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Like others have said, it's all about preference. Even a 10 year age difference would be pushing it for me. I totally agree, but the larger society frown at it, don't they? |
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Well matey, i have the hots for two guys in bands, who are at least 37 or older. I can't remember their exact ages. lol. So as far as age is concerned, it isn't always an issue with EVERYONE. |
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It's not society - it's nature. Women mature sexually, socially and
emotionally faster than men in general. So younger men simply do not have the same life experience, emotional, social and sexual maturity for most women. So, generally speaking of course, smart and sexually charged women find older men attractive matching them better in so many vital ways. I can't help it. Don't hate. It's just not my fault!  |
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For me it depends on if we are just friends or romantic. I will date anyone if it is for friendship, hanging out together. I cannot see me becoming romantically involved with someone less than 45.I feel most comfortable in the 50's for romance. I bet you know what you want already to be romantic |
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there are quite a few cogent reasons if you read the threads on the topic that are already on here but younger is not a complete disqualifier I have dated younger men but have found that it takes a certain amount of life experience to not take someone and some things for granted. at least this is my impression so far - no substitute for experience I don't rule out the chance, however, that a younger man might have more mature qualities than the ones I have date thus far it's best, I think, to leave things open Yes there have been cogent reasons from real live experiences which i really appreciate people that have shared. Medical reseachers at the University of Maryland came out with a report at a time that there's a portion of the human brain that doen't develop until a human is 25yrs old |
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It's not society - it's nature. Women mature sexually, socially and emotionally faster than men in general. So younger men simply do not have the same life experience, emotional, social and sexual maturity for most women. So, generally speaking of course, smart and sexually charged women find older men attractive matching them better in so many vital ways. I can't help it. Don't hate. It's just not my fault! while I agree with much of what you say, I do know that older women and younger men can be quite compatible in terms of personality and sexuality. As an older woman I have a more relaxed attitude about most things that appeals to some of the younger guys, and women peak sexually, just as men begin to wane as some kind of cruel joke played on us by mother nature. But I also agree that over time the maturity stuff can factor in. If such things as maturity and selfishness weren't factors, you'd see more may/december relationships (not just FWB) where the woman is older, I think just a thought - I am sure I am generalizing a little, but in general I think this is the case - tho happy exceptions do exist (can anyone say "krupa")
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For me there is a valid reason for not dating a guy more than 10 years older or younger...we are at complete different places in life, and have different goals, and are probably looking for different things at this point. I am no longer interested in starting a family. I am looking for a serious relationship, not a fling. Sharing similar interests and maturity level is important as well. There are cogent reasons, and my ability to discern what a man is looking for has nothing to do with society taboos. Sublime444 are you saying if this person share the same interest and maturity level with you but he's in his 30s, will you turn him down? And you've decerned that he's not a fling and not playing games |
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there are quite a few cogent reasons if you read the threads on the topic that are already on here but younger is not a complete disqualifier I have dated younger men but have found that it takes a certain amount of life experience to not take someone and some things for granted. at least this is my impression so far - no substitute for experience I don't rule out the chance, however, that a younger man might have more mature qualities than the ones I have date thus far it's best, I think, to leave things open Yes there have been cogent reasons from real live experiences which i really appreciate people that have shared. Medical reseachers at the University of Maryland came out with a report at a time that there's a portion of the human brain that doen't develop until a human is 25yrs old the human brain will remain a mystery, I trust, for many more decades to come. I find it more useful in answering your topic to focus on the actual experiences people have had. One thing that I do like about the fellas, on here anyway, is that they seem honest in their intentions - rather than lie about wanting anything substantial they will come out and say that they are just in it for the sexual experience - which is good because we know that anyway |
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Well matey, i have the hots for two guys in bands, who are at least 37 or older. I can't remember their exact ages. lol. So as far as age is concerned, it isn't always an issue with EVERYONE. Okay, but do you subscribe to the 10years rule? How old and young can you date? |
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It's not society - it's nature. Women mature sexually, socially and emotionally faster than men in general. So younger men simply do not have the same life experience, emotional, social and sexual maturity for most women. So, generally speaking of course, smart and sexually charged women find older men attractive matching them better in so many vital ways. I can't help it. Don't hate. It's just not my fault! 
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It's not society - it's nature. Women mature sexually, socially and emotionally faster than men in general. So younger men simply do not have the same life experience, emotional, social and sexual maturity for most women. So, generally speaking of course, smart and sexually charged women find older men attractive matching them better in so many vital ways. I can't help it. Don't hate. It's just not my fault! Waow, you've just brought in another perception when you talked about nature, i totally agree with you. But i've shared from some younger men who date older woman that they're addicted to them and tend to enjoy their company due to their experiences and motherly nature, and are even more romantic than younger women. Let me throw this, are older men more romantic and sexually active than younger men? |
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For me there is a valid reason for not dating a guy more than 10 years older or younger...we are at complete different places in life, and have different goals, and are probably looking for different things at this point. I am no longer interested in starting a family. I am looking for a serious relationship, not a fling. Sharing similar interests and maturity level is important as well. There are cogent reasons, and my ability to discern what a man is looking for has nothing to do with society taboos. Sublime444 are you saying if this person share the same interest and maturity level with you but he's in his 30s, will you turn him down? And you've decerned that he's not a fling and not playing games |
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It's not society - it's nature. Women mature sexually, socially and emotionally faster than men in general. So younger men simply do not have the same life experience, emotional, social and sexual maturity for most women. So, generally speaking of course, smart and sexually charged women find older men attractive matching them better in so many vital ways. I can't help it. Don't hate. It's just not my fault! Waow, you've just brought in another perception when you talked about nature, i totally agree with you. But i've shared from some younger men who date older woman that they're addicted to them and tend to enjoy their company due to their experiences and motherly nature, and are even more romantic than younger women. Let me throw this, are older men more romantic and sexually active than younger men? |
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I have actually dated several men in their 30s. Their maturity level and way we view things in general, were too different. I respect your suggestions because they're from life experiences but that shouldn't mean all young men are like those you've dated |
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the human brain will remain a mystery, I trust, for many more decades to come. I find it more useful in answering your topic to focus on the actual experiences people have had. One thing that I do like about the fellas, on here anyway, is that they seem honest in their intentions - rather than lie about wanting anything substantial they will come out and say that they are just in it for the sexual experience - which is good because we know that anyway I know a good relationship is not just about sex but nobody is talking about the importance of a good sex or the deterrence of a bad sex in a relationship, i'm just saying though |
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It's not society - it's nature. Women mature sexually, socially and emotionally faster than men in general. So younger men simply do not have the same life experience, emotional, social and sexual maturity for most women. So, generally speaking of course, smart and sexually charged women find older men attractive matching them better in so many vital ways. I can't help it. Don't hate. It's just not my fault! while I agree with much of what you say, I do know that older women and younger men can be quite compatible in terms of personality and sexuality. As an older woman I have a more relaxed attitude about most things that appeals to some of the younger guys, and women peak sexually, just as men begin to wane as some kind of cruel joke played on us by mother nature. But I also agree that over time the maturity stuff can factor in. If such things as maturity and selfishness weren't factors, you'd see more may/december relationships (not just FWB) where the woman is older, I think just a thought - I am sure I am generalizing a little, but in general I think this is the case - tho happy exceptions do exist (can anyone say "krupa") Well I agree with this as well. Some of us are just more mature at a younger age. When I was 22 my gf was 30 - but our age difference was the least of our outrage! It was shocking - but had nothing to do with age difference! |
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It's not society - it's nature. Women mature sexually, socially and emotionally faster than men in general. So younger men simply do not have the same life experience, emotional, social and sexual maturity for most women. So, generally speaking of course, smart and sexually charged women find older men attractive matching them better in so many vital ways. I can't help it. Don't hate. It's just not my fault! while I agree with much of what you say, I do know that older women and younger men can be quite compatible in terms of personality and sexuality. As an older woman I have a more relaxed attitude about most things that appeals to some of the younger guys, and women peak sexually, just as men begin to wane as some kind of cruel joke played on us by mother nature. But I also agree that over time the maturity stuff can factor in. If such things as maturity and selfishness weren't factors, you'd see more may/december relationships (not just FWB) where the woman is older, I think just a thought - I am sure I am generalizing a little, but in general I think this is the case - tho happy exceptions do exist (can anyone say "krupa") Well I agree with this as well. Some of us are just more mature at a younger age. When I was 22 my gf was 30 - but our age difference was the least of our outrage! It was shocking - but had nothing to do with age difference! yes and as a female where the expectation is one of maturity at an earlier age I was more the type who was socially and intellectually intelligent in many ways but definitely not as emotionally or psychologically mature as my female peers at least in my teens & 20s, I think this true In some ways it may still be true. and as for your 30 yo GF - who was outraged? I'd say that was their problem 
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Well I agree with this as well. Some of us are just more mature at a younger age. When I was 22 my gf was 30 - but our age difference was the least of our outrage! It was shocking - but had nothing to do with age difference! Yes age shouldn't just be a factor in choosing a partner. I don't mind dating an older lady, this has never been a factor for me, but it seems the women look out for that, smh |
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Ybcat1 of course they have to be similarities in goals and future plans, and like some have already said it's all about preference. And not all younger men are looking for sugar mama or cougar. You said in your 40s you never bothered about the age difference if it was legal, so why the sudden change in preference? Or are you saying there are no 20yrs your junior that might be willing to grow gracefully with you? You are right, and I didn't mean to imply that all younger men are looking for a sugar mama. I believe it is a fact that women do mature faster than men and when I was in my forties it was just for fun. Most younger men aren't thinking about being a husband and ready make father when they just barely left the den themselves. It can work, not saying it can't but just like any relationship you had better be able to address it's issue as well. As for me, no I want a man close to my age so we can watch each other grow old and wrinkle at the same speed. Just two old farts loving each other.  |
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Like others have said, it's all about preference. Even a 10 year age difference would be pushing it for me. I totally agree, but the larger society frown at it, don't they? We don't frown on it, you're not understanding the opinions given here. Any man who chooses to date an older woman that's their business. Some are just saying because of the issues that can arise and what their preference is they choose not to, it's no biggie. |
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