i'm allowed to post just as everyone else without derrogitory statements when poeple say slick shizz like maybe ur in the wrong place or whatever they must take someone's statement personally, why i have no idea when they don't know said person....if u feel some type of way by what i said that's on you but don't transverse ur ineptitude on me because u didn't like what i had to say.. i never seen u or talked to you so why take what i said personnaly?? cuz it's ur thread ooooohhhhh now wh's juvinile??

not much better. for a first date you need a plan.

while there is something to be said for spontaneity, a first date is not the place for it. too many things can go wrong. besides, if you hope to have a second date, you had better show this woman you have the ability to put some thought into how you plan on spending time with her.

Anything that gives me the chance to talk to them and get to know them better. No movies! Movies are not good for first dates, as you can't sit and talk.

Yes, and also a bit creepy to sit in the dark next to a stranger.

Here are some BASIC guidelines for a first date.

Movies are generally a bad move on a first date because there is no interaction and you can't talk or even see each other. A fun, exciting or amazing Activity + Food + Drinks is a tried and true template. Memorize it, A.F.D. Activity, Food, Drinks. Usually in that order


Haircut....Check

Shower....Check

Threads....Check

Clean fingernails and deal with any other "My bad" that could reflect poorly on oneself....Check

Extra cash in case she's patristic/old fashioned/or broke herself... She might want to pay but myriad factors are involved with this one, be prepared....Check

Underwear...Che...Nope, go Commando. j/k ....Check


Pick her up.

If you don't have a car, borrow one from a family member or friend or be willing to rent. If you don't have a license, use a shuttle service, checkered cabs are a no-no. If you're flat assed broke and sans license, you might be better off as friends..... Unless there's some heavy chemistry/true love, Princess Bride stuff going on. Get creative but don't lie, many people are in dire straights these days, this type of situation will test your mettle though.... And your game.

DISCLAIMER: If you're too broke to get her there and back again, buy dinner AND/OR drinks, you might want to re-think the whole dating thing. There's always the exception to this one, but basically, they're statistical anomalies. and shouldn't be depended upon.



One should do some on the spot detective work when asking her out or whatever is needed to get an idea of what she really likes to do for fun, something she has been really hoping to do, e.g. "She's dying to see Riverdance and they just happen to be in town next week...". For all you know she could be a nut for Mini-golf, but it's best to have some idea... It's generally considered lame to simply ask in advance, "What would you like to do when we go out?", the reasons for this are somewhat clear, women seem to like the art of surprise and want you to read their minds Or at the very least have instinct and wits enough to show her a good time.


With Dinner, there are several choices:

1. Find out what she likes ahead of time and make reservations.

2. If you don't know and can't find out, make reservations @ a moderate to fine dining establishment with a good assortment of various cuisine as a fail-safe. Make sure you know where the local restaurants are. While you're out slip in some talk about food, if she's indecisive or you fail to extract the necessary intel you already have your spot. If she is craving Thai or something exotic and not on the menu you will know where to go....

3. Just make a guess on the fly. <---- Bad odds!

Then add a bit of flavor to the night with that good food and the chance to conversate.... Yeah, I know it's not a real word

Remember to listen.


By this time, if you have any perceptual skills whatsoever, you should know whether or not she is having a good time with you or thinks you're creepy or boring. Watch for those signals.

If nerves have kept you a bit tense but she is willing to continue the date, go somewhere you can have a couple of drinks but don't try to get her drunk, it's painfully obvious when you do this and if she wants to she will most likely do so of her own accord.

Don't: Belch, Fart, Spit, Drool, Text, Talk about how bad your ex was, Use cheesy lines, Eat or Talk with your mouth open, Or generally act like a pu$$y. Try not to stare at her breasts....Too much

NOW, you can let the night take you wherever it takes you

SAFETY REMINDER: Always make sure she arrives back at her door safe and sound, If she has driven you, make sure she gets into her car safe and ask her to text, email or call to let you know she made it home alright. This shows you care.

Lean in for the hug or kiss, she'll let you know which one is appropriate, there's no point in pretending, she already knows you want to kiss her. This takes a little finesse, be smooth. If for any reason you doubt your ability to make this work or already sense she is uncomfortable, let it pass and do the "head twist" to the side a split second before you begin the "lean".

Calling is generally 3-5 days, however this topic is hotly debated.

Sounds like you've got this down to a science! lol .. Your date sounds like my ideal date as well. If it's the first date, you don't want to be TOO rogue.. stick to the basics. They are cliche date do's and dont's for a reason, they work.
I am generally a lady and like to be treated as one.. note I said lady, not princess. Old school works, and please don't expect full on action on the first date.

WOW GREAT ADVICE!! written just like an advice columnist.