Rusty Its a SHARED wisdom,,,lol,, I possess,,as I have been in about ten to fifteen posts about THIS subject,,and I have a good memory to look back on,,,as each post was more or less a survey ,,,lol of the people on each one,,,and all the ones I gave you were like,,,MOST ACCEPTED by the ladies then,,,so its based more on THEIR LIKES here,,,as to it all being my mind only telling you this,,, Honesty man,,IT NEVER FAILS...lol

much appreciated, my friend

Yep. Honesty is always the best way to go. It's not like they won't find out the truth eventually anyway. That is, if they don't see through the smoke screen of B.S. right from the start.

IF I started telling himallmy bad stories,,,he'd leave and NEVER come back on,,,,,
as tobeing played or messed with by a lady,,,,,YEP,THAT HAPPENS A BUNCH!

and girls say its only us dudes who do that,,,,

Hi Rusty

BTW don't know if your name is Rusty but I have a cousin Rusty and always thought it was cool.

Everyone who comes up on mingle develops a signature, a thumbprint so to speak. The more you post the more the ladies of mingle can pick up on the type of guy you are. It's not a hundred percent accurate but at least they can see your type and style. They will pick up on your sincerity and before to long will reach out to make friends. I recommend that you do the same toward them and before you know it your part (and it seems you already have become) of the family.

So welcome and enjoy the ride.

No, don't write and tell them you've read their profile. Write and comment on something in their profile, showing that you've read it. If something has gotten your interest, comment on it or ask about it. Your question about camping would be good, as it shows you've read her profile and you've given her something to respond to.

So much advice...Is any of it helping?
Here's my 2 cents for what it's worth.

Just be yourself...don't try to impress...don't try to act as if you are someone you're not.

If you're shy..say you're shy..

She'll answer any honest email that you might send.

Good Luck!

E pili mau na pomaika`i ia `oe

May blessings ever be with you-

http://fineartamerica.com/featured/aloha-e-pili-mau-na-pomaikai-ia-oe-sharon-mau.html

See if you like anything about their profile, and then tell them so.

It certainly is helping Vivian. It takes a lot to send that first email, and no matter how nice the person is (whether or not they answer) rejection is not always easy to take.

So advice, *any* advice... is helpful. It can be sorted, sifted, and/or bunched together to give the asker the information needed.



Thanks mg,

A first impression cannot be taken back, and tone inflection and facial expressions are missing from typed words. I've seen people (myself included) hacked to bits over something that was misinterpreted, or taken the wrong way.




That makes sense too singme. Emails I've received just about always say they've read my profile, yet they don't show up on *Viewed Me* lol



So true. I tried to teach my step-daughters that lies invariably *always* come back to *kick u in da butt*

And thanks all of you for the warm welcome. I don't know why I didn't find out about Mingle sooner, but it certainly seems to be a great place to make new friends.

Now if I could just find the corner for the MAA group (Mingle Addicts Anonymous)

mg... it's Victor (although Rusty does sound cool, eh )

From someone who has been here since the end of 2006....

I never got anywhere sending out e-mails. Never even got a single response. And it's not like I wouldn't be able to write a little something interesting or humorous -- I've had six books published, and the seventh will be out by the end of this week -- but I got absolutely nowhere with trying to contact people through e-mails.

So I stopped wasting my time on that, and started posting in the forums. And, after I had become established here, then they started writing to me.

I still won't send out a first e-mail. I've seen where that leads! But people write to me frequently on here, and it's all because of the forums.

I'm ALMOST afraid to know what signature I devoloped.

I wouldn't take email too seriously.
You will never be able to guess all
the reasons for no reply, or
an uninterested one.

Some guys deal in volume, a zillion
outgoing emails may garner you the
1% return rate that regular mail ads
usually collect.

Methinks, whatever you say, say it
with heart, and not an agenda.
Gals can read between the lines.
Trying too hard to be clever or cute
can backfire.

Keep it simple, true, and if you can
inject any humor, it is always
appreciated.

The advice to roam amd participate
in the forums is golden. Seeing who
you really are, may generate emails
coming YOUR way.

I think we can sell you :-)

I'll give a buck $2.95 if you're good at finishing drywall.......

I would pay $3 for window cleaning.

Sounds like good advice to me!

What's the point of pointing out you're shy?

Ok, Ok. I'll go up to $3.23, but for drywall and some work in the garden.

My point was telling them you've read their profile isn't going to do much. Show them you've read it.

There's a feature on here called "stealth mode." If they're using it, they will not show up as viewing your profile even if they have viewed it.