Community > Dating & Relationships

Topic: Beauty or Brains?
LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 08/08/11 11:52 AM
People DO become more attractive as you learn to know them i'm wondering how many men would honestly agree with this statement. then again some would probably call me shallow, so maybe i'm the anomaly. It does happen, though. My last gf was totally outside my normal "physical-type-attraction" parameters, but she was just so intelligent, so creative, that she made herself more and more attractive to me just by being herself. As a sideline, I now find myself unintentionally attracted to people with her kind of "look"....it's like I added a whole new "type" into my preferences list....

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/08/11 12:58 PM
People DO become more attractive as you learn to know them i'm wondering how many men would honestly agree with this statement. then again some would probably call me shallow, so maybe i'm the anomaly. people DO become ugly as you learn to know them this one however, i do agree with. . . . You've made it very clear here many times what you do and don't find attractive. But, just because someone may not become more attractive to you over time, doesn't mean it won't happen to others.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 08/08/11 06:26 PM
Can she make a mean lasagne? Cause if so, I am in lust.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Mon 08/08/11 06:29 PM
If I had to make a choice between brains or beauty, I would have to go with brains. It is amazing how much more attractive someone becomes when I can have an intellectual conversation with him and really respect who he is. Part of attraction is the chemistry between two people. Lust will fade if there is nothing else to keep me intrigued. Ditto.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Mon 08/08/11 06:32 PM
i'm wondering how many men would honestly agree with this statement. then again some would probably call me shallow, so maybe i'm the anomaly. Yes, you are definitely shallow. At least from what I've seen. No offense intended.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 08/08/11 06:45 PM
i'm wondering how many men would honestly agree with this statement. then again some would probably call me shallow, so maybe i'm the anomaly. Yes, you are definitely shallow. At least from what I've seen. No offense intended. Hmmmmm. Now tell us how you really feel?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Mon 08/08/11 07:15 PM
i'm wondering how many men would honestly agree with this statement. then again some would probably call me shallow, so maybe i'm the anomaly. Yes, you are definitely shallow. At least from what I've seen. No offense intended. Hmmmmm. Now tell us how you really feel? He said it first.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 08/08/11 07:17 PM
Can she make a mean lasagne? Cause if so, I am in lust. get over here my lasagne wants to spank ur butt

Nicolesnooki Joined Sat 02/19/11 Posts: 4952	Mon 08/08/11 07:41 PM
I'd say both but gun to my head i'd say beauty

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 08/08/11 07:57 PM
ya I am shallow - same here Nicole

Troublebug Joined Sat 09/11/10 Posts: 10911	Mon 08/08/11 08:28 PM
Ladies and gentlemen. Would you choose beauty or brains. If he or she wasn't the brightest star, but had the looks and body that made you weak verses someone who wasn't so nice looking but had everything you were looking for in a relationship which would you choose to be with and why? Be honest now. I guess I'd have to say brains. But I'm sorry if he's Quasimodo. I don;t care how brilliant he is-- no deal. There has to be some kind of physical attraction too. But if all beauty and nor brains or personality. I couldn;t go there.

Troublebug Joined Sat 09/11/10 Posts: 10911	Mon 08/08/11 08:31 PM
Can she make a mean lasagne? Cause if so, I am in lust. How about a happy lasagna? Goof should we start calling you garfield?

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Mon 08/08/11 08:44 PM
Beauty and Brains both disappear with age. I'll go with "nice".

chelsea466 Joined Tue 05/11/10 Posts: 5078	Mon 08/08/11 09:27 PM
Brains - I have a hard time tolerating idiots. Just being honest.

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Mon 08/08/11 09:39 PM
A beautiful psyche for me. Where they think positively, enjoy life, understand that everyone has a different path in life and it is not their job to make judgement of it, etc... I guess it would be a beautiful heart too because without heart a person cannot show others love and respect. I haven't ever liked pretty boys. They are fussier than girls about their figure and hair and such

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 08/08/11 09:57 PM
Ok, let me throw this at you. Those who chose beautiful. Your telling me that if something happened to their looks their out the door? Beauty certainly has to go deeper than appearance. Brains. So if something happens to their thought process, your done? I see some of these answers as being a little selfish folks.

ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Mon 08/08/11 10:54 PM
Can she make a mean lasagne? Cause if so, I am in lust. get over here my lasagne wants to spank ur butt

ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Mon 08/08/11 11:25 PM
Ok, let me throw this at you. Those who chose beautiful. Your telling me that if something happened to their looks their out the door? Beauty certainly has to go deeper than appearance. Brains. So if something happens to their thought process, your done? I see some of these answers as being a little selfish folks. It was just a hypothetical question. Guess we would all like to believe that if something happened to someone we love we wouldn't leave their side because of it. Be it looks or brains. I don't expect people to response to a question I ask the way I would. To each his own. It's been interesting read everyone's replies.

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 08/08/11 11:57 PM
Ok, let me throw this at you. Those who chose beautiful. Your telling me that if something happened to their looks their out the door? Beauty certainly has to go deeper than appearance. Brains. So if something happens to their thought process, your done? I see some of these answers as being a little selfish folks. It was just a hypothetical question. Guess we would all like to believe that if something happened to someone we love we wouldn't leave their side because of it. Be it looks or brains. I don't expect people to response to a question I ask the way I would. To each his own. It's been interesting read everyone's replies. I think I know where you were coming from and it was a good question, but I was a little let down by some of the answers I must admit. It almost felt like I was watching Shallow Hal.

exxman Joined Tue 08/02/11 Posts: 468	Tue 08/09/11 09:36 AM
Ok, let me throw this at you. Those who chose beautiful. Your telling me that if something happened to their looks their out the door? Beauty certainly has to go deeper than appearance. Brains. So if something happens to their thought process, your done? I see some of these answers as being a little selfish folks. I like your honesty. Some would see at as an attack, i prefer to view it as you are challenging others to look inside themselves and just be honest. You rock in my book dude. Anyone who understands depth of the heart, or honestly makes effort to better understand it and themselves and more importantly make the right changes for the right reasons, earns my respect. Cheers dude (i'm not much on drinking but i would buy you a beer)