I totally agree, but the larger society frown at it, don't they?

Why's it that most women see it more of a taboo to date a younger man? One thing i've noticed is that most of these women don't have a cogent reason but they tend to follow the norm of the society. I've bot seen it anywhere or written in a book that the man must be older than the woman in a relationship. So, how young of a man can you date? Afterall nobody complains if an 80years old man marries a 20 years old lady.

I had a hard time reading your response as with my old age; the eyes are going Had to actually get out of my rocking chair to see it.

ya I mentioned somewhere on here that I need a calculus tutor to figure out my age...

Hey, you want to do a wheel chair race with me at the old folks home?

Me, when I look at a younger guy; I feel more like his mommy. I also found I have nothing in common with a younger man. The guys that are attracted to me are in their 20s to 30s. So having 20/30 years of living over them would make it hard to have any type of relationship. I think younger guys just want an older woman for sex and nothing else.

Perhaps...but I will NOT date anyone NEAR my oldest son's age...and he's 38!!!!

And who says that if a man is in ur age range, he's not looking for sex either? Not all younger guys are after older women for sex. We're not all the same.


Will u also feel like his mom or because u have a son in his age range, u should deprive urself of a good relationship? Afterall he's not ur son, so what's the big deal.

Why's it that most women see it more of a taboo to date a younger man? One thing i've noticed is that most of these women don't have a cogent reason but they tend to follow the norm of the society. I've bot seen it anywhere or written in a book that the man must be older than the woman in a relationship. So, how young of a man can you date? Afterall nobody complains if an 80years old man marries a 20 years old lady.

Honestly for me its probably a vanity thing.

I dont want people thinking that my man is my son, I dont want to look in the mirror and see an old lady and have a young man beside me, I would be way to insecure for that...

Plus I like someone sensible enough to balance me out.

So I would stick with older men as then I feel safer.

And who says that if a man is in ur age range, he's not looking for sex either? Not all younger guys are after older women for sex. We're not all the same.


Will u also feel like his mom or because u have a son in his age range, u should deprive urself of a good relationship? Afterall he's not ur son, so what's the big deal.

But what the "larger society" thinks, in reality, only has an impact on you if you allow it to do so.

My parents were 20 years apart and the happiest couple until my fathers last breath. They did deal with a lot of "opinions" from others, however, they loved each other and nothing else mattered. Age is no obstacle in my opinion. I seen the best examples up front and personal. If your heart is in the right place..nothing else matters.

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that I seldom date much younger has more to do with the motives and intentions of younger men not being compatible with my own - it has nothing to do with what society thinks. If I found a younger man who had attitudes and intentions similar to my own and he wanted to date me - i might

Well if I wasnt looking to get some. I wouldnt be looking. I perfer younger women. But i'm going to get in where I fit in.

My parents were 20 years apart and the happiest couple until my fathers last breath. They did deal with a lot of "opinions" from others, however, they loved each other and nothing else mattered. Age is no obstacle in my opinion. I seen the best examples up front and personal. If your heart is in the right place..nothing else matters.

Some people say preference, some say compatibility, others are saying the intentions, someone said family values - they wouldn't want to break their family because of their own choice and decision. But you just brought in a good example from your parent and it worked. Nothing like I don't wanna go 20years back or make someone skip their journey for me, or date someone in my son's age range or peer. I respect other peoples opinion but what about the feelings of the heart? Someone might say there are millions of people out there and you can always get someone in your own range, i still take my stand that sometime we wanna do something and still look at what others would say about it(i mean in this context). Is it really an unrealistic fantasy i.e. Dating a younger person could make you feel you're still young? What about the seniors? Because age difference doesn't happen with the lower age range alone, what of 50/70, 60/80, 45/55, etc

I think, generally, as people get older the experiences come closer together

It would work much better for me to date someone in their thirties when I was in my twenties, because we probably would still have emotional and intellectual compatibility

or someone in their fifties now that I am in my forties


It would not work as well for me at forty to be with someone in their twenties, because we are much less likely to have emotional or intellectual compatibility


I really dont care what others say, it doesnt factor in at all, Im just honest about what I want for myself and my kids and its not another kid in the home, its a man who can be head of a household and who has some experience and sense of responsibility that goes along with that role,,,and who my kids could respect as such