I was married for 8 yrs and been single for 2 now.

(Got divorce because my ex was cheating.)



I find it easy to get dates but can't seem to commit to a LTR Its always in the back of my mind that they will cheat.

So how do someone get over it?

well not all will cheat an you just will know u just need to follow what inside of you once u know then it will be ok. it is hard to trust again but when the time is right it will happen

forgiveness

when you find the one who's not only your lover but your best friend it will come easy to trust because the fondation of friendship and love will be different then what you had with your ex and you'll be able to see the differents and feel it too.

Best not to get seriously involved until you are over that notion.

It is not fair to hold the new person responsible for the old persons sins.

Women are guilty of this also.

It just shows that you still need to work on yourself.

We trust because we choose to. It is never the other person's responsible to "help" us to trust. If we do not do it, it is our problem to fix it.

Don't commit to a LTR. Don't try to take possession of someone else.
Don't be so possessive. If they cheat, they cheat. If you don't like it, then tell them its over.

If two people want to commit to each other they will. If they won't, they won't. Don't let things like that consume you and deprive you of the experience of love. Don't be so afraid.

THIS. I think its so easy in modern 'dating' culture to bypass building friendships and go straight for the goal of having a romance. Its always been what I 'regret' the most. And I always say I will fall in love with my best friend if I ever get a chance to meet them and be their best friend as well.

just appreciate the friendships more, maybe one will blossom into a love of a lifetime,,,

YEP! That. Stop playing the game. Find a friend for life.

Dragoness said it all..It begins and ends with YOU..

First of all you have got to stop seeing every woman as you ex. You have to give that person a chance to prove to you who they are without those thoughts of them. My father cheated on my mom several times, and she held that hurt in until this day. She was never truly happy with any man she was with after my father because she saw all men as users and cheaters.

My first and only husband cheated on me. It was a hurt that took 4 years to get over. We can't say what others will do are not do. People are human. I didn't want to live like my mom, bitter and not trusting. I'll still take a chance to find true love any day. Good luck to you.

First, you have to learn to remember that no two individuals are very much the same. Your ex's actions cannot necessarily be your current girl's actions.

Next, remember to trust in yourself. Trust that you are now the right person for your chosen girl.

Then, live life to the fullest. As if no bitter past has ever occurred.

Good luck

You'll have to figure out a way to realize that not all women are like your ex. That's something you need to work on for yourself before you get into dating.

Have fun dating. Be friendly with your friends. Are you going through the empty nest syndrome? Do you feel you should be in a long term relationship? Are you willing to give up being single? Do you enjoy being alone at some times and not alone at others? Do you have trouble trusting yourself? Do you feel you should be in a commitment? Kudos on the two years. Do you miss being in a relationship once in a while or all the time? I know I am just full of questions.

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You need to work on clearing your mind of that notion before you try dating again.
Trust me you can get past it. I've been cheated on a few times with 2 ex husbands. You just have to learn to take the new person for who they are. They are not your ex. There are lots of people who would NEVER cheat. You have lived through it,you know the signs now. You have to learn to trust again.
Good Luck

it's your ex wife that cheated,not your new girl. Im not a cheater and you can create a wonderful relationship with some one,once you give them a fair chance and not judging them wrongly.trust is important in a relation,living in doubt and fear thathey might cheat destroy relationships. Try to be the guy thathey would never wanto cheat on,dont give them reason to find interest in some1 els. B there for your partner and she wont leave you.

May I point out one thing? I DO NOT agree with the statement:
"Try to be the guy thathey would never wanto cheat on,dont give them reason to find interest in some1 els. B there for your partner and she wont leave you."
Some people are just cheaters. I personally have lived through this more times than I care to admit. Alot of times it has nothing to do with the partner, but with the cheater themselves. I gave my exes my all and was completely honest and faithful. And yet they still had some deficiency that they cheated.

You have been stung, its normal you will hesitate. Just give yourself time to deal with the thoughts and emotions inside. Just keep getting back on the horse (as it were)

Some people will cheat. That does not mean that everyone does, and it does not mean you should live in fear that they will.

Its not so much the cheating that is wrong, its the lying. If you agree to remain faithful to each other and then you don't, and they you lie about it.... that's bad.

Especially because the lying cheat still demands and expects the partner to keep her/his word and not cheat!

Not fair!!

So if you catch your spouse cheating, either give them their walking papers or tell him or her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

In my last (recently ended) relationship my love was also my best friend. He tore my heart out just the same. Made his choices about life not love. Trust will be a long time coming back for me.

You have two years into being single. Trust your self, take it slowly, it will happen for you with someone who will never put you through that again. Good luck and best wishes.

beat them to it?


srsly, u can't worry about it - talk about it and just tell them to tell u if they want someone else & end things 1st