This is mostly for women, but of course men are welcome to respond as well from both perspectives.

You’re walking on the street or you’re somewhere public and you get checked out. The guy keeps looking at you and won’t stop looking even though you’re not smiling. How do you feel?

Please list your stories of such instances and how you handled it.

I have been stared at my whole life.
Once you get past the fear that you
must be trailing toilet paper out your
azz, it becomes surreally ignorable.

So, no, does not bother me at all.
What good taste they must have :-)

It depends. Some stares are flattering, some are scary. I cant really describe the difference,, just a feeling.

I just make sure I don't got a booger hangin'.

I get checked out all the time. (not just being narccisitic...it's true)

So what? I ain't completely hideous. I accept it as a compliment that a woman would keep on looking. I smile and use my Barry White voice. "Good afternoon"

I also let women catch me looking at them with a smile on my face...nod a greeting...then be on my way... The unspoken message is "DAMN! YOU ARE FINE!!!"

I consider it to be pleasant and harmless social interaction that always makes people feel good about themselves.

If the problem is that someone thinks you are worth looking at twice...ya get no pity from me.

:)

To me some stares are totally flattering, especially if it's followed by a smile (by me or/and him), greeting, or conversation.

Some stares that go on for too long is not pleasant at all. In one of many instances I was leaving my house to get in to my car and the guy who was painting my downstairs neighbors window stopped his work and just stared at me. I said hi and he didn't respond back. I said hi again and nothing. I went in my car and saw he was still staring. I got out of my car and asked him if he needed something and he said no and went inside my neighbors house and shut the door.

I guess my point is that stares can be flattering but also intimidating when it is done so bluntly. It can make people feel as if something is being done to them when in fact it could be a positive experience.

Agreed...a couple of weeks ago my best friend and her girlfriend bought a couple of wigs and asked me to go out bar hopping with them. The dudes were slobbering all over them even though they were completely ignoring the guys..... the dudes kept brushing up against them...sitting too close...flat out propositioning them. I just claimed em both as "Those are mine"..which got me gobs of respect from the dudes and the gratitude of my woman friends who were ignoring the horny dogs.

The fact remains...a good looking woman is gonna get checked out. Ain't a damned thing you can do about it short of shaving your head, wearing a Burkha and moving to a monestary in Tibet.

I never get checked out and I don't check out. Man! What a boring life.

Hey! What's wrong with chicks with shaved heads?

This happens a lot, but I don't stress over it. It's out of my control. So they can look all they want.

Change that Bro! What could it hurt?!?!?!

Put on the nicest clothes you got and step out groomed to the Nines. It don't matter if you are just going for a loaf of bread...put on your best...look every woman in the eye for a moment with an honest smile on your face. Say please and thank you as you give em your best smile. Hell, get crazy and hold the door open and say "You are quite welcome"

You got one life. Don't settle for boring man. Your life ain't over with yet!!!

I use an invisibility spell so they can't see me.

Lex? You are a street walker? hummmm...I had no clue. I will probably forever picture you in daisy dukes with a tube top and the chrome shades and ball cap.

I would be looking twice....then feel dirty about it.

hehehehehehe

FAIL!!!!!

I woulda been macking on you for a long time if only I had known what a hot lil bisquit you are.

You're silly.
You could just wear dark glasses.
Everyone knows peeps are invisible
behind them.

soufiehere & ujGearhead I like your carefree outlook. I guess growing up in the middle east where (back than) women were not equals to men and they were objectified, getting whistled at etc... I probably developed some defenses.

klc that’s perfect. I do the same. :)

krupa, that’s a great story. You’re a hero, man. That was a nice thing to do. I agree with you, mostly, except I think staring someone to the bone forever is not a social interaction.

Thanks a lot for giving away my secret spell!!!

That's not really me in the picture. I'll post a real pic. Hold on.

Can I have the recipe for that spell?

I took this picture after getting ready for my big date with ManO. He still hasn't picked me up.