Being new to this site my experience was quiet surprising. Now i can clearly understand why some of the men that sent emails asked direct questions like: What do I want? Why am I here for? Am I only up for fun? on and on and on? I felt like being interrogated for a crime I am not aware of.

I don't blame people who had bad experiences would rather comment negatively and suspected everyone in the site are just one and the same apple. But having this kind of mindset will not find a person happiness; carrying an extra baggage around will lose one’s sense of direction and objective – if that is to find the right person for you, nope it is not going to happen.


Personally, one night stand will not be appealing if you are searching for serious/honest people for a good and long term relationship. Setting a time frame in a relationship is totally a bad move, like a ticking time bomb waiting to explode; it’s like setting a time limit and boundaries of how far your love can go. And after a while, you just say, Ok I am done! Indeed very childish. I know, it is easier said than done, but, relationship is a plain and simple set of rules, agreement, and expectations lay on the table where both of you will concur. Most likely the aftermath of these rules will either make or break your relationship. Honeymoon stage is a normal process: keeping love alive and kicking will be realized only, through lover’s mutual effort. If it didn't work, Move on, like a real gentleman. (Pardon, it is quiet long)

I prefer divorce to suicide. I know suicide is a quicker fix and not near as messy but suicide is a permanent fix. And with divorce you have the option to change your mind. I know that committing Hari Kari is honorable. But still I think there is a thing as a honorable divorce. Nolo Contendre, I think that is one Latin word I will always remember.

I'd be down for that. I don't put much stock in LTR, people come and go and that's life.

I'd only add the clause: If after the 3 months we both would like to continue seeing each other, the agreement then goes to a month-to-month basis.

Rarely is someone completely open about their problems in a relationship and those problems usually turn to resentment over time. When someone is completely open about their problems it's usually just looked at as constant b*tching. Lose, Lose.

I don't shoot down the idea of LTRs because with the right person it could be a good thing. I just never go into it thinking about long term.

w0m4n:

Everyone wants different things for different reasons. Each person is different.

Some people feel that a temporary relationship is immature or childish. I don't feel that at all. In fact I feel that it would take very mature people to successfully do that.

You can love, enjoy, care about and have great fun with a person for a short time (what ever you consider to be short) and part friends taking with you nice memories. Maybe you can get together again sometime.

I don't think we need to possess or "own" each other to have happy or successful relationships.


RainbowTrout: I seriously think that thoughts of divorce or suicide have been considered by some people. Then there is always murder. That has also been done.

These are drastic measures that an agreement to have a temporary relationship would solve.

No person is worth throwing your life away on (suicide) or committing murder for. Divorce is something I would highly recommend over the two latter choices.

lookin4home

I agree that an agreement to have a temporary relationship would work well for some people.

Just think of the absence of all that pressure.

I don't take direct t.v. because I don't like long term contracts with conditions that increase the cost of your monthly bill in the future. Then you have to pay $200.00 to get out of the contract.

Marriage is a lot like that. It costs to get into it, and it costs a lot more to get out of it.

I wouldn't say end it, I'd say remain in touch and such just don't push it either way if you're not gonna stick to the rules what ever they might be...

What would be the point of remaining in touch? What constitutes remaining in touch? A birthday card once a year, or a call twice a week?

Short term relationship = SLUT

Been there and done it. Sugar coat it any way you like. in the end it still comes out to "SLUT"

I used to be the slut...so I know that scent.

Ever here of friendship?

The term 'SLUT' does not come near or hold a candle to the term "relationship."

I'm talking about relationship, friendship, etc.

Not about racking up sexual memoirs.

To judge the nature of a relationship by the length of it is silly.

Yeah...

Friendship is permanent.

The only short term temporary thing I can think of using a human for is a slut.
what do you use people for?

Friendship is not always permanent, sorry.

An agreed upon monogamous relationship that is not "until death we both part" does NOT equal "slut."

For me...a degree of love is permanent.

If a friend choses to f**k it up...then the fault lies with them.

If I am allowed to love them without them being retarded...then, that love is permanent.

Many of my old friends can back up this statement.

When people get stupid....they get treated like they deserve.

If a short term relationship = SLUT then 95% of all relationships involve sluts.

Relationships seldom last until death.

So true.

My best friend stabbed me in the back. (Figuratively speaking.) I guess she was not really as good a friend as I thought.

I was a good friend. She lost a good friend. Me, I don't know what I lost. Someone I thought was my friend.

i agree with you on that assesment

So its there....!!many people are preffering "LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP" w/o actual marriage....isnt that the same??

Not quite. A live in relationship is too close to marriage, and in fact, it is considered marriage in some states.

Unless of course you are only roommates sharing expenses. If that is the case you should probably have a contract to that effect just in case you are the opposite sex and the State (or your roommate) decides to define you as being married.

Well I guess according to you Krupa-I would be a slut in your eyes. I love the person I was with and he loves me. We still talk, hang out doing stuff-no sex, have mutual friends and will always be in each other's lives. We care what happens to each other and know we will have some kind of connection. We will remain friends because we choose to and want the best for each other.

Didn't view you as someone so shortsided. To each his own. I have lots of friends and some enemies. Slut is never a term that's been applied to me. This touched a nerve in you somewhere. I guess I'm more open minded than some on this site.

I agree. I don't like the term "slut" being applied to a short term monogamous relationship.

I see the term describing someone who is glutenous for orgasmic experiences and will not remain monogamous.