At my age I know what I want and when I want it. If it just so happens to be the first meet or the second why not. I may not be here tomorrow or might not want it tomorrow..

We only have to answer to ourselves......

And if the other person can not deal with that then I don't want them to hang around anyway...

It depends on what I'm looking for at the moment or from this particular man. I never exclude the possibilities and I stay
open to any and all.

Like Kristi said, I only have to answer to myself, no one else!!

Have to agree with this answer!!

good answer...if the chemistry is there..it's there...if not.....oh well..

I LIKE the realness in these answer's here,,for I try and see and be as real with life as I can be,,,and all these here,,,JUST MAKE GOOD SENSE to me,,,but hey,,,maybe that speaks a great deal,,as we our all older than forty on this page,,I BELIEVE?? BUT then again,,,lol,,,,maybe not,,,

Yeah, I admit to it. LMAO Just a number.

lol...maybe that is it..we are all over 40...

we were all raised in the 'right' way..don't do this don't do that..but I for one hate 'double standards'.

Men say'why buy the cow when the milk is free?'...women are NOT supposed to like sex..if they do, they are 'low women'...but how many boys and men were out there trying to 'do the deed' and ruin these young girls and then women?
Times have changed..women have come to terms with their bodies and their minds. We are capable to taking care of our selves. We can make our own decisions. If we are attracted to a man..we can make that decision to take it to the next step without fear of being called names and being looked down on. We only have to answer to our selves..as long as we are responsible in taking care to be clean and healthy. But just because we might be attracted to one man, doesn't mean that every man that comes along will be attractive to us. We may only have that one night in a year or longer..maybe not..but it's our choice.

In the internet age, that raises a different scenario. I would say, I wouldnt sleep with someone I only knew from one night/one date. There has to be some history between us that has allowed me to discover how much potential the relationship has.

I dont want casual sex, only sex within a commitment. So the frame of mind would be the most important and how much history we have together(Even if not in person).

I actually think that it is so much better, if u give it time to grow, anticipation is a good thing. If u do it on the first night, then whats special about it or her. Just my 2 cents worth.

I agree. Its emotional for me. Ill never be able to or try to deny it by pretending its only physical. For me, from past experience, I need to have the emotions first(Besides lust) before going there with someone.,,,

old school

yup

another good answer

^^^this...if there is no sexual chemistry then there won't be relationship chemistry IME!

@2kids...smexy new pic babe!

Yes..if he's HOT and good looking and no BO nor bad breath.
No...not a moment to waste.
Doesn't really matter who's complaining cause the sounds wake em' up..

Hey now.. I have several years left before I hit 40.

like Ive said before . . to thine own self be true. Only you know the situation and the circumstances of the frist date. And how far you do or dont go is between you and your date. Ive done the deed on the frist date before but ive also dated a guy for two and a half years where their was no sex involved. Its a matter of where your priorities are at the time.

not quite all.
not that it matters.


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well any woman with which there would be enough of a mutual attraction between her and i for circumstances to lead us to the bedroom on the first night would be incredibly special in my book.


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hmmm some man I had just met...Nope no way, he could look good sound good but not be good.
But I think mingle is different as you dont really have a first date, as by the time you meet, you know so much and it doesnt seem like you have just met..
so then yep definately...