for a minute I thought there was two of you! I think I need to take a day off from work

Anything that doesnt involve dressing up or lots of people, I dont like either

Here are some BASIC guidelines for a first date.

Movies are generally a bad move on a first date because there is no interaction and you can't talk or even see each other. A fun, exciting or amazing Activity + Food + Drinks is a tried and true template. Memorize it, A.F.D. Activity, Food, Drinks. Usually in that order


Haircut....Check

Shower....Check

Threads....Check

Clean fingernails and deal with any other "My bad" that could reflect poorly on oneself....Check

Extra cash in case she's patristic/old fashioned/or broke herself... She might want to pay but myriad factors are involved with this one, be prepared....Check

Underwear...Che...Nope, go Commando. j/k ....Check


Pick her up.

If you don't have a car, borrow one from a family member or friend or be willing to rent. If you don't have a license, use a shuttle service, checkered cabs are a no-no. If you're flat assed broke and sans license, you might be better off as friends..... Unless there's some heavy chemistry/true love, Princess Bride stuff going on. Get creative but don't lie, many people are in dire straights these days, this type of situation will test your mettle though.... And your game.

DISCLAIMER: If you're too broke to get her there and back again, buy dinner AND/OR drinks, you might want to re-think the whole dating thing. There's always the exception to this one, but basically, they're statistical anomalies. and shouldn't be depended upon.



One should do some on the spot detective work when asking her out or whatever is needed to get an idea of what she really likes to do for fun, something she has been really hoping to do, e.g. "She's dying to see Riverdance and they just happen to be in town next week...". For all you know she could be a nut for Mini-golf, but it's best to have some idea... It's generally considered lame to simply ask in advance, "What would you like to do when we go out?", the reasons for this are somewhat clear, women seem to like the art of surprise and want you to read their minds Or at the very least have instinct and wits enough to show her a good time.


With Dinner, there are several choices:

1. Find out what she likes ahead of time and make reservations.

2. If you don't know and can't find out, make reservations @ a moderate to fine dining establishment with a good assortment of various cuisine as a fail-safe. Make sure you know where the local restaurants are. While you're out slip in some talk about food, if she's indecisive or you fail to extract the necessary intel you already have your spot. If she is craving Thai or something exotic and not on the menu you will know where to go....

3. Just make a guess on the fly. <---- Bad odds!

Then add a bit of flavor to the night with that good food and the chance to conversate.... Yeah, I know it's not a real word

Remember to listen.


By this time, if you have any perceptual skills whatsoever, you should know whether or not she is having a good time with you or thinks you're creepy or boring. Watch for those signals.

If nerves have kept you a bit tense but she is willing to continue the date, go somewhere you can have a couple of drinks but don't try to get her drunk, it's painfully obvious when you do this and if she wants to she will most likely do so of her own accord.

Don't: Belch, Fart, Spit, Drool, Text, Talk about how bad your ex was, Use cheesy lines, Eat or Talk with your mouth open, Or generally act like a pu$$y. Try not to stare at her breasts....Too much


NOW, you can let the night take you wherever it takes you


SAFETY REMINDER: Always make sure she arrives back at her door safe and sound, If she has driven you, make sure she gets into her car safe and ask her to text, email or call to let you know she made it home alright. This shows you care.


Lean in for the hug or kiss, she'll let you know which one is appropriate, there's no point in pretending, she already knows you want to kiss her. This takes a little finesse, be smooth. If for any reason you doubt your ability to make this work or already sense she is uncomfortable, let it pass and do the "head twist" to the side a split second before you begin the "lean".


Calling is generally 3-5 days, however this topic is hotly debated.

i never understood "date" and really dislike them myself.....your always in a crowded movie theater or crouded food joint. not much talking can get done and getting to know each other if your constantly wondering if someone is listening in on your convo, if she /he is having a good time, do i have something in my teeth? ....its stupid i would rather plan a night alone together so we can really get to know each other....not in a sexual way i mean it in the most respective way.

Dinner.Then a walk and maybe a coffee or drink at a cafe or bar .

I good with getting drunk in the back of the jeep and tearing up the dunes

or we could steal a car and the county mounties for a spin (j/k )

I'd prefer a first date that was super low-key and casual...I don't want to have to put on my best clothes and get all dressed-up to eat in a 5-star restaurant. Besides I feel weird and uncomfortable if a man spends a lot of money on me. I like to take turns paying for dates. (Or cook a special meal at my house when it's my turn to "treat.")...It makes me nervous to be "indebted" to anyone. I like to "pull my own weight" in a relationship. I'm a "down-home" kind of person and I like to "save" fancy restaurants for special occasions. (Birthdays, anniversaries etc.) And even then it would be hard for me to pay "big bucks" for a single meal!...I am more "at home" in cafes and casual restaurants!